The relationship that has been maintained for more than ten years is still gone.
A person's life, a bunch of bumps. In particular, the love road is more difficult to walk, and it can even make people crazy.
If you don't love, don't hurt. Feelings are no longer there, why bother, even if you get it, it is just a soulless hypocrisy, why bother.
| Qingmei Bamboo Horse finally got married
Zhang Qiangqiang and Li Qingqing were both born in a prefecture-level city in Hunan Province, which can be described as two small unsuspecting young plum bamboo horses.
People's youth stage is like unearthed bamboo shoots, growing rapidly, Zhang Qiangqiang and Li Qingqing went to college, the door of feelings gradually opened.
Because they had already had a secret love affair and were studying at a university, the two naturally came together.
Li Qingqing's family conditions are good, not only in the study of Zhang Qiangqiang a lot of help, but also in life is also carefully taken care of, in the eyes of outsiders, the relationship between the two is very stable.
After graduating from university, Li Qingqing stayed in a local university to teach, while Zhang Qiangqiang came to Zhuhai, Guangdong Province, to seek a job in order to seek a better platform.
Because of some real talents and practical learning, Zhang Qiangqiang found a satisfactory job in Zhuhai, and his family life gradually improved.
Like many college students, starting a career first and then starting a family is the only way in life, because of the gratitude of Li Qingqing's help and feelings for himself, Zhang Qiangqiang opened his mouth to propose marriage to Li Qingqing.
Although the two places are separated, in fact, Li Qingqing has always had a special love for Zhang Qiangqiang and has been looking forward to this day.
However, according to customs and reality, the bride price and the house are still one and the same.
These are not important to the Li family, just a formality, when Li Qingqing also transferred 200,000 yuan to Zhang Qiangqiang to pay the bride price.
On the issue of buying a house, Li Qingqing also helped a lot, so that Zhang Qiangqiang paid a down payment.
Everything Li Qingqing does can be said to be well-intentioned, and she only has one requirement, that is, Zhang Qiangqiang should be good to herself and be single-minded.
In this way, the two finally came together and formed a family, which was really like glue paint and envied others.
Even if Zhang Qiangqiang is in Zhuhai, it is also a book of Hongyan. In addition to work every day, Li Qingqing is waiting for Zhang Qiangqiang's information.
During that time, Li Qingqing felt that she was the happiest woman in the world, constantly looking forward to a better future.
| postpartum depression produces a rift
But marriage and family life is not only full of romance, but also trivial things such as chicken and garlic and chai rice oil and salt.
Li Qingqing, who has been materially rich and spoiled since childhood, has felt the cumbersome and boring of married life after a beautiful period of time.
Coupled with the fact that Zhang Qiangqiang has not been around for a long time, this kind of distress should be understood by everyone.
What makes Li Qingqing speechless the most is that Zhang Qiangqiang listens to his mother everything, and sometimes even argues with Li Qingqing for an opinion.
Li Qingqing is an idealist, and the original face of these lives is so vulgar in her eyes.
She hopes that the original romantic time with Zhang Qiangqiang can last forever, and as a result, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment, which also leads to her becoming more and more impetuous, and even losing her temper at every turn.
Despite this, Zhang Qiangqiang still patiently held Li Qingqing, after all, the feelings between the two were very sincere, even if sometimes it was very depressing between his mother and his wife, but Zhang Qiangqiang chose to endure.
Later, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law could not be reconciled, Li Qingqing quit her job at the university and came to Zhuhai to live with Zhang Qiangqiang.
Li Qingqing does not work, and now Zhang Qiangqiang can also afford to raise her, but after experiencing the baptism of life, the two gradually feel that the taste of marriage is not so delicious.
This feeling, although it did not cause them a rift for the time being, did not have the enthusiasm of the past.
At the urging of both parents, Li Qingqing prepared to get pregnant and eventually gave birth to a baby girl.
Originally, it was a matter of adding people to import and making people happy, but Li Qingqing often lost her temper after giving birth, and sometimes even incomprehensible.
In order to take care of the children, Zhang Qiangqiang also took his mother to Zhuhai, a move that made Li Qingqing even more intolerable, often quarreling with her mother-in-law for family expenses and other trivial matters.
Not only that, Li Qingqing also began to be suspicious of ghosts, and was always uneasy about Zhang Qiangqiang, tracking and stalking Zhang Qiangqiang for a long time, and the relationship between husband and wife gradually weakened.
In fact, Li Qingqing's condition is called depression in medicine, which is caused by long-term depression and is also a psychological disease.
This disease not only requires the guidance and care of family members and society, but also requires me to be able to get out of this psychology.
Zhang Qiangqiang was very knowledgeable, and naturally knew that his wife was suffering from this terrible disease, and he also tried his best to tolerate and bear it, but Li Qingqing misunderstood this tolerance, but instead intensified it.
Due to the increasingly serious illness, once Li Qingqing also drove to Zhang Qiangqiang's unit with her daughter to make trouble. After Zhang Qiangqiang repeatedly dissuaded him, Li Qingqing actually made a crazy move and drove towards Zhang Qiangqiang.
Fortunately, Zhang Qiangqiang dodged in time, li Qingqing's car crashed on the door of the unit, not only broke the gate, but also the daughter in the car was frightened and cried, and fell off the car seat.
This is obviously a rhythm that does not want to go on, after this incident, the emotional rift between the husband and wife is more obvious, and Zhang Qiangqiang proposed a divorce request.
| multiple divorces were rejected
divorce? How incredible is this in Li Qingqing's view, what about the previous flower before the moon under the sea oath mountain alliance?
But in Zhang Qiangqiang's eyes, li Qingqing is no longer the one who is shy and gentle and virtuous, but has evolved into a fierce "female killer".
Fearing that Li Qingqing would suddenly become difficult, Zhang Qiangqiang chose to separate from her and filed a divorce lawsuit with the local court in Hunan.
However, marriage is good, divorce is not so easy, you need to combine a variety of factors, the court will decide divorce.
Because of the actual situation and Li Qingqing's strong insistence, the court held that the two parties did not meet the conditions for divorce for the time being, so they did not allow it.
But Zhang Qiangqiang's divorce this time is undoubtedly the catalyst for the family to fall apart, and because of Li Qingqing's behavior, Zhang Qiangqiang has lost confidence.
The rift could not be repaired, and Zhang Qiangqiang's idea of escaping from his family could not be stopped.
After a year, Zhang Qiangqiang once again filed a divorce lawsuit with the Xiangzhou District Court of Zhuhai City, demanding that the marriage relationship with Li Qingqing be dissolved.
However, after comprehensive consideration, the court once again rejected Zhang Qiangqiang's lawsuit. The reason is that Li Qingqing suffers from long-term unhealed depression and has serious lung disease.
Of course, the court dismissed the lawsuit, and there is also a reason for the court, and at the same time, it wants to save this broken marriage through these means.
However, Zhang Qiangqiang was overwhelmed by the scales and bent on leaving Li Qingqing, and after six months of the second judgment that he was not allowed to divorce, he filed a lawsuit with the court.
This time, can Zhang Qiangqiang successfully divorce?
| peaceful break-up disputes
Our law stipulates that divorce can be divorced by agreement and divorce by litigation.
According to the current situation of Zhang Qiangqiang and Li Qingqing, the basis for divorce by agreement has been completely lost, and naturally only divorce can be litigated.
Litigation divorce is not a one-time judgment, but there are many procedures, and the general court will convene both parties to carry out a mediation after receiving the complaint.
At the same time, both husband and wife will be given a cooling-off period, because the litigation divorce involves interest issues such as property division and child support, and it must not be decided at once, and only by fully grasping the situation can the parties settle the lawsuit and serve the judgment.
If the mediation is unsuccessful, the cooling-off period does not calm down, and the divorce is still insisted on, then the court must make a judgment according to law.
First of all, it depends on whether the couple's feelings are broken, which is the main condition for litigation divorce.
Proof of the breakdown of the couple's feelings is to see whether they are separated, and the second is whether there is still room for both parties.
If the husband and wife have been separated for more than one year and have not fulfilled their duty of support to each other, the relationship between the husband and wife should be judged to be broken.
Many people will say, if one of the spouses is sick or has a disability, if the divorce is granted, is it humane?
This is actually not the main condition of the divorce judgment, nor does it affect the divorce of the husband and wife.
As we all know, what our country pursues is freedom of marriage, that is, there is freedom to marry, there is also freedom to divorce, as long as it is proved that the feelings between husband and wife have indeed broken down, divorce should be granted.
In the division of property, one of the spouses who is sick or disabled may be cared for, but the other spouse cannot be deprived of the right to apply for dissolution of the marriage.
This time, Zhang Qiangqiang filed a divorce appeal and has been separated from Li Qingqing for more than a year, which meets the statutory conditions for granting divorce.
But the problem lies in Li Qingqing's illness, and her attitude in the first two divorces is quite clear, she is unwilling to divorce, if not handled properly, it will cause serious consequences.
Therefore, in the matter of adjudicating the divorce of husband and wife, there is also a certain technical content, not a one-time judgment, but also need to pay attention to social effects.
When Li Qingqing learned that Zhang Qiangqiang had filed for divorce again, although his heart was dead, he was still unwilling, and threatened that if the divorce was decided, he would choose to "die with Zhang Qiangqiang".
A pure and lovely girl has become a hysterical young woman, which cannot help but make people sigh.
Although Li Qingqing has repeatedly put forward the threatening remark that "everyone should not think about it", since Zhang Qiangqiang insists on divorce, he must also take care of Zhang Qiangqiang's actual situation, which is in line with the spirit of the rule of law.
In order to mediate this marriage and family dispute, the judge undertook li Qingqing on the one hand, and on the other hand, he tried to do work for Zhang Qiangqiang as much as possible to meet Li Qingqing's demands in the material aspect.
Through the judge's psychological intervention and affectionate call, Li Qingqing finally returned to normal and agreed to mediate the divorce, but asked her daughter to be raised by herself.
In fact, at this time, Li Qingqing also understands very well that this relationship has been irretrievable, and the most important thing now is his daughter.
Zhang Qiangqiang also felt that he could not be too hasty, and should give Li Qingqing, who had been seriously traumatized physically and mentally, a little time, recalling the scene of you and me in the past, the two could not help but burst into tears.
In the end, Zhang Qiangqiang and Li Qingqing reached a mediation agreement, the daughter was raised by Li Qingqing, and Zhang Qiangqiang paid 3,000 yuan per month for maintenance.
Considering that it is not easy for Li Qingqing to raise her daughter alone, it is also agreed that the maintenance fee will increase by 10% every 5 years until the daughter reaches the age of 20.
In order to make Li Qingqing feel better materially, Zhang Qiangqiang chose to get out of the house and returned the 200,000 yuan of help money that Li Qingqing had transferred to him.
A relationship ends, and a heart is deserted. But many times, the results are self-inflicted, and even if you start from scratch, you can't go back to the original beauty.
I hope that every couple can cherish each other, grind their own character, and most importantly, tolerate, reassure, and love each other, only in this way will the marriage relationship be more lasting and happy. (The characters in the text are pseudonyms, please do not enter the seat)