The teacher said:
This is a letter of proposal
It's relevant to everyone
On December 2, 2020, a student of Nanyang No. 2 Middle School fell to his death from a high altitude, suspected of being a school bully.
On July 22, 2021, the mobile phone was confiscated in class, and the 15-year-old high school sophomore boy jumped to his death.
On August 23, 2021, a 13-year-old girl jumped off a building and died, and her mother questioned whether the homework was too heavy.
On August 27, 2021, a child from Mengjin Kindergarten in Henan Province fell to his death
。
What happened to our children?
This is a young, lively life.
We often say that the body is the capital of the revolution, but do our children understand?
Let's be honest: Do our parents really value their children's safety? Are our schools really putting safety in place? Or is it just a matter of completing the task?
Stay in the green mountains, not afraid of no firewood, not just a line that appears in the TV series.
In a simple sentence, it shows people's reverence and hope for life.
But for life, we can't wait until we lose it to cherish it.
Human life is only once, not NG.
It is human nature to protect the next generation.
In the face of an increasingly severe "living environment", how can we do it to ensure the personal safety of our next generation of flowers?
01
We have to admit that looking at many tragedies, the danger is mostly related to schools.
Either it happens in school or it is related to school teachers.
But what's the reason behind it?
"The high incidence of tragedy is the middle and high school students in adolescence."
If:
The child's adolescent contradictory and sensitive personality is not properly handled
Not doing a good job of understanding and listening
There is no certain control over the child's psychology
This greatly increases the risk of a tragic ending.
This is a must for parents and teachers to cooperate.
Parents have children, and teachers teach and educate.
The common responsibility of the two roles is "education", and "education" is the foundation of family discipline and school teaching.
"Education" is the common responsibility of both parents and teachers!
"Education" = "Education"? or "nurture"?
"Education" is unequal, and it is necessary for the teacher to lead by hand, teach the recipient to do things, and take the teacher as the main body.
And "cultivation" is to follow the good temptation, after the child has his own initial world view and outlook on life, to guide. The first is the recipient, and the teacher plays the role of "cultivating the soil", so the "cultivation" is based on the children of the recipient.
"Nurturing" can be accurately understood as "education" in childhood, but in adolescence it should be understood as "nurturing".
In childhood, how to "educate" children is the top priority, and this main body is the responsibility of parents.
Or is the old saying that parents are the first teachers of children, and they are also the most critical teachers, this is the truth.
02
Peaches, citrus, pears, grapefruit and other fruits are like to eat, which have different tastes and meet people's needs for different vitamins.
But you know what? Fruit trees generally do not bear fruit for the first three years, they are rooted! And even if it's the same variety planted in the same batch.
If the fault of the grower is likely to cause dead seedlings, if the water and nutrients applied are different during the growth period of the small tree, the soil quality of different plots is different, and the quality of the harvested fruit after three years will be different.
Children are the same, "from a young age to see the old" is this truth!
So how do you educate children?
The teacher here gives some advice to the parents:
(1) Bottom-line education, so that children learn what things to never do, not only to cherish life, love health, but also to abide by the bottom line of law and morality.
(2) Interest education, subject learning is not relaxed, interest cultivation is uninterrupted, so that children have their own good interests from an early age, beneficial interests are to learn good lubricants, and cultivate children's all-round growth.
(3) Concentration education, educating children to do something from an early age must have a beginning and an end, and must not give up halfway, which is crucial for the cultivation of children's future learning ability.
(4) Frustration education is not equivalent to deliberately embarrassing children, but allowing children to learn to dare to face difficulties, as well as perseverance after encountering difficulties, reflection after solving problems, and so on.
(5) Self-awareness education, we must let children understand that they are a subject and independent. But the premise of independence is that parents should do a good job of providing a solid backing for their children!
(6) Role model education, this article is written to parents, it is better to do, the power of example is infinite.
There will be resistance in the execution process, so before making a decision, ask more about what you want to do in the first place.
There are fewer quick successes and quick profits, and more earnest and good inducements.
In the eyes of children, everything is slow, and many things are first contact.
Therefore, parents need to be a little more patient, a little more careful, and communicate in a way that children can understand.
03
For the "cultivation" of adolescent children, it is even more important to pay attention to methods.
Adolescence is a transitional period between childhood and adulthood.
It is the second peak period of growth and development in life after infancy.
The World Health Organization (WHO) stipulates that a person's puberty is 10-20 years old.
Puberty is an important period of physical development in a person's life, but it is often defined by most parents and teachers as a "rebellious period".
Talk about "rebellious" discoloration.
Parents panic, children rebel, and there is no contact between them.
A child who was very good in elementary school, with a cheerful and lively personality.
Why is it like changing people in junior high school?
Autism, non-verbalism, irritability, self-righteousness, and love are their labels.
But is labeling fair?
First, the practice of labeling is inherently irrational.
If it is used on children, it is even more wrong.
Because children are the biggest victims!
For the teacher who often spends time with adolescent children, I personally think that adolescent children definitely have advantages over disadvantages.
Here's what an adolescent child looks like in my eyes:
(1) Very brave, slowly learning to be independent.
(2) Active and sensitive thinking, trying to break through the bottleneck of thinking.
(3) Emotional abundance, in learning how to contact the real society.
(4) Willing to express, have personality.
(5) Love beauty and love to play handsome, liberate nature.
(6) Strong sense of justice, willing to dedicate, see righteousness and courage.
So my students and I have a good relationship.
For parents, the same is true, parents and children live in harmony with the example, in fact, in our side, abound.
As a parent, if you look at your child fairly and equally, you will also be a "good person" who is willing to communicate in the eyes of your child, otherwise you may be a "bad guy" in your child's eyes.
Don't think that after puberty has passed, all the immature thoughts of children will naturally transition.
No, it won't! No one to cultivate, no one to guide, no matter how old, their ideas will still be immature, which is why the psychological factors of adolescence are so critical!
This cultivation naturally depends on parents and teachers.
So how to raise adolescent "big children"?
(1) Clarify the bottom line, let the child know the bottom line of the parents, the bottom line of the teacher, the bottom line of the child, including the maintenance of their own safety, the bottom line of law and morality, the bottom line of parents and teachers, etc., and they must have a degree in their hearts that does not exceed the bottom line.
If there are others beyond their own bottom line, you must learn how to deal with it, can not let it go, really not, the teacher is your communication bridge, parents are your eternal protection, because personal safety is always the first.
(2) Give more understanding and respect, adolescent children actually want to be affirmed, in order to prove that they are the one who shines, sometimes they will do some things that look low-level, this time parents and teachers should understand more and communicate more, maybe the child is really encountering something difficult.
(3) Change the mode of getting along with primary school students, explore humorous ways, communicate with children daily like friends, and open the window of communication.
(4) To be a child's role model and lead the child's values, it is undeniable that parents and teachers have seen more than children and have a deeper understanding of things.
(5) Take the child to do life planning, which is what parents must do, for the initial purpose of the child's life, in addition to learning, what kind of ability the child should have, parents can also lead the child, with some decomposition methods for decomposition and auxiliary execution.
(6) Discuss current affairs, which is a specific initiative, but also a good entry point and an executable method, through this communication, to achieve the above 5 purposes.
Of course, for schools, safety precautions must be in place.
However, too many schools have directly sealed the corridors and corridors, but they still cannot prevent the occurrence of tragedies.
This is the tragedy of the family, but also the tragedy of education.
Only parents (families) and teachers (schools) work together to grasp the psychological construction of students.
Only then can tragedies be avoided from the root causes.
There is more communication, less misunderstanding, and fewer incidents with serious consequences due to misunderstandings.
More understanding, fewer mistakes, fewer incidents of serious consequences for making mistakes.
Tragedy after tragedy is still unfolding.
Everyone has to act
Reject campus violence and increase student rights protection channels!
Reject the incident of light life!
Keep an eye on it...