The article | a slight blue time
The image | from stills from "The Perfect Partner"
The type of emotion | marriage/mother-in-law
Between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, this is a difficult problem for eternity, and since ancient times, there has been no optimal solution. We have heard of and seen the cruel mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there are not a few.
How to let these two creatures coexist peacefully, without causing trouble, without being a demon, without being a moth. Its difficulty is second only to gongdou.
In "Perfect Partner", Sun Lei's mother and Chen Shan's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are already models of harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Even so, it can still be seen by the melon eating masses with all kinds of uncomfortable feelings.
Pamper your son, whether he's four or forty
In the early plot, the couple of Chen Shan and Sun Lei has always been the male protagonist and the female protagonist.
Sun Lei works in a state-owned enterprise, and is also responsible for taking care of her daughter's life, transporting her to school, responsible for her daughter's homework and accompanying her daughter to grow up.
At the same time, Chen Shan bore most of the family's financial pressure. Working overtime and staying up late is already commonplace, and even tired yourself to cervical spine heart disease.
Even so, when the mother-in-law came to the house. I still feel from the bottom of my heart, how hard my son is, and I feel pain when I look at it.
From an outsider's point of view, Sun Lei's work intensity is relatively small compared to Chen Shan's high-pressure and high-intensity work.
Later, when sun lei and Chen Shan's family roles were reversed.
Because Chen Shan was pregnant with her second child, she had to suspend her work and stay at home to raise a baby. Instead, Sun Lei went out to work hard in the workplace to defend the family's economic strength.
Chen Shan's mother-in-law is all distressed about her son, distressed that her son was born prematurely, her health is not good, she can't stay up late, and she has to go out to work hard at the age of 40.
But I never thought that for so many years, how many days and nights, my daughter-in-law was dressed for food and clothing, desperately trying to make money to support her family.
Daughters-in-law are always outsiders
When the son and the daughter-in-law have a good relationship, everyone closes the door and is a family. However, as soon as there is any contradiction between the two, the daughter-in-law immediately becomes an outsider.
At this time, the vast majority of mothers-in-law will only turn to their sons.
During the period when Chen Shan was pregnant with her second child, because of some work consultations, she went out to meet with Lin Qingkun of Party A, and was seen by her mother-in-law who did not know the cause and effect
Not believing in his daughter-in-law's sense of proportion, he ran to his son, who was injured by the accident, to file a complaint. Causing the son and daughter-in-law to quarrel, he ran to the house to persuade him.
Every word is blaming the daughter-in-law for not understanding things and not hurting her husband. He looked like he was going to share the enemy with his son and deal with outsiders.
But as soon as she heard that her daughter-in-law was pregnant with her second child, she immediately changed her face and smiled into a flower, understanding that this was her grandson's mother.
When Sun Lei was around, there appeared a foundation box that did not know which woman. The mother-in-law's attitude changed again, and she would not rebuke her son.
Instead, she ran to her suspect Wu Min and asked others to stay away from her son.
Presumably, in the eyes of a mother, her children can't be wrong anyway.
In her spare time, Chen Shan was called back by her father-in-law to help her solve the problem, and she drove back in the boss's car.
Sun Lei was jealous after seeing it, and in front of his parents, he got angry with Chen Shan.
Chen Shan's mother-in-law, who was sitting in the car, was also reluctant to get out of the car to persuade her to fight. I will only feel that the daughter-in-law is not home for a month, and it is Sun Lei who is taking care of the family. How hard it is, the mother is distressed to see it, let the son get angry, let's be angry.
You see, in front of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is always an outsider. Hello when it's okay Hello I'm good to everyone, and when anything happens, they will not hesitate to side with their sons.
Don't treat your mother-in-law as a mother-in-law
As a daughter-in-law, one thing that you must always recognize is that you should never treat your mother-in-law as a mother.
You can throw a tantrum at your mother, and when the sun rises the next day, your mother is still your mother. The love breakfast that should be made by hand, the pocket money that should be secretly stuffed into you, will not be less.
And the mother-in-law is different, she is not a mother, any bit of discord. If not dissolved in time, this thorn will grow into a jungle of thorns in each other's hearts.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more like a community of interests. And their common interest is not only the husband of the daughter-in-law, but also the son of the mother-in-law. They are both the children of the daughter-in-law and the grandchildren of the mother-in-law.
I believe that at this point, Chen Shan has always seen it very clearly.
So when the mother-in-law misunderstood her relationship with Lin Qingkun, she did not get angry, but calmly threw out the fact that she was pregnant.
When her father-in-law knew that she was busy at work, he still offered to let her come out and help clean up the mess. Lin Shan did not refuse, did not explain, and rushed directly to the scene.
Because she knew that her father would not bother her when she was busy at work.
Perhaps from the very beginning, Lin Shan had already foreseen these problems that might arise after marriage. Therefore, even if you have a mortgage of several millions, you must buy a small house near your home for your in-laws to live in and take care of each other.
To a great extent, it was avoided that three generations would be in the same house under the same roof, and the situation of chicken feathers in the same place was avoided.
But in fact, Chen Shan herself understood. The mother-in-law is not bad, and she still thinks that after the demolition money of her hometown comes down, she will leave it to her son and daughter-in-law.
It's just the balance of concern in the heart, a mother, more inclined to her own child.
In fact, the mother-in-law does not regard the daughter-in-law as a daughter, and the daughter-in-law does not treat the mother-in-law as a mother-in-law. Because they love the same man together, they retain tolerance and understanding for each other, while maintaining a certain distance and sense of boundaries.
Will such a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship be more harmonious?