One day in October 2013, the Ni Xiying family in NiXia Village, Yujiang County, Jiangxi Province, welcomed an uninvited guest. The man's name was Ni Fasheng, and he was Ni Xiying's husband who had been "dead" for 10 years.
10 years ago, Ni Fasheng mysteriously disappeared while working in Guangzhou. For so many years, he had not sent a phone call or a letter to his home, as if the guest had died and the world had evaporated.
But now, just when Ni Xiying finally came out of the pain, formed a new family, and started a beautiful new life, Ni Fasheng suddenly returned. He simply said sorry, and he vainly wanted to reconcile with Ni Xiying, repair his family relationship with his children, and seize the new house and family property in one fell swoop.
Ni Fasheng and Ni Xiying
What has happened in those 10 years? Why did Ni Fasheng choose to disappear? Will his attempt succeed? This issue of the Historical Literary Society will take you into the "Return of the Dead Husband".
His wife's "deceased husband" appeared and inexplicably became a little third
In 2013, Mr. Feng of Yujiang County, Jiangxi Province, encountered a ridiculous and outrageous thing. His wife's "husband" Ni Fasheng, who had been dead for many years, was actually "resurrected from the dead" in broad daylight. He also scolded himself for being a male junior:
"It's all because of this third party that makes my family chickens and dogs restless."
"The two of them, now, are not legally cohabiting, because there is nothing, and they are not divorced from me, and they are not married to him."
In the face of Ni Fasheng's accusations, Lao Feng was doubly aggrieved and angry, and immediately retorted sharply: "He (Ni Fasheng) spewed blood, I am Ni Xiying's uncompromising husband, how can I harm my wife, all this is caused by Ni Fasheng." ”
Lao Feng and Ni Xiying met in 2008. At that time, Lao Feng worked in a factory, and Ni Xiying worked as a dishwasher in a restaurant. The two are not only of similar age, but also suffer emotional setbacks - Lao Feng and his ex-wife divorced, never remarried, and have a son; Ni Xiying grew up alone after the death of her husband. Lao Feng said: "I thought at the time that all three of them were very pitiful. ”
In short, similar experiences have made Lao Feng and Ni Xiying pity and pity each other. The two became more and more speculative and naturally came together. After knowing each other for about half a year, the two held a banquet in the village and married.
It is worth mentioning that because Ni Xiying and Lao Feng simply wanted to live a good life, did not plan to have children, and did not pay much attention to external things, so the two did not receive a marriage license. I never thought that this would later become the handle for Ni Fasheng to play with the topic.
In the 5 years after marriage, just like the promise made by Lao Feng in his heart - "I always want to make her live a better life", he was caring and considerate to Ni Xiying, and took the initiative to take care of all the heavy work in the family. He accompanied Ni Xiying to go out to work to earn money, not only helped her pay off all the debts of the family, but also built a three-story small building, and the two people's little life was full of grace and love.
Treating Ni Xiying's daughter Xiaoting and son Xiaoguo, Lao Feng also regarded it as his own, and what was delicious, useful, and fun was all tight to the child. From study to life, from moral education to future dreams, Lao Feng took care of his two children meticulously. Let them feel the fatherly love that has been missing for a long time, or has never experienced.
For Lao Feng, the stepfather, Xiaoting said: "He is very good to me, teaching me how to be a person, I think others are good." ”
Xiao Guo said: "He is very good, when he is hungry, he will buy some snacks to come back to me to eat, and he will take me out to play in the afternoon." ”
The most touching thing is that out of the good nature, and love house and U. sake. Old Feng even because of the pain of Ni Fasheng's parents "white haired people send black haired people" and the suffering of being helpless, and discussed with Ni Xiying to leave the large room facing the east on the first floor of the new house to the two old people for the elderly.
Lao Feng did not expect that he had paid so much for this family, and in exchange for it would be "good intentions without good rewards". After the return of the filial son Ni Fasheng, the two old men immediately turned their faces and did not recognize anyone, punching and kicking themselves to blow themselves out of the house, trying to make their son and Ni Xiying reconcile.
Ni Fasheng's parents
The irresponsible Ni Fasheng, who disappeared for 10 years and thought he was dead early, pointed at his nose without blushing and cursed: "The third party intervenes."
Of course, for Ni Fasheng's "resurrection from the dead", compared to the old Feng who was inexplicably xiaosan, the one who suffered the greatest impact was Ni Xiying.
The husband comes back from the dead, and the wife is difficult to accept
After 10 years, the first sight of Ni Fasheng again, Ni Xiying could not help but blush. However, her tears were not a surprise of excitement, sadness, or loss, but out of anger that was difficult to contain. Looking at the man who had been missing for many years in front of him, Ni Xiying's thoughts couldn't help but go back to 10 years ago.
It was after the Spring Festival in 2003, in order to build a new house, Ni Xiying entrusted Xiaoting and Xiaoguo to her parents and followed Ni Fasheng to Guangzhou to work.
Who ever thought that "the sky is unpredictable". When the two came to Guangzhou, it coincided with the outbreak of the SARS epidemic in Guangzhou. As of the ninth day of the Chinese New Year, that is, February 9, there have been more than 100 confirmed cases. For a time, the whole country was panicked, everyone was in danger, and only a rumor that "smoking white vinegar and drinking plate blue root can prevent SARS" that had no scientific basis set off a rush to buy, and the price of the two items directly doubled several times.
Because of the epidemic, domestic transportation, catering, accommodation, retail and other industries have suffered a serious blow. Ni Xiying and Ni Fasheng, who are in the epicenter of the domestic epidemic, not only did not even find a job, but quickly spent their savings.
Seeing that the epidemic and economic situation are not optimistic, Ni Xiying plans to go home first, and then consider the long term after the SARS is over. But Ni Fasheng insisted on staying in Guangzhou, claiming: "People can build houses, I can also build houses, I must meet this minimum requirement." ”
In desperation, Ni Xiying could only return to Jiangxi by herself. At that time, she did not expect that this difference with Ni Fasheng was a full 10 years.
Since in the early 2000s, mobile phones were still a luxury that few people could afford to consume, so after returning home, Ni Xiying had no way to contact her husband, and could only wait for Ni Fasheng to take the initiative to report safety. However, a week, a month, and half a year have passed, and Ni Fasheng has never heard from him. Without a letter or a phone call, the whole person evaporated as if the world had evaporated.
During this period, Ni Xiying had entrusted his brother who sold vegetables in Guangzhou to help inquire about Ni Fasheng's news. Xiaoting also added a lot of coordinates to Guangzhou netizens on the Internet, asking them to forward the search notice. But nothing came of it.
At that time, Ni Xiying and Ni Fasheng's relationship was still very good. In the face of her husband's disappearance, Ni Xiying was impatient and could not sit still. She was worried about what difficulties her husband had encountered when he was out alone, even as the villagers had guessed - infected with SARS and killed a stranger.
This kind of worry and fear is always entangled in Ni Xiying's heart. For a long time, she couldn't swallow and couldn't sleep. She blamed herself for not taking her husband home with her, or for sharing her happiness and suffering with him. At the same time, she couldn't help but look forward to it, maybe her husband just delayed contact due to some accident and would soon be able to return home.
Every Spring Festival and family reunion day, Ni Xiying would cook a large table of her husband's favorite meals, and then look at the door obsessively. The appearance of her mother's lost soul was painful to see Xiaoting, and she said: "On the day of the New Year, she said that she didn't know if your father would come back this year, and then she asked every year, every year, and then she despaired." ”
Two or three years after Ni Fasheng disappeared, almost everyone in the village, including Ni Fasheng's parents, believed that he was dead. Everyone persuaded Ni Xiying to consider remarrying, it was too hard to raise two children alone. Even the police at the police station couldn't help but say, "If you don't contact me for several years, you will definitely die, what are you looking for in a woman's home." ”
In this way, Ni Xiying had to slowly accept the "fact" of her husband's death, and gritted her teeth and lifted her spirits, doing her best to support the children. It wasn't until she met Old Feng 5 years later that Ni Xiying finally walked out of her pain and ushered in a beautiful new life.
But Ni Fasheng's sudden return gave Ni Xiying a blow - his pain, sadness, self-blame, and various tortures in the past 10 years turned out to be a big joke - Ni Fasheng did not die, he was not unable to go home, he just abandoned his wife and children, and did not want to go home.
All along, in the eyes of the villagers, Ni Xiying is an honest, diligent and kind woman. After Ni Fasheng disappeared, she carried the family alone with her thin shoulders, and she painstakingly raised her two children. Even after remarrying, they will continue to filial piety to the parents of the "deceased husband".
Ni Xiying and two children
However, in the face of Ni Fasheng, who was "resurrected from the dead", everyone saw Ni Xiying's most terrifying appearance. He grabbed a stick and blocked it in front of the door, refusing Ni Fasheng to step into the door for half a step. She scolded Ni Fasheng with all her might, saying, "I have been killed by you for so many years. ”
Full of lies to explain, the child does not approve
"I was so angry with him, I said in my heart, this man is so cruel." Since Ni Fasheng's return, Ni Xiying's heart has been full of anger all the time. She hated, hated Ni Fasheng's disappearance and no news, hated Ni Fasheng's abandonment and irresponsibility, hated Ni Fasheng's attempt to destroy his hard-won happiness. Of course, what he hates most is that he ignores his two children, so that Xiaoting and Xiaoguo have lost their father's company since childhood.
You know, when Ni Fasheng disappeared from the evaporation of the world, Xiaoting was only in elementary school, and Xiaoguo had just turned 4 years old. In the face of this father, whom he had never seen since he could remember, Xiao Guo was also indignant and accused: "It was he who made my mother live so hard alone, let me and my sister be looked down upon by others at school, saying that we did not have a father." ”
At this time, Ni Fasheng was like a street rat, and everyone shouted and beat. Neither Ni Xiying nor her two children were willing to accept him, and the villagers scolded him as an irresponsible scumbag.
However, what is surprising is that in the face of thousands of people pointing fingers and scorned by thousands of people, Ni Fasheng seems to be calm and relaxed. He righteously and sternly said that he had not returned home because he did not earn money from part-time work, lost money in business, and was often hospitalized because he was weak and weak. After saying that, he also came with a righteous and awe-inspiring sentence: "Death wants face, I would rather be outside by myself, drag it out for a day and a day, and then come back after dragging it out." ”
Of course, Ni Fasheng's explanation was to instantly cause group ridicule. Xiao Guo pointed out sharply: "Then why don't you call back, don't write a letter back, you good villains want us to know that there is still you in this world." ”
Xiao Ting even more disdainfully sneered: "I just feel that he didn't have a word of truth when he came back." Do I want to make tens of millions, and if I don't earn it, should I leave my family behind? Can I not go home? ”
At the same time, Ni Fasheng's untenable defense also reminded Ni Xiying of a detail that she had overlooked many years ago. That was when The little country was 2 years old, in 2001. At that time, Ni Fasheng was working alone outside the home, while Ni Xiying was taking care of young children at home. Once, when Ni Xiying went to visit her husband in a factory, she accidentally saw a woman's clothes and skirt on the bed of Ni Fasheng's dormitory. At that time, Ni Xiying had suspected that her husband was cheating, but she did not know what excuses and rhetoric Ni Fasheng used to trick her into passing.
Now that I think about it, Ni Fasheng already had a woman outside, so he abandoned his wife and son and left his hometown. Now nearly half a hundred years old, weak in body, no career, no job, no money, it is estimated that he was kicked by Xiao Trinity, and he really couldn't mix outside, so he ran back with his tail gray.
Of course, as Xiao Guo questioned Ni Fasheng: "Is it enough to say sorry?" This hatred is from small to large, and it cannot be said that there can be no without. "No matter what the truth about Ni Fasheng's 10 years of hearing nothing, it doesn't matter. Because it is a fact that he deliberately played missing, the harm he caused to Ni Xiying and to the child can never be erased.
The "deceased husband" has ill intentions and covets the new house in the family
Just ask, in the face of a man who has been away from home for 10 years just because of "no light on his face", he ignores and ignores the family. Is his "knowing that I am wrong and want to make up for it" worth believing? Presumably, 10 out of 10 people will answer: I don't believe it.
This is also true, because Ni Fasheng's true face was quickly exposed--"The first thing I saw was my house, and I was in tears of joy." ”
Yes, after 10 years of returning home, although Ni Fasheng said in his mouth that he was sorry for his parents, sorry for his wife, sorry for his children, he did not fulfill his responsibilities as a father and husband. But what is on my mind is the newly built three-story small building at home.
To what extent did he salivate? When Ni Xiying formally applied for divorce, Ni Fasheng tried to reconcile with Ni Xiying, did not try to fight for the custody of the child, but opened his mouth: "Divorce is OK, the house belongs to me, I am still the owner of this house."
Ni Fasheng's request made Ni Xiying laugh angrily. You know, in 2003, the two went out to work, just to earn money to build a house. In other words, when Ni Fasheng disappeared, the house was not even bricked. It was Ni Xiying who mistakenly thought that Ni Fasheng had died in another country, holding the idea of fulfilling her husband's last wish, so she cobbled together 30,000 yuan and borrowed 30,000 yuan, plus the family's meager savings, and struggled to build the first floor of the bungalow.
As for the second layer and the third layer, after Ni Xiying and Lao Feng got married, the husband and wife worked hard together, successively invested more than 100,000 yuan, and slowly built it little by little.
For so many years, Ni Xiying has been working outside the home for a long time in order to pay off this debt. She worked day and night, saving money with pickles under a porridge meal, often so tired that she couldn't even stand up straight, and was severely malnourished. Even Ni Xiying herself said, "You haven't seen me before, I'm so thin and small, I'm only fat when I marry Old Feng now." ”
Although during the construction of the house, Ni Fasheng's parents had given Ni Xiying 10,000 yuan, the money for laying the foundation of the new house was also saved by Ni Fasheng's previous part-time job. But to tell the truth, this little money may not even be enough for the child support that Ni Fasheng has owed for 10 years, and it is even more insignificant compared to Ni Xiying and Lao Feng's efforts.
But now, Ni Fasheng and Ni Xiying did not formally divorce himself, Ni Xiying and Old Feng "did not have a proper name", and the lion opened his mouth and tried to monopolize the new house, which was simply shameless.
Unwilling to compromise, Ni Xiying eventually filed for divorce with the court, demanding the dissolution of the conjugal relationship with Ni Fasheng. Just as the so-called "discuss things on the facts", although Ni Fasheng has many no, but because the law clearly stipulates that before the dissolution of the husband and wife relationship, the house belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife, and it should have Ni Fasheng's share.
Therefore, on November 10, 2013, the court formally ruled that Ni Xiying and Ni Fasheng should be divorced, and the house should be half of one person (Ni Xiying was slightly more). The small country that is still underage is raised by Ni Xiying, and Ni Fasheng has to pay a monthly maintenance fee of 214 yuan.
I believe that for this result, there should be many people who feel unfair. After all, as a son, a husband and a father, Ni Fasheng had not returned home once in 10 years, even if it was to make a phone call or send a letter to report that he was safe. This degree of ruthlessness is probably the so-called "good face" and is difficult to explain.
In this regard, it can only be said that people must have a sense of responsibility, and do not evade responsibility because of their own selfish desires, which is really disgraceful.
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