Recently, the Jiangsu kindergarten teacher cheating incident has been making a lot of noise, after the incident was exposed, it was ridiculed that "if you want to live a good life, you must bring a little green on your head", how do you think?
Let me say, this is nothing new at all!
Tell you a heart-wrenching fact: The chinese female cheating rate is the first in the world!
An American sexologist, Kinsey in the 1940s, found that globally, men had a 64 percent rate of cheating, compared to 26 percent for women.
But with the 70-year sexual revolution, this set of data has changed significantly.
The data on women's extramarital relationships catch up with men.
And last year, a reporter for People's Magazine, in an interview with Pan Suiming, the father of Chinese sociology of sexuality, asked: "In your research, what is the most unexpected change in these 30 years?"
Professor Pan Suiming gave a answer that was indeed unexpected:
The most unexpected thing is that the proportion of extramarital love in our country, both men and women, is rising, especially the proportion of women's extramarital love, which is the highest proportion in the world, about an average of 7.5 wives and 3 husbands, one has cheated.
Some people may be very confused, where are the people who are so derailed? I feel that the people around me are very harmonious, but in fact, you just don't see it.
Everyone has their own circle of life, and just because you don't have it in your circle doesn't mean that there isn't in someone else's circle.
It's this invisibility that really scares us, because something like cheating is being present all around us with unimaginable data.
The internet explosion is only the tip of the iceberg!
What does that reflect the problems of marriage in our society today?
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > first, marriage lacks the cornerstone of love and is doomed to be vulnerable</h1>
I have always believed that in order to have a long-term marriage and happiness, love must be the cornerstone, and if there is no love between two people, no other person's bond can maintain a good marriage.
Especially marriage for money, for the sake of profit, this kind of, even more can not last.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, marriage choice is not careful. </h1>
Many people attach great importance to marriage, and they casually decide about the future and the other half of their lives. Many women lack rational guidance and choose marriage with sensibility, then marriage is also destined to be emotional.
Love in the fast food era is like a tornado, and it is easy for us to fall in love at first sight because of a quick glance, or because of each other's voice and smile, or because the other party chats with you until late at night, thinking that this is love.
Therefore, he hurriedly stepped into the siege of marriage.
Whether the boy chooses the woman or the woman chooses the man, the most important thing is to look at the inner qualities of the person, and being beautiful and rich is not the factor that makes the marriage last.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > third, marriage lacks the awareness of management</h1>
Marriage needs to be managed and run-in. But now many people who are married do not understand, as long as two people have a little disagreement, they want to divorce, as long as the other party has a little confrontation with themselves, they think that divorce can not go on.
In fact, it is a very normal thing to quarrel and disagree in marriage. There is a gap between the three views of any two people, and two people who have a gap in the three views are bound to contradict each other in their lives together because of these differences.
There is no one like you in this world, you marry anyone, there will be contradictions, so divorce is not the best choice, business run-in is.
Two people respect each other and seek common ground while reserving differences, so that such a marriage can last.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > fourth, not understanding the cost of infidelity. </h1>
Many people, affected by the current materialistic society, do not understand the cost of infidelity, and are easily confused by short-term happiness. Once a person cheats, not only does it hurt the child to the other half, but most importantly, it is fatal to yourself, and what you destroy is your own life.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > fifth, women are more independent</h1>
Today's women are more independent and have their own ability to make money, and some women even make more than men. Now men are generally feminine, becoming less and less responsible, and more and more satisfied with the status quo.
Therefore, this leads to the fact that many women in marriage, that is, there is no material enjoyment, and there is no love from their husbands, this need is not met, and then they ask for it.
Finally, I would like to say that the essence of infidelity, considered from the perspective of both sexes, is that the needs in marriage are not met. (The individual pursuit of mere stimulation is excluded.) ）
We should pay attention to our other half in time and solve some problems in marriage in time, which is the root of preventing cheating.