What is the most important asset that parents give to their children?
Parenting #Reading #Growing Up: I've always wanted to write an article about the truth about education, we found that many parents become natural parents in doing family education, but basically no one has systematically learned how to be parents and how to raise children scientifically.
Since ancient times, although we have seen, heard, and learned many examples and stories about education, such as the classic: the story of the three migrations of Meng Mu is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
Behind the real education must be a loving, intelligent father or mother, guiding and inspiring the child's mind, rather than the anxiety and just valuing the child's achievements like some modern parents.
Today, open the book "Montessori Children's Education Essence", by Maria. Montessori was a great child educator in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. On the basis of long-term children's research and educational experiments, she founded the "Children's Home", developed the unique Montessori early childhood education method, and with unremitting efforts, preached her educational philosophy to all countries in the world, which had a profound impact on the development of early childhood education in Europe and even the whole world.
In this book, Montessori tells us what real education is and how to accompany children to grow. In the book, she said: The core of educating people is love.
She wrote in The Core of Nurturing People is Love: "A fact that is not difficult to find in real life is that no matter what kind of political or religious group you belong to, you are very close to and love children. Although this attitude may seem contradictory from an educational point of view, it is not fundamentally contradictory, because the psychological state of parents when educating their children is very different from that of other children. To educate your children, you need patience, otherwise you will become irritable, rude, rejected and reprimanded. And when they communicate with other children, they are in a relaxed state, because they know that the child is simple, cute, not as sophisticated and sleek as people of other ages, and even ill-intentioned.
The simplicity and childishness of children contribute to the unity and harmony among adults, which is based on the love of children, but what is this love? Perhaps it is necessary for us to delve into the nature of love, and we can first see how the poets and philosophers described love, because poets and philosophers were able to express the power of love in the most perfect way. The great emotion of love gives birth to human life, is there a better and nobler emotion than this? Even those who bring death and destruction to the entire human race can be touched by the beautiful emotions of love. Therefore, regardless of the nature of the behavior, there is love in people's hearts. This power, once awakened, comes into play and touches people's hearts.
If we want to make the world more harmonious, we should study more about the inner meaning of love. Children are the meeting point of warmth and love. But no one can explain what love is, where the roots of love are, how much love affects, and how much love plays in human solidarity...
Yes, it is the great emotion of love that gives birth to human life, but looking back at our real life today, there is a utilitarianism in many families, chasing fame and profit, and this educational idea affects our children, our families, and brings us a lot of emotional hurt and pain.
The love of children is very important, adults need the love of children, and children need the love of adults. If you lose love, otherwise, a family, a person's psychology will slowly grow a hard cocoon, and eventually become cold and numb.
Because of this, parents need to learn how to be parents, need to carefully consider, how to love children, how to give love, face children, how should we become teachers of love?
The book also shares three points for our parents to learn:
1. First of all, we should always look at the child with loving eyes. The gaze of love is always the most important gaze in a child's development, and some people say that when being with a child or communicating with a child, the loving gaze of a parent is better than any language.
2. Secondly, face the child with a loving smile. Giving a smile to your child is more important than anything else, and changing your mood can change the expression on your face. When Fang Saw that smiling face, he knew that his mother was better than him today. So, if you really love your child, please be sure to look at the child with a loving eye, face the child with a loving smile, the child's mentality must be very good when he grows up in the future, which is the greatest wealth that parents give to their children.
3. Finally, influence the child with the act of love. Speaking a thousand ways and ten thousand, words are not as good as teaching by example. In the end, whether a child can understand love and grow into a popular person depends on the behavior of the parents. Parents' daily words and deeds, children's eyes see very clearly, children are born to be an imitator, the power of imitation is great, for the teacher to be a child's example, this is the most important part of loving children.
We educate children to win the hearts of children, and the mystery of winning children's hearts is a word - love, love is a seed, and if there is sowing, there will be a harvest.
When the child grows into an independent individual, an adult, an adult, a social individual, he will dedicate his love to the society and will reap the rewards from the society... Love is like the sun, illuminating others and illuminating yourself, making the world shine brightly.
What other parenting confusions you have, or difficulties encountered, the author of this book has already made answers for you, waiting for you to find. After reading this book carefully, you will have a very rewarding experience.
