Lucky or unlucky? We have encountered a family ethical upheaval that has not occurred in three thousand years!
Are we the first generation to be abandoned by our children? What do you think of domestic violence in Shaanxi?
The headlines of these two days revolve around a central issue: changes in family ethics.
China's settled agricultural society that has lasted for thousands of years has disintegrated, and the nostalgia is gone, which can be described as helpless. The traditional family ethics adapted to the settled agrarian society are also disintegrating and changing dramatically!
Home has been the core of Chinese society for thousands of years, so Fei Xiaotong said the circle structure.
What is home? It was frustrating to say it, and there were pigs in the house. Now many people have only eaten pork, and have never seen a pig run away.
Family ethics involves the intergenerational relationship between parents and children, the relationship between husband and wife, and the relationship between brothers and sisters.
From the top down, modern people's fertility ethics have been turned upside down, and before giving birth to a baby, you must 🉐 ask 10,000 whys, feminism, LGBT, and even Zhang Bo in the Chongqing case. There is also a topic that has to be said here: the relationship between step-parents and stepchildren. Isn't it a legal obligation for parents to buy a house for their children, a matter of moral compulsion?
From the bottom up, the core problem is pension. In the traditional view, supporting parents is morally coercive and actively supportive, and there are a lot of filial pieties. Now when you talk about twenty-four filial pieties, you will certainly be criticized for feudal. What is filial piety in the modern sense? Is it certain that the next generation will not support their parents financially and will not comfort their parents financially? Is it reasonable?
How can a new economic balance be struck between parenting and parenting? If children feel that not supporting their parents is the mainstream of society, in turn, what is the need for expectant parents to have babies decades later?
The relationship between husband and wife and the resulting mother-in-law relationship are also part of the upheaval. How can a new balance be struck between husband and wife? Physical domestic violence is certainly not right. How is verbal domestic violence recognized? How are cold violence, marital sexual violence, and marital cold violence counted? Legally, these cannot be proved, but in reality they do exist.
There is also a problem in the relationship between husband and wife: the bride price and the dowry. The information of the wife who was abused by the family in Shaanxi showed that she believed that the bride price she wanted at her family had been reduced by 20,000, from 80,000 to 60,000, but her husband was not grateful to Dade. Obviously, 80,000 are from the customs, from the popular practices of the people around them, from the legal point of view, to the table of the social values advocated by the state now, what should we look at?
Moreover, the door-to-door pair was the basic principle of marriage in the past. But in modern society, drastic changes in social status are the norm rather than an accident. At the beginning of marriage, the door is right, and after marriage, it becomes wrong, and there must be contradictions. Let's take a random example, Uncle Zhao Benshan, the first thing after becoming famous is divorce, how do you see social values now? Chen Shimei or a brave person who pursues happiness?
In real life, there are still some complex issues, such as one party from the countryside to the city, the other side is a person from a big city, and whether the two sides handle family relations according to the customs of the big city or the customs of the countryside? Or do you do it according to the law?
Many of the legal provisions are lagging behind, and our generations of people have only to grope for themselves to face this kind of upheaval in family ethics that has not occurred in three thousand years due to economic and social changes.
