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A rational word healer, I hope you can find a little solace in my words for life.
"Life really has too many unpleasant experiences".
I said this to a reader, she just graduated from college not long ago, the job she is looking for is not high, and she is tired all day long, and sometimes there are some employees who are more senior than her who look down on her, and there is some irony in her words, and for a while she feels that her life is really bad.
Since graduating from college, there have been fewer friends around me, each has gone to work in a different city, wants to find someone to talk to but does not know who to look for, looking at the happy appearance of others in the circle of friends, I will feel envious in my heart, and even think:
Why do others turn their lives into poetry, but they themselves turn their lives into mud.
In denial, she fell into self-blame, thinking that her parents raised her so big, but she was so angry, after graduating from college, she still had to find a family to pay the rent, although her parents said it didn't matter, her heart was not very comfortable.
She asked me: Is it unhappy to live a very failed life?
In the face of her sudden question, I did not know how to answer for a while. I want to give her a reply: "It's okay, everything will be fine". Or say to her: "Everyone will have unsatisfactory times, survive these bad moments, and will be a new self."
But I never sent these lines out, and I think that if this answer seems very perfunctory, there is no actual value between the lines.
I kept searching for some of the experiences in the depths of my memory that I hoped would help her, and eventually I decided to use myself as an example and tell her that everyone is not easy, but you must learn to make yourself happy, the full text is as follows:
Glad to receive your message. Deeply believed, there are really too many unpleasant things in this world, just like when we are halfway to the road, the sky suddenly pours down, pouring us all into a "falling soup chicken";
It's like when we got up early to catch the subway to work, we obviously had sprinted on the road, but we still missed the best subway;
It's like when we talk to people, and when we talk, we think of some sad things and let our mood drop to zero; it's like you're ready to leave work, but the leader suddenly says that there are a lot of tasks at work, and I hope that everyone will work overtime.
It seems that life always likes to joke with us, and the net is to find some unhappy things for us to experience, which will make us feel very painful for a while.
When I just graduated from high school, I found a KFC job in Shenzhen, at that time, I was not deeply involved in the world, far from home, fortunately, I had the care of relatives, and I was a very gentle personality, I did not cause trouble, but I was not afraid of things.
My position is the front desk, and there is a girl who came with me, the same position as me, when I first started, there were many things we needed to learn, and I felt a little busy for a while.
For the fast food industry, time is money, and your speed is a testament to your ability.
During that time, because the speed was not fast enough, we were often "criticized" by some old employees, and even some people would say that we were wearing the hat of a college student, but in fact we would not do anything.
I admit that this is indeed true, because we still have a lot to learn at that time, but we are not happy to hear this, and even be sad for an afternoon because we deny us, and the mood is in a wet state.
And one of the most impressive things I experienced was at the front desk cashier, a customer's meal payment has a tail number of 0.5, and it is cash, at that time I could not enter the decimal, so I found a "senior" to help, but did not expect that the customer gave me 100 yuan, she directly entered 1000 yuan for me.
I was very nervous, afraid of something wrong, fortunately the process of finding change did not go wrong, and soon after, the manager called me to the office, and said to me: although it did not cause damage, it was still wrong, and the next time if you are making the same mistake, then it is not as simple as talking to you.
I'd love to explain, I want to tell him it wasn't me who was operating at the time.
In this way, full of grievances do not know how to say, at night has been thinking about this bad thing, resulting in insomnia, the heart is full of grievances, always feel that they have been wronged, the next day because they could not get up early and missed the subway to work late, and in the next few days, the least on the face is a smile.
My feeling at the time was: If I were an inflated balloon, I would definitely choose to explode in place.
Because those days were really hard for a recent graduate, I never thought such a dramatic thing would happen to me.
But later I figured it out, such a thing has long been seen in their eyes, your explanation is far less important than your achievements.
So, in the next day, I use my fastest speed to communicate with customers, serve them meals, and try to make five stars. Probably because they have all seen my efforts, and gradually some people will point fingers at me, but they are willing to recognize you and make him feel that you are not a "person who wears a college student hat and thinks that you are very great.".
The reason why I was deeply impressed by this experience is that it was the first lesson that life taught me when I entered the society, so that I understood that after adulthood, grievances often exist, and it seems useless to explain every time, you have to learn to grow up, change your view of life, and then live well.
When this happened, I always felt that I would hate this person who "harmed me" for a lifetime, but now that a few years have passed, I no longer have the indignation at that time, and I don't think she is really "bad", maybe she didn't pay attention, or was not careful. But if because of this one thing, it makes you angry, it is really not worth it.
As Miyazaki said, "It is also good for people who are full of truth to suffer in society."
The biggest charm of experience is that we can remember the lessons, so that we can transform into our own life experience, maybe you will be unhappy because of some things now, after a while, look at this matter, you will find that this is actually not much worse, but you can't live with yourself at that time.
Everyone at any age will experience something that makes them feel unpleasant, confused, confused, overwhelmed is inevitable, life is really difficult, work, earn money, support a family and dreams, will make me feel embarrassed.
But you find that no, the more we focus our attention on these bad things, the more these things will torture you. That being the case, don't always dwell on these unhappy things.
And relax, do your job, don't think too much, life is very good, you are worth it, I hope you are happy!
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