One of the main obstacles to self-awareness and a wonderful life is that one part of our mind tends to lie to the other, and we lie for a plausible reason: we want to avoid suffering, but then we seriously ruin our chances of happiness. Here are four of our favorite things to lie to ourselves about:
We lie about all aspects of uncertainty, which can have a huge impact on our work, relationships, friendships, health, habits, and even our thoughts.
We lie because we need to feel good about ourselves and try to imagine ourselves as essentially normal people, rather than having special love and hatred and abnormal thoughts. We lie because we don't want to feel lacking, and because we do lack a lot of good things. We lie because we are angry with someone we are supposed to love, and we lie because we feel angry about what we feel angry about. It is very small and sadly trivial as adults, and since facing the truth is so cruel, we have to learn to be a master of lies. The techniques we lie about are extensive, frightening, and imaginative.
Here are some great ways we can use to polish our eyes
One: Distraction
We identify with things that can effectively keep our minds away from disturbing inner conflicts, with internet being the most popular, followed by news, third alcohol, and fourth work. We don't like the stuff themselves that much, we like them because they allow us to avoid the things we're afraid of.
Two: fanatical excitement
A sadness that we don't acknowledge, it's usually covered by exaggerated fanatical excitement, we're not happy, we can't allow ourselves to feel it.
Three: The slightest sadness
In case we get overwhelmed by buried grief, we develop an irritable tendency to say, "Everything is great." "That's great, isn't it?" We may be too anxious to rule out the opposite idea.
Four: Irritability
Anger that is weighed down on a particular personal condition usually evolves into a general irritability. How successful are the lies! We don't even need to know what's going on. We just slowly lost our temper and someone moved the TV remote with two eggs in the fridge and the electronic bill was a little higher than we expected. Anything can detonate us. Our brains are filled with ideas about how frustrating and annoying things are, and we cleverly leave no room for really sad questions.
Five: Denigration
We tell ourselves we don't care about those things, love or politics or career success or sane life, that pretty student, or a house we can't afford, and we put a lot of emphasis on our own disinterest and contempt. We go to great lengths to make others and ourselves understand how unconcerned we are.
If I could, I would have to tell myself the truth, otherwise, we would always have to pay a great price in exchange for a short period of calm after lying. For the sake of ourselves, we must be brave enough to face our true selves.