Wen 丨 West Wing has feelings
Time is not long, may you be in my words, see you not too late!
What does it look like when a man falls in love with someone?
There is such a praise answer in Zhihu - the state of a boy who really falls in love with you is implicit, silent, and long-flowing. Because "love" appears and manifests, in many cases it is an unconscious instinct.
Just like the famous song "Love Must Have" sung by Yu Chengqing has such a lyric:
"I'm just afraid I'll fall in love with you myself, and maybe one day I'll be overwhelmed." Missing only allows myself to suffer myself, and falling in love with you is something I have to do. ”
The melody and lyrics of this song are deeply rooted in people's hearts, many people can hum a few words, and the truth contained in the lyrics is also very obvious - the true love of men is uncontrollable.
When a man is touched by a woman, his love is very strong.
He will be willing to give everything for this woman, willing to take the initiative to care for her, pamper her, and often immerse himself in the emotions of missing each other.
So, when a man is truly in love with a woman, there will be these uncontrollable moves. If he likes you, you can sense his intentions through these actions, and stop being stupid.
Can't help but get close to you
When a man is truly in love with someone, he can't help but get close to the woman he loves.
In his eyes, the whole world may be bleak, and only his sweetheart is shining. He could discern the direction of his lover in the crowd and walk to her side.
When he sees his lover, he will feel that there seems to be magic in the other person, and he can always attract him instantly.
He will be very eager to be able to have intimate contact with his lover, want to hug his lover tightly, bury his head in his lover's shoulders, and deeply feel the smell of his lover.
Wherever he went, he would hold his lover's hand, as if ten fingers were intertwined, so that he would not lose her beloved.
Not only that, but he also wants to tell all the men in the world: This woman is mine, and you are not allowed to worry about it.
Still, he will never do anything to force you. If you don't like his proximity, he will also consciously keep his distance from you to avoid making you feel disrespected.
Can't help but protect you
Probably all men have a heroic dream since childhood.
When he is young, the boy's wish is to become strong and protect his mother, or the sister in the family; when he grows up, the man's wish is to be better and more capable, to protect the woman he loves deeply.
So, when a man really falls in love with a woman, he will spontaneously want to protect her.
He was always afraid that someone would bully the person he loved when he was away, and in his eyes, the lover was so weak that the other party could only be relieved if he moved under his own eyes.
This is like parents to their children.
Parents always want to give their children as much protection and pampering as possible, and once the child is bullied, parents must be the saddest and most angry people.
The same is true of men, in the world of love, men will have a psychological characteristic of a big parent. This kind of psychology will make men spontaneously protect women, which is completely instinctive.
So, a man's true love, can't help it, he doesn't need you to cry and beg, let him protect you. As long as she sees you crying and sees you wronged, he will take the initiative to shield you from the wind and rain.
Can't help but pay for you
The other day, a female friend confided in me, and she said:
"My husband is very picky and very straight, he is very repulsive to me buying cosmetics, always tells me that he has no money, and only sent me three lipsticks after eight years of marriage.
But he often told me how much he loved me and would sometimes help me with housework at my request.
In the cost of living, we are almost half of one person, and more than he will not be willing to pay. Does he love me or not? ”
Hearing these words, I thought about it for a long time. Then, I firmly told her my answer: "He has feelings for you, but he loves himself more." ”
Why would I say such an answer? Because, this man can't help but pay for her, many times his pay, just because he is asked.
The reason is very simple, if her husband really loves her, then he will be willing to understand her preferences, willing to take the initiative to do things for her, and prepare small surprises for her during the holidays, rather than living a careful life on expenses.
I believe that it is not only this friend who has such a situation, in fact, many people's marriages are facing such a situation.
In real life, most people's marriages are like an investment in the business field, and everyone is only willing to pay more chips after they get what they want.
But is this kind of "love" really love? To put it mildly, it could just be a trade, each taking what it needs.
I've seen men who cut the door become generous, and I've seen men who are calculating and spoiled...
So to put it bluntly, some emotional problems, not whether the man changes the door, does not become romantic, but whether he loves you or not.
Remember, a man's true love is uncontrollable, not that you force it, but that he is willing to pay for you.
Conclusion:
When a man falls in love with a woman, he tends to act out of instinct, let go of all his defenses, single-mindedly be nice to you, and show the soft, delicate side in front of you.
Like a small hedgehog, it always raises its spines high when facing outsiders. But whenever I see you, I will reveal my round and hairy belly and show you the weakest place.
He will take the initiative to climb up the high hill for you to pick fruit to eat, and take the initiative to protect you firmly behind you with spikes.
And all these actions are just because they are really in love with you.
He doesn't care about the bad consequences of this relationship failure, and he doesn't want to restrain his love for you, just thinking about being good to you.
Love needs to be reciprocated, and if you have such a man by your side, then you are really lucky. To be loved so deeply by a person, we must cherish it.