Learn to change yourself
In life, we should believe that people live for themselves, don't expect everyone to understand, don't ask for everything to be satisfactory. Living in the world we are all independent individuals, pain and discomfort have to grow on their own, no one can really understand you, the stone did not hit his feet, he never felt how much pain, on the road of life we are all lonely walkers, such as people drinking cold and warm self-knowledge, the only thing that can really help you is always yourself. Therefore, as a person, we must first learn to change ourselves, strive to make ourselves strong, and learn to adapt to society, so that we can become self-reliant people and make ourselves successful. And to change yourself, you should strive to:
First, we must learn to face reality. There is a classic story in the Quran: There is a master who, after decades of hard training, finally practiced the Dafa of Moving Mountains. The news spread quickly, naturally arousing people's curiosity. As a result, many people came to this master and begged him to perform the stunt of moving mountains in public. When the master saw the resignation, he agreed. He faced the mountain and sat on the ground. A few hours passed, and the master remained motionless. Someone asked, "Master, why doesn't the mountain come?" The master stood up unhurriedly, walked to the other side of the mountain, and said to the crowd, "My performance is finished." ”
Everyone looked at each other and asked with a weeping smile, "Is this the 'Dafa of Moving Mountains' that you have been practicing for decades?" The master smiled slightly, "Yes, this is the truth that I have cultivated for decades before I realized it: if the mountain does not come, I will pass." "The master's words enlighten us that there are too many things in the real world that we cannot change, or at least temporarily, like a mountain that stands still. So we should understand that if we can't change reality, we have to learn to change ourselves.
The second is to learn to patiently listen to others' evaluations and opinions about themselves. In Japan, there was a young man who began to look for a job with great difficulties, experienced many job searches, and later got a job as a salesman at an insurance company. When he first started selling insurance to people, his performance was very poor, and his income was naturally pitiful. At the time, he was so poor that he couldn't even afford to eat and had to sleep in the park.
One day, he came to a temple and sold insurance to an old Zen master. After a brief chill, he talked about the benefits of buying insurance. Unexpectedly, after he finished speaking, the old Zen master said calmly, "Young man, you have said so much, I am not interested in it at all!" The young man was stunned at once, and his confidence was gone, like an inflated balloon that was suddenly pricked by someone and completely deflated.
The old Zen master looked at him and continued, "If you want to make the sales successful, you must make yourself a strong attraction, otherwise, you are not suitable for this business." Young people, let's first transform ourselves..."
The young man walked out of the temple sadly, and along the way, he was thinking about the old Zen master's words, and he felt that the old Zen master's words were very reasonable. He was determined to do as the old Zen master said. In later days, he invited several colleagues or insured customers to evaluate him every month, and everyone pointed out his shortcomings while eating. To this end, he even sent clothes to pawn, just to better transform himself.
When he heard the harsh criticism of others, he felt skinned and cramped several times, but he insisted on silently enduring it and recorded these words one by one. In later life, young people can reflect on their words and deeds at any time, urge themselves to make the most of their strengths and avoid their weaknesses, and strive to play their potential.
After such a period of time, he felt that he was improving, perfecting, growing, and maturing a little. A few years later, his efforts finally paid off, and his sales performance won the first place in Japan, and he set a record for 15 consecutive years. He later became a lifetime member of the American MDRT. He is Hara Yiping, a salesman who was once called "the world's greatest salesman" by the famous American writer Ogg Mandino.
The third is to learn to find reasons from their own side. There is a parable that a crow was about to leave the place where he had lived for a long time and went to bid farewell to his good friend, the pigeon.
The pigeon asked with concern, "Where are you going to fly?" ”
The crow said indignantly, "I am not welcome here, and the residents here think that my voice is not good, so I want to fly to another place." ”
The pigeon kindly told the crow, "Have you thought about it?" If you don't change your voice, flying anywhere won't be welcome. ”
In life, we always like to change others and even change the world, but the end of this is often futile. Wise people always like to change themselves first, and changing themselves can do more with less.
Fourth, we must be patient and conscientious in doing everything well. There was a young man who had drawn dozens of paintings in less than a month, and when he took the paintings he had painted and went to the market to sell them, he did not sell a single painting for three years. The young man was discouraged, so he asked him for advice from an old painter, and when he told the old painter of his experience, the old painter replied to him with only one sentence: "You try it in reverse." So the young man returned home, thought deeply behind closed doors, pondered carefully, and spent three whole years painting this painting. After the painting was completed, it was taken to the market, and it was quickly bought at a high price. Therefore, we must not rush to do things, we must learn to polish ourselves, and when we polish ourselves very well, we will be recognized by the world.