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"Now, it's hard to find someone to eat with."
One day, I received such a story from a friend and fell into a deep thought.
When we were young, we always liked to call friends, buy a snack, go to the toilet, and walk hand in hand. Even, they will run to each other's homes to rub rice.
Especially the scene where we have enough fun at home together, and then when the meal arrives, the adults shout at the table to eat, which is really happy.
However, as we grow up, we seem to be getting farther and farther away from this happiness.
Someone said, "The most commonly used term in the world is friend, but the hardest to get is also a friend." This sentence is even more accurate in the adult world when you grow up.
In these years, the people who can still keep in touch with you on a regular basis and give you care deserve praise. After all, everyone is busy.
At the same time, I have to admit that in these years, there are really fewer and fewer people who can really call you to eat. So, it's time to remind yourself, but be careful not to easily lose people who shout at you to eat!
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When we like a person, we naturally want to stay with her more, so we even have to eat together, even if we have a little bit of food, we want to eat together. That's why I call this kind of "dinner table friendship."
Obviously, this "dinner table friendship" is directly related to the depth of the friendship between two people. After all, if you don't like me, you probably won't want to make friends with me, and you won't want to sit with me and eat, again and again.
This is directly demonstrated by the elementary school students in boarding school, because the love and hatred of children are very clear - I always eat with Xiaodi, because I like to play with him.
If I want to say that my "dinner table friendship" should start in high school. Because I had to board at the school when I was in high school, if I was not boarding, every day when I came home from class, everyone was looking for their own mothers, and they rarely said that they would eat together.
Once you've stayed, you have only one common destination after class – the cafeteria. Therefore, friends who come closer will naturally go to the canteen to eat together.
At that time, I also had two classmates who had a good time in junior high school, and although they were in different classes in high school, we still went to dinner together at first.
The meeting also planned the route, and after class, I went to find A first, and then I went to find C together. As a result, there are sometimes images of two people hiding in the doorway and shouting for another person to eat.
In fact, the meal can be eaten separately, and you don't have to wait and go together. But the emotions of the teenagers are terriblely sincere, that is, they want to shout that you can't eat together!
It has to be said that a solid "dinner table friendship" is also good. It is when you are too lazy to eat and want to deal with it casually, and you can't resist the enthusiasm of your friends calling you to eat, which also reduces the damage to the stomach.
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Only, slowly, you will also find that the number of people calling you to eat gradually decreases. In the beginning, it was because A had to choose another way to go to his own future. So, we have one less person to call each other to eat.
After this classmate left, I didn't know how, and I stopped calling each other to eat with another classmate later. Gradually, we agreed not to wait at each other's classroom doors anymore; we began to get used to quietly squeezing into the cafeteria after class, or casually getting something to eat.
At that time, few people called me to eat, and as soon as I saw that there were so many people in the canteen, I finally chose to buy a bread at the commissary and left.
It's not that I can't eat when no one calls me to eat, but occasionally I think eating has become less fun.
When familiar friends stop shouting for dinner, it may mean that the relationship begins to drift apart. The reason is still the same: "If you have a good relationship, you will find you to eat together, the relationship is not so good, and eat a woolen meal?" ”
Suddenly, I felt that when we were young, we always liked to write down in the classmates' records: "Friendship lasts forever". Do you say that it is because we know that friendship is actually difficult to last for a long time, so we keep writing down to pray?
Some of the people who called me to dinner had already been lost by me. Our friendship has not been able to do as we write about "longevity".
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However, it is said that we always have to keep forgetting and growing along the way. The old will disperse, the new will arrive, the old and the new will exchange, and the cycle will go to the old.
I went to college and was greeted by a new wave of people who would call me to dinner. The most impressive thing is that it is not long before I change into the identity of "new student".
Survived the harsh military training period, but unexpectedly survived the adaptation period of the new life. Facing the bigger world makes me, a person who came out of a small place, feel afraid.
For a while, I always shrugged my head and walked like a walking dead on the school road. I began to feel like a deer who had mistakenly entered the forbidden land and should have escaped.
Thinking east and west, is not thinking of the good, forcing yourself into a dead end, hitting your head and bleeding without turning your head, stubborn as if you have a serious illness.
At this time, a senior called out to the students on QQ to eat together. Because I usually talk a lot on the Internet, I went, and there were several boys of the same class.
That meal was eaten in a restaurant in front of the school. At the dinner table, everyone had a good chat. So much so that the pictures I think of now, I remember my smiling faces.
Later, I changed from a new life to what everyone called "old fritters". When I happened to think of this, I mentioned it to the senior student online and thanked him again for calling me to dinner.
The senior's memory is also very good, and told me that the reason why he would call us a few smaller ones to go out to dinner was because he saw that the words I sent were very low, and wanted to take us to eat a meal, let me know that the new life is not so bad, and I still have their group of friends!
Franklin said, "Brothers may not be friends, but friends are often like brothers." "Oops, that's right!
Suddenly, I was grateful that someone had called me to dinner.
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In fact, if we pay a little attention, we will find that the people who call you to eat are not only friends. Family, loved ones, and all those who really care about you will do so voluntarily and willingly.
When you are out of boarding school, your friends will call you to dinner; when you are at home, your family will call you to eat; when you have an object, the object will tell you to eat well.
How can such a person allow himself to lose it?
Especially when you grow up, although there is no shortage of people calling you to eat, most of them may either because they have no one to find, so they casually pull you together; or they have something to ask for, with the purpose of "please help" to call you to eat together.
It's rarely the kind of way I want to spend more time with you just because I like you, talk about the world, and double my happiness.
Therefore, when you grow up, people who will really call you to eat should cherish it.
It is said that "the mountains and rivers are not heavy enough, the emphasis is on meeting the confidant", if you are in a busy world, you can still care about you from time to time, such a friendship, do not give up.
Your friends still love you, and every time they call you to dinner, it's like telling you, "I'll meet a lot of interesting people, but I'll never leave you behind."
There is a saying that goes, "Everyone, every stage has friends at every stage, but you will always be my friend." ”
"Hey, are you free to eat together?"
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