In life, have you ever seen news about the content of "replacement quotas", and whenever you see these news, whether your heart is uneven for the unfortunate. In addition to anger, I don't know if you have found that many "replacement incidents" are labeled like this: rural, poor.
Chen Chunxiu and Gou Jing's experience has opened up the "fig leaf" that has been sealed for many years, who has lived today and not to talk about it, they have all worked hard for their dreams, thinking that the efforts have no results, but they do not know that many years ago, for people with hearts, deliberately rewritten, life is developing in the opposite direction.
Why are the college entrance examination replaced by girls?
Whether it is Chen Chunxiu or Gou Jing, in recent years, the "replacement" case of the college entrance examination has been successively broken, and most of the victims are girls in rural areas.
Poverty is the "umbrella" of cowardice. Poverty is not terrible, what is terrible is the negative impact of poverty, just like the saying that everyone often hears, "Some people use their lives to cure their childhood, and some people use their childhood to heal their lives", only those who have been "poor" know how far-reaching the impact of poverty on a person is.
Such people naturally become targets of outlaws, because the conditions are limited, and the path of reading books cannot withstand the wind and rain. Because they are girls, it is easier to go against the grain and give in to fate.
It is not so much poverty as it has a lot to do with the education of parents. Parents have a profound influence on their children's development path.
No matter what the environment, parents must teach their children this!
1) Learn to fight and dare to question
Although it is a simple eight words, it is something that many people cannot do. Parents should teach their children to fight for their own, not to be greedy for others, and to speak out boldly when they have doubts about something.
As parents, when their children are treated unfairly, they should stand up to help their children, let their children live in good faith, and have their own set of regulations for treating people and things.
2) Independent thinking, independent life
With the improvement of living standards, more and more families are unscrupulously spoiling children under the banner of "rich support", clothes to reach out, food to open their mouths, children get physical enjoyment, but lose the ability to live.
Whether poor or rich families, from an early age, we must cultivate children's independent ability, let children do what they can, start from small things, children have the ability to live, have life experience, in order to encounter problems, good at thinking, the courage to question, dare to argue according to reason.
3) Improve children's interpersonal skills
Nowadays, there are more and more families with only children, electronic products are becoming more and more abundant, and children cannot get enough communication at home, and it is inevitable that they will be cowardly and timid when they go out. The child lacks social skills and will not resist if he is treated unfairly in the past.
At home, we must communicate more with the child, even if the child cannot respond accurately in time, the child's thinking ability will be exercised over time. Take your child out more when you are fine, let your child have more contact with your peers, and exercise your child's interpersonal skills, so that your child will not be overwhelmed when you enter the society.
4) Accept failure and accept your imperfect self
Many families are now too protective of their children's education, but social reality will not comfort and tolerate. Everyone is not perfect every step of the way, and everything they do can be successful.
Why more and more adolescents suffer from mental illness, lack of ability to resist stress and frustration. Parents should let their children recognize their own shortcomings, appropriately let their children taste the taste of failure, and give children space to digest.
Economic conditions are not shortcomings, and children must face up to poverty
Poverty is not wrong, learn to face up to your own economic conditions. Many parents play swollen faces and become fat, creating an economically prosperous environment for their children, which is not conducive to the growth of their children in the long run. Poverty is not wrong, as long as you work hard to have a rich day, it is important to recognize reality.
Don't let your child live in a fictitious environment, let your child understand the family's economic situation, and let your child know that every grass and tree in the family is not easy to come by. Remember not to cry in front of your children, be positive and sunny, and smile at tomorrow no matter where you are.
Kojima would like to say:
Poor and strong, do not fall into the ambition of the clouds. If you can't provide a rich life for your child, give your child a rich spiritual world.