I seemed to have lost myself.
A friend, with all his strength to love a person, for the other party to give up their own circle, give up their hobbies, give up their own pursuits, focus on each other, but the result is only in exchange for the other party to propose to break up.
There is no third party, and the reason given by the other party is that he feels that he is too selfless and does not like such feelings.
When I just broke up, my friend was helpless, feeling that he was so humble precisely because he loved too much, and everything was centered on the other party, and even he did not hesitate to wronged himself, and the other party should not live up to his affection.
But after a while, when he calmed down and began to reminisce about the bits and pieces of the time he had been with, he found that unconsciously, he seemed to have lost all his self, and he didn't know himself.
It was at that time that he seemed to understand a little bit why the other party chose to leave.
Loving a person, whether male or female, many people seem to be easy to make a mistake, once they love, they will completely forget themselves, however, love has to give, to treat each other well, before that, we actually need to love ourselves well.
Be yourself and accept your truest self.
When you like someone, many people tend to become very unconfident.
Always worry that they are not good enough, the other party will not like, always worry about their own dress, can not enter the eyes of the other party, always worry about their own personality, the other party will feel bad.
Then in order to please the other party, often just according to the other party's preferences, completely give up their own cognition.
Sometimes, when the other party points out to themselves, we often do not doubt each other, but will feel that it is really our own problem, we should listen to each other, according to each other's requirements.
In fact, for the sake of love, make some changes appropriately, and if these changes can really make the relationship between each other better, it does not matter, it is very worthwhile.
However, changing that does not mean that we must completely follow the other party's standards as the standard, even if the other party is clearly suppressing us and brainwashing us in various ways, we do not dispute it.
We always have to remember that we are only ourselves first, and then whose boyfriend or girlfriend, when we are originally an independent individual, we really don't have to always make ourselves different because of who we are.
Even if there are many shortcomings, you still have to accept yourself, be brave to be yourself, and live according to your own favorite way. Only in this way will we have our own unique charm and will not be disturbed by others
Maintain an independent and have your own life.
Moving the truth, will want to be with each other all the time, will want to understand each other's interests and hobbies, and love the same things with each other, this is nothing wrong.
Just when trying to integrate into each other's lives, we must not forget that in addition to each other, we should still have our own things we want to do, have our own friends and circles, and where we want to go.
In feelings, being clingy is a good thing, which will seem very sweet, but too clingy, it will always make people feel suffocated.
It is best to spend some time with each other and do something with each other.
Then you have to set yourself some time to immerse yourself in your own world and maintain your years.
Two people together, always put each other first, completely give up their own lives, that is never advisable, this will not only not let the other party continue to give us extra points, in the eyes of the other party, we will only lose more and more attractive.
Love each other again, that also needs independent space, there is space, each other can become a better self, but also can often bring some surprises to each other, so that each other, can always maintain a sense of freshness.
Moreover, when we have our own life and are with each other, we will live well, even if we lose each other, we will not feel that we have lost everything, and we will still have a strength to continue to move forward.
Keep your principles and bottom lines, and don't get lost in love.
If we love, of course, we should tolerate each other more, accommodate each other more, and let each other more.
When arguing, there is no need to be overly calculating, just choose to give in, when there is a contradiction, do not always wait for the other party to bow down, you can take the initiative to seek peace, when there is a difference between each other, do not always want to win, but take into account the feelings of the other party.
It doesn't matter if we give more and lose more, but that doesn't mean that no matter what we do, we have to satisfy each other, and we have to rely on each other's ideas.
No matter what, we must have our own bottom line, even if we love, do not do something that should not be done.
It is like borrowing money for each other, letting yourself bear a lot of debts, like at the instigation of the other party, to do something that will cause harm to yourself, like to prove love, to try something that should not be tried.
He even said that he used his life to tell the other party that he loved the other party.
In short, even if you love again, you must not be too crazy, do not lose your mind, or always keep your conscience, keep your own principles, do something, and do something.
Using a particularly extreme way to tell each other that they love each other will not only not prove anything, but will only make our situation particularly troublesome, and let our lives also fall into trouble.
I agree with the saying that before you love someone, you must first love yourself well.
It can be said that if we don't know how to love ourselves at all, then we probably can't talk about love at all.
Of course, loving yourself does not mean becoming selfish, just thinking about yourself, but saying that you must first know who you are, and first make yourself a better individual.
Have their own personality, have their own characteristics, and have their own hobbies.
Even if it is ordinary, it also has its own distinct personal characteristics, which are different from all others.
Love, that is never to give up all of themselves, just listen to each other, should first become a better self, give each other a better quality lover, so that each other have a higher quality relationship.
Text/Tan Meng
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