In the relationship, many people are accustomed to the boyfriend coaxing himself, one feels that the boyfriend loves himself, and the other is some of the girls' small nature, but it is not realistic for one person to continue to coax another person.
I received a letter from a girl saying that every time I was sick, I hoped that he could accompany me and comfort me, not only did not, even he did not care, still next to play games and eat, but also let me play with him, not at all hurt me.
He didn't hurt me the slightest bit, so he didn't let me play knowing that I was sick and acted as if nothing had happened.
Want to separate but reluctantly, similar to this kind of boyfriend does not coax a lot of situations, everyone is very entangled in the end whether to continue.
Everyone in life has their own worries, and sometimes they are irritable enough, and it is a little too tiring to coax another person.
So when you are angry, your boyfriend does not coax you, should you continue or break up? In fact, it is not possible to generalize, and it needs to be divided into two situations.
One, complete disregard for your feelings
Although men are thicker than women, no one is really low emotional intelligence, has no feelings for the feelings of the other party, even if it is really not coaxing people, men who care about people, when you are angry, will say a few good words, or accompany you silently.
At least he won't act like he's okay, what to do, and turn a blind eye to your feelings.
Especially you have just begun to get along for a short time, at this time he should be more attentive to you, if you can't get his care, then it is even more unlikely that he will care about you in the future.
Maybe a person's personality is very wooden, can't say nice words, and doesn't know how to comfort people at all, but sincerity and sincerity can make people feel.
If you are still asking yourself, "Does he love me or not?", it is "not loving", whether he is raising fish or "raising fish".
At this time, the relationship between you should be carefully examined, as long as you are not overworked, then ignoring your feelings is basically equivalent to not loving you so much, maybe there is a like, but this kind of like can not withstand the trivialities of the long years to come.
The other is that you overdo it
Because everyone defaults to men coaxing girls, so sometimes girls will be more sensitive, a little wind and grass on the hope that the other party to coax, the beginning may be OK, but if the other party is busy at work, often have to deal with this kind of thing will be more tired.
Slowly he will be noisy and ignore your requests, because it is not a big deal, in this case you have to combine Marshall Luxemburg's "Nonviolent Communication" to communicate well.
Learning to state objective facts, which here refers to objective facts, such as that you didn't pick me up when it rained today, and it's not that you didn't pick me up or you don't love me, which are two completely different expressions.
Then express your feelings, such as being uncomfortable, instead of accusing, why don't you come, at least first see if the other party has any reason.
The last is to propose a solution, some people only complain that the emotions do not give the direction of the solution communication is unreasonable, because the other party does not know what you want to do.
In fact, normal male and female friends must have comfort, care, it is impossible to have no waves on each other's emotions, and even change the topic to escape.
Like a person although not so exaggerated will pay attention to her words and deeds, but to be able to continue to be together is definitely interested in each other's lives.
Because even if you are willing to listen to an insignificant topic, you must be really interested in the things that the other person is concerned about. And will accumulate a lot of common emotions in this process of communication.
That is, there is a response to every sentence, you have been talking nonsense, he thinks it is funny, will be willing to listen, you can come and go, form a good positive cycle, the feelings will continue.
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Interpret emotional confusion, pay attention to marriage problems, and be willing to listen to your sorrow and happiness, along the way