Text: Flipping through the books in his spare time
"It's not the pain that chooses you, it's the pain that you choose." Choice theory lets us know that we control our lives more than we think.
—William Glasser, The Theory of Choice
If we have a lot more control over our lives than we think, this is really exciting news.
If you can choose, whether it is reason or emotion, people will definitely choose a perfect life, no worries, only happiness.
Our avoidance is roughly because we feel the pain in life, and we want to avoid the problem in an avoidant way, or wait for the problem to disappear on its own. But the pitfalls of life also lie in this, avoiding problems and bringing more pain.
This is probably the reason why "we chose pain". Because we want to be perfect, we end up missing out on the life we really want.
Bravery means clarifying one's goals and having the courage to overcome difficulties and obstacles on the road, which is a sense of control over life. If you want something, just take what you want.
In my opinion, it is impossible for a person to control his own life, and there are too many unknown factors to disrupt a person's "perfect plan". So, if you only evaluate the feeling of control based on whether the goal is achieved or not, no one will be the winner.
Life is the winner of the outcome.
For us, the real sense of control in life lies in the ability to stick to our will, not to avoid, and not to make excuses for avoidance.
Facing everything is the true source of life's sense of control.
From this point of view, people who are brave and loyal to themselves really have a firm grip on the steering wheel of their lives.
He drives on his own road, whether it is flat and wide, or bumpy and bumpy, he is always in control of his life.
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The beauty of words penetrates the literal and reaches the heart. "Flip the book in your spare time" Thank you for reading.
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