The psychological story of a lifetime of healing

165. Adoption – a role model for being human

【Harvard Heart Language】

Without virtue there is no real happiness.

- Rousseau

【Story Hall】

One winter night, Lowward's wife accidentally left her purse in a hospital. Lowward was so anxious that he rushed back to the hospital overnight to find it because it contained $100,000 in his purse and, more importantly, a confidential market information.

When Loward rushed to the hospital, he saw a thin girl crouching in the hallway against the base of the wall, clutching his purse tightly in her arms. The girl's name was Lisa, and she came to the hospital to accompany her mother to treat her illness. Mom's illness was severe and she needed a lot of money. She found the bag in the hospital corridor, and the money in it was enough to treat her mother, but she eventually decided to return the bag to its owner.

Loward was grateful and offered much-needed help, but Lisa's mother died. Lowward decided to adopt Lisa. Lisa later received a good education and became Loward's right-hand man. On his deathbed, Loward left behind a will: "I was already rich before I knew Lisa's mother and daughter. But they made me realize that the greatest capital in life is character. I adopted Lisa not out of compassion, but to ask for a role model. She is by my side, and in the business field, I will always remember what to do, what not to do, what money to make, and what money not to make. This is the fundamental reason why my career is more developed. After I die, all my billions of assets are left to Lisa. It's not a gift, it's about making my career more prosperous. I am convinced that my wise son can understand his father's good intentions. ”

Loward's son returned from abroad, and after carefully reading his father's will, he did not hesitate to sign the inheritance agreement: "I agree that Lisa will inherit all of her father's assets, but I hope lisa can be my wife." After reading The signature of Loward's son, Lisa smiled slightly, and also signed with a pen: "I accept all the property left by my ancestors, including his son." ”

【Wisdom Highlight】

In the face of great temptation, Lisa still has a heart that loves others and thinks about others, which shocks Loward's heart.

A person's success is always associated with his love for others, because loving others will definitely bring good luck to himself. He who loves others, he loves himself. No matter what happens in the world, we have to be open and sincere in helping others. In this way, your benevolent heart will emit fragrance like a rose, and your smile will soothe the hearts of others like a breeze.

Love can create miracles, can bring warmth, and any kind of broad love will be rewarded in reality. Therefore, when we complain that there is too little love in the world, we should first reflect on whether we have given love first. When you bring care and warmth to others with a kind heart, you will also be able to appreciate the true feelings of the world.

166. Greedy and stupid wolf

The best gold cannot withstand the wear and tear of human hands, and although he is a good and decent man of good reputation, he will not be ashamed if he falls. —Shakespeare

Generally speaking, what people call greed refers to a person's strong desire for money and wealth. The so-called "people die for money, birds die for food", this is what is said. There is such a fable.

Foxes and wolves are sworn enemies, and in the animal kingdom, they have been fighting in the open, longing for higher positions and power. But the wolf was luckier than the fox, and the wolf was promoted, and the fox got nothing.

How do you bring down the wolf? The fox pondered and finally came up with a plan.

The fox went to meet the wolf and said sincerely, "Brother Wolf, in the past I was sorry for you, but I was wrong, you must forgive me." ”

When the wolf saw the fox come to the door and admit his mistake, he was proud of himself and said with a humble look: "Nothing, don't mention the past, let's look forward in unity." ”

The fox and the wolf have a long conversation and actively advise the wolf, and when they leave, the fox must leave a small gift. The wolf felt that he could not give the fox too much face, so he accepted it, and the fox did not ask for anything anyway.

The fox came and went every three to five minutes, bringing some gifts each time, neither light nor heavy, and the wolf gradually became accustomed to it. One day the fox said to the wolf, "Now the sheep and the pig are fighting over a piece of grass, and the sheep have a good relationship with me. ”

The wolf knew about this, it was not a big deal, so he did it for the fox, and after that, the fox took more gifts to thank. In the long run, the fox asks the wolf to do more and more things, of course, more and more gifts, and unconsciously, more and more beyond the scope of the principle.

Finally, once, the fox asked the wolf to do a very dangerous thing, and after the promise was completed, there would be a heavy thanks, and the wolf would not do it. The fox took out a small notebook with a record of the time and reason of each bribe taken by the wolf, and all kinds of evidence were complete, which was enough to ruin the future of the wolf. Reluctantly, the wolf promised to help the fox again, not as an example.

There is no next time, the wolf east window incident, will spend the rest of his life in prison.

In the course of human history, greed can be said to be the greatest enemy of mankind. It is one of the important flaws in human nature that cannot be hidden. Human desire is infinite, especially the possessiveness of the external material world, which is a bottomless abyss.

In real life, everywhere is full of temptations, and people's possessiveness is often strongly stimulated in this way. Greedy people are slaves to desire, driven by desire, busy, used by others, and ultimately harm others and harm themselves. Therefore, we must always warn ourselves to reduce our desires, so that we can escape the clutches of greed and gain peace of mind.

167. A bowl of soup that no one drinks

Good things are often because they are sincere.

--Romain Rolland

In a restaurant, a beautiful lady ordered a bowl of soup, sat down at the table, and suddenly remembered that she had forgotten to take the cutlery. So she got up to get the cutlery and then went back to the table. To her surprise, however, a black man sat across from her seat, drinking her bowl of soup.

"This scoundrel, he has no right to drink my soup," the beautiful young lady pondered breathlessly, "but perhaps he is too poor, too hungry." I still didn't say a word, but I couldn't let him drink all the soup alone. ”

So the beautiful lady pretended to be indifferent, sat down face to face with the negro at the same table, picked up the spoon, and drank the soup silently.

In this way, a bowl of soup is drunk by two people, you take a sip, I take a sip, and the two people look at each other, both silent.

At this moment, the negro suddenly stood up, brought a large plate of pastries, and placed them in front of her, with two forks inserted in the pastries.

The two men continued to eat, and after eating, they each stood up straight and prepared to leave. "Goodbye." Beautiful lady said kindly. "Goodbye!" The Negro replied enthusiastically. He seemed particularly pleasant and felt very relieved. Because he thought he had done a good thing today to help a poor and beautiful young lady.

After the negro left, the beautiful lady found that on a nearby table, there was a bowl of unwashed soup, which was her own bowl.

There are often misunderstandings and estrangements in interpersonal communication, which bring suspicion and resentment to our interactions, and as long as we understand each other, misunderstandings and estrangements can become touching memories.

Understanding is great, it closes the distance between hearts, enhances the feelings between people, deepens friendships, and avoids meaningless disputes. Understanding is a comfortable bridge, only by understanding others can we get the understanding of others. Understanding that brings happiness to others and frees oneself from the suffering of troubles can be described as both beneficial and self-interested.

168. Strange Angler [Harvard HeartTalk]

The cause of all the sadness and lack in my life is only due to my own annual income of a few pounds less. Whenever I think of this, achievement is stunned by the importance of money.

—George Ghishing

Several people fished on the shore and there were tourists enjoying the sea view next to it. I saw an angler with his rod raised and caught a large fish, 3 feet long, and still jumped after landing on the shore. However, the angler stepped on the big fish with his foot, untied the hook in the fish's mouth, and threw the fish into the sea.

The onlookers around let out an exclamation, "Such a big fish cannot satisfy him, which shows the great ambition of the angler." "Just as everyone was holding their breath, the angler's fishing rod was raised again, this time catching a 2-foot long fish, and the angler still did not look at it and threw it into the sea.

The third time, the angler's fishing rod was raised again, only to see a small fish less than 1 foot long hooked at the end of the fishing line, and the onlookers thought that the fish would definitely be released back into the sea, but the angler unwrapped the fish and carefully put it back into his fishing basket.

Puzzled, the crowd asked the angler, "Why give up the big and take the small?" Unexpectedly, the angler's answer was: "Because the largest plate in my house is only 1 foot long, and the fish that is too big to catch back, the plate can't fit." ”

Life is like a glass of water, and the magnificence of the cup shows whether a person is rich or poor. But the water in the cup is clear, colorless and tasteless, just like anyone. Next, you have the right to add salt and sugar as much as you like. In reality, how many people want to add all kinds of ingredients to it in order to make their cup of water color and fragrance good, such as love, friendship, money... So they all feel very "tired" from living. Therefore, do not be too greedy, there will be greed and loss, only those who can stop at the right time are truly wise.

169 Don't be a slave to money

Whoever is not satisfied will not be happy, even if he is the master of the world.

- Epicurus

Leo Roston is the fattest Hollywood movie star in the United States. In 1936, while performing in England, he was admitted to Thompson Emergency Center for myocardial failure. The rescue personnel used the best medicine and used the most advanced equipment, but still did not save his life. Before dying, Roston muttered in despair: "Your body is huge, but all you need for life is a heart!" ”

Roseton's words deeply touched the Dean Harden present, and as a thoracic surgeon, he shed tears. As a tribute to Roston, and as a reminder to people who were overweight, he had Roston's last words engraved on the hospital floor.

In 1983, an American named Merle also lived with heart failure. He was an oil tycoon, and the Iran-Iraq War plunged ten of his companies in the Americas into crisis. In order to get out of the predicament, he kept going back and forth between Europe, Asia and the United States, and finally the old disease recurred and he had to live in. He chartered a floor at Thompson Hospital, adding five telephones and two fax machines. The Times at the time rendered it this way: Thompson, the oil center of the Americas. Merle's heart surgery was successful, and he was discharged from the hospital after a month here. But he did not return to the United States. There is a villa in the Scottish countryside that he bought ten years ago, where he lived.

In 1998, Thompson Hospital celebrated its centennial and invited him to attend. When asked why he sold his company, he pointed to the line of gold on the hospital building. I don't know if the reporter understood what he meant, in short, there was no report on it in the media at that time. Later, people found this sentence in one of Merle's biographies: "Rich and fat are no different, they are just getting more than what they need." ”

Some people want to be respected for their wealth, but it only exposes their emptiness and stupidity even more. The famous Spanish writer Cervantes once said: "Money, either a slave or a master, must be one of the two." "How you choose is in your hands. There is a "money feeling" that is in line with the times, which is easy to say, but it is difficult to do in practice. Because the idea and creativity of things are more or less limited by the environment in which they grow, although they know, they are not easy to do.

Therefore, we must remember: "Do not be a slave to money!" "This basic idea alone is worth spanning any era.

170. Warming options

People who do not respect the feelings of others will eventually only cause hatred and hatred from others.

- Carnegie

During a battle, the young King Arthur was captured by soldiers from neighboring countries. The king of the neighboring country admired Arthur's bravery and talent, did not kill him, and promised to release Arthur as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur spent a year thinking about it. If he doesn't have an answer in a year's time, he'll be put to death. The question is: what do women really want.

In desperation, Arthur accepted the king's question—giving him an answer on the last day of the year.

Arthur returned to his country and began to ask everyone for answers: princesses, prostitutes, priests, wise men, court clowns, and he asked all the people, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. People told him to consult an old witch, and probably only she knew the answer. But they remindEdur that the witch's fees were very high, and that her expensive fees were well known throughout the country.

When the last day of the year came, Arthur had no choice but to go to the witch. The witch agrees to answer his question, but he must first accept her quid pro quo: marryIngwin, one of King Arthur's noblest Round Table warriors and his closest friend. King Arthur was horrified, looking at the witch, hunchbacked, ugly, with only one tooth, emitting a foul smell like a stinking gutter, and often making obscene sounds. He had never seen such an unspeakable monster. He refused, and he couldn't force his friend to marry such a woman and leave himself with a heavy mental baggage.

When Gavin learned of the news, he said to Arthur, "I agree to marry a witch, and there is nothing more important than saving King Arthur's life and saving the Round Table." The wedding was announced, and the witch answered Arthur's question: What a woman really wants is to take charge of her own destiny. So Arthur was saved.

Let's take a look at The Gavin and the Witch's Wedding, what kind of wedding it is! Arthur felt deep pain and remorse for this. However, Gavin is as humble as ever, while the witch performs her worst behavior at the celebration, disgusting and disgusting to everyone. The wedding night came, and Gawen was still strong enough to face the terrible night and walk into the new house. What kind of scene awaited him? A beautiful girl he had never seen before was half lying on the marriage bed! Garvin was stunned and asked her what was going on. Belle replied that because Gawen was very kind to her when she was an ugly witch, she decided that half of the day was beautiful, and let Gavin choose whether to let her present her terrible side during the day or her beautiful girly side during the day.

What a cruel question! Gavin began to ponder his dilemma: to show a beautiful woman to his friends during the day, and at night, in his own house, to face an old and ugly ghostly witch, or to have an ugly witch wife during the day but spend the night with a beautiful woman?

In the end, Gawen did not make any choice, but said to his wife: "Since what a woman wants most is to control her own destiny, it is up to you to decide." So the witch chose to be a beautiful woman day and night.

Understanding and respecting others is a reflection of a person's goodness. However, in reality, there are many people who like others to live according to their own wishes, whether others like it or not. In fact, you get more when you try to think, understand, and respect other people's wishes in your relationships.