We have been growing up as parents
Text/Jiang Yanwei
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When I was a child, I had a persistent high fever and received meticulous care from my mother.
Later, I quietly hoped to get sick again, so as to get my mother's love.
But in fact, mom's love has always been there,
Just drowned in the ordinary daily life,
It is not easy for us to detect.
Before, whether it was books or real life,
Whether it's my parents' generation or our generation,
Parents raise their children with little psychological education,
There is only some parenting health knowledge, and other aspects are lacking.
Many children grow up with the original intention of raising one and two.
This is true of our fathers, and so are we.
Mom and Dad love us, and we love our children,
How to love, I don't know.
Everyone is a first-time mom and takes a lot of detours.
Yesterday, I heard a lecture by a teacher who said that educating children is a regret-type art.
We always know how to do it after we've walked through it.
At this time, either the child has grown up, or some things have become irreparable.
We now understand that the formation of our various personality behaviors is due to the reasons of the original family.
And we treat our children while inadvertently continuing the way moms and dads do.
Is it because we don't love our children?
No, it's just that we don't know how to love.
Once I was injured, my mother applied medicine to me over and over again, massaged me, very serious, very patient.
Looking at the mother who has begun to grow old, her heart is full of mixed feelings.
On the one hand, I enjoy my mother's love, but I also feel guilty because my mother worries about herself.
Mom said, in fact, I have never been eccentric to the three of you sisters and brothers, all the same.
I said, I know.
I know that my mother has always felt guilty that my sister and brother did not go to school, and I also know that my mother has taken more care of them over the years.
I wanted to say to my mother, I don't blame her, I never opened my mouth.
Often for those closest to us, we can't say the warmest words.
It seems to be a bit numb to say it, and we are not used to this expression.
It's like Mom and Dad's love for us.
I remember once taking a family education class, and the little Sister Hua who studied together was a girl from Hunan who married us from afar.
She called her mom and said "Mom, I love you, I miss you"! The mother on the other end of the phone couldn't stop crying and asked what had happened.
We were in tears.
Every mom and dad has a different level of education, but the heart that loves their children is the same.
Not to say that it is not to love, not to love is not to love.
I hope that as parents, we can all become people who love our children and know how to love them.
The book "From Birth to Independence", which is about the parenting psychology of parents, is really well written.
Now books, I always have the feeling of seeing each other and hating the night, fortunately, it is not too late.
If you have time, check out the parenting books.
Books can give us nutrition, strength and direction, and they can also avoid us from taking many detours.
Today, just relax and look at your favorite book. Write about your mood.
Every mom and dad loves their children in their own way.
I hope that every mom and dad will become wiser and more intelligent and jump out of parenting anxiety.
See the child, see yourself, see the family, go out of your own heart.
【About the author】Jiang Yanwei, bachelor degree, bachelor of science, graduated from Liaocheng University, secondary and primary school teacher, is currently working in Xinting Yixinyuan Primary School. As a primary school mathematics teacher, I am willing to lead students to grow up with my heart and be a good teacher and friend for my children. Educational motto: Teachers and students grow together, and education is a practice in which teachers and students complete each other.