Today, it is the 10th International Non-Binary People's Day. This is a gender identity that does not belong to the traditional male/female binary division.
July 14 is between International Men's Day and Women's Day.
On the 26th of last month, Hikari Utada came out on an ins live broadcast, declaring himself a "gender non-binary."
Ta once said:
I'm tired of having to choose between "Miss/Mrs/Ms" every day, and the feeling of being "classified" based on physical/marital status is very uncomfortable because none of these prefixes are "it's me".
Every time I was forced to choose a title, I had to pretend not to be me—until recently I discovered that there was also "Mx." This genderless title. It was simply amazing! Hope more people know.
When I talked about the term "non-binary," a friend of mine who didn't hear well thought she had won some mathematical prize.
What exactly is "non-binary gender"?
Is it neutral, hermaphrodite, or gender-neutral, and both men and women prefer?
The real thoughts of a non-binary gender person might be:
"Gender identity like male/female means nothing to me".
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Lester hated being called ta girls as a child, but he didn't feel like a "boy trapped in a girl's body."
Every time he fills out the form to select "male or female", he always draws an additional option box: none of the above.
The term "non-binary gender" is not new, it is as old as human history. Academics refer to this category as "Non-binary/genderqueer(NBGQ)."
For a non-binary gender:
Ta's gender is not exactly "male/female" in the tradition. It could be a gender mix, or you feel like you don't have a gender at all.
Their gender identity is a "fluid" or "unrecognized" state, or it may simply be an expression of "rejection of gender binary norms" (Monro, 2019).
For example, some people's genders blend "masculine and feminine," some people don't identify with any gender, and some people's genders change over time.
Ta's identity development is more flexible and less linear than that of "transgender people" because it usually does not lead to a specific gender identity and does not necessarily feel "living in the wrong body" (Fiani, 2018).
"I knew I wasn't a man, and gradually I understood that I probably wasn't a woman either. The problem is that we live in a world that requires us to be neither male nor female. "Gender is a caterpillar"
To put it bluntly, it's just a gender experience. There are many similar non-binary terms, such as:
Agender (lack of gender, genderlessness, or lack of concern for gender identity)
bigender (having two gender identities at the same time or switching between two gender identities) and so on
It can be a state of flow.
There is a scene in the Japanese drama "Escape Is Shameful but Useful":
Mom and Dad plan to give their child a name that "can't see the gender." In this way, if the boy wants to become a girl in the future, and the girl wants to become a boy in the future, he can save a lot of trouble.
In addition, many people who see this news are concerned about who Utada Hikaru "likes". But people are completely mistaken for the point, and this passage only indicates "who I am" -
Non-binary gender as a "Gender identity" concept has nothing to do with "Sexual identity".
A person of a non-binary gender can have any sexual orientation. If they are primarily attracted to a single gender, they can also express themselves in terms of same/heterosexuality at the same time.
Icon for the "non-binary gender" group
Gender identity is important because it relates to "the individual's inner experience and perception of the self."
When you can't use the language you identify with to describe your gender, "being yourself" can be a struggling concept — if it can't be precisely defined, you may feel alienated from your "true self."
In the words of the therapist Urquhart, non-binary people have a "deep, persistent uneasiness" that does not conform to the norms of biological sex constructed by society.
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Hikaru Utada, 38, lamented that he had only figured out his gender identity in recent years, wondering if he had "learned too late."
As Han (2018) found in a qualitative survey on identity development, non-binary people do start identity exploration (identity labeling and self-presentation) and disclosure late (compared to transgender people).
Researchers believe that this "delay" is mainly related to the lack of information resources about non-binary gender (i.e., social awareness, role models, support spaces, educational materials).
Because it took them a long time to know who they were, they often suffered from high rates of negative psychological effects. Some relevant studies have shown that:
Non-binary gender people are at higher risk of employment discrimination, more isolated and unhappy, more psychological problems, and higher rates of suicidal ideation compared to "straight people" (García et al., 2018)
Gender consistency and physical satisfaction are significantly lower (Jones et al., 2019)
Less feeling of support from family and friends, lower life satisfaction (Bradford et al., 2019)
More than half of respondents reported clinical levels of depression, and more than a third reported clinical levels of anxiety (Budge et al., 2014).
To make matters worse, James et al. (2016) found that 70 percent of people of non-binary gender said they needed gender-related counseling, but only 31 percent had access to psychological clinical services.
"I've been fighting my gender all my life". In 2019, British singer Sam Smith openly identified herself as a non-binary gender
So, Hikaru Utada is really doing a great thing. Choosing to bring the private message of gender identity to the public space may help some people to break away from uncomfortable frameworks and explore themselves as early as possible.
If you're still a "non-binary gender" explorer, you can:
Learn as many different gender concepts as possible. This is not the meaning of having to sit in the right seat, but to create a little space for yourself to explore;
Look for some role models. Not necessarily people who align with your gender identity, but people who "can encourage you to be your true self";
Have fun exploring yourself and be gentle with yourself. You can try having a trusted friend address you with different gender pronouns and names, and explore which changes make you feel better.
In 2020, Gucci set up the "non-binary gender unit" GUCCI Mx to bring more fashion items to gender fluidity
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If you have "non-binary" friends and colleagues around you, using inclusive gender expressions and gender-neutral language to express support may mean a lot to them.
The seventh edition of the American Psychological Association (APA) Handbook has announced support for the use of "they" as an singular third-person pronoun to refer to "non-binary gender persons."
1) For the person in charge of public media and company culture:
Avoid gender-sensitive words (e.g., "his", "hers", "theirs", "theirs") and use neutral pronouns such as "its", "this", "the";
Use gender-neutral words such as "guys (colleagues or colleagues)" and "guys", etc. in the workplace (e.g., emails, text messages, letters, official records), etc. In Chinese spoken language, you can also use "everyone present (audience or guest)" (see "UN Gender Inclusive Language").
Dating matching site OKCupid has multiple gender identity tags, including nonbinary, agender, and bigender
2) If you are a mental health practitioner:
Avoid the emergence of gender binary assumptions in clinical practice;
Understand that without the right "transition" time and way, not everyone wants to "transition from one gender to another". But their wishes and plans may also change over time;
Practice using "gender-inclusive language" outside the treatment room so that you are more comfortable and fluent when you visit;
Label yourself as an ally, such as declaring yourself "non-binary gender-friendly";
When creating various forms, multiple gender identities and blank options are provided to make visitors feel gender-inclusive.
In 2019, Google launched 53 new emojis for gender migrants
3) If you are a regular colleague and friend:
You don't have to understand what a "non-binary gender" is, you don't have to understand his story, or it doesn't matter if it's difficult to understand it — just try not to make any assumptions about his gender.
For conversations that must involve gender identity, replace "hypothesis" with "ask questions".
When I read the book "Gender is a Caterpillar", I found that for sexual minorities, "asking questions" is a scarce commodity. They are always "assumed" and not "asked."
Kate Bernstein writes:
Adults don't ask questions. Adults are afraid to ask "What are you?" We just ask "What do you do?" ", in the hope of touching clues about the identity of the other party.
In our culture, gender identity seems to be an ineffable thing, just as in some cultures it is considered disrespectful to call it by its first name. By the same token, we wouldn't be shy about asking "What kind of sex do you like?" "We can't just ask questions unless it's a matter of work. Regarding gender and sexuality, we should carefully observe and seek our own conclusions.
Now, I try to make it easier to ask questions. I tell people that a sincere question doesn't hurt me, and that's true: a cold view hurts, a question doesn't.
But people still refuse to ask questions easily, perhaps out of courtesy. Everyone avoids talking about the nature of a person's gender. It seems that I have to resort to some special occasion, such as my living room, a TV interview, or a lectern at a university. It's "polite" not to say or ask, which is sad.
May you have a "undefined" freedom.
Cristiano Scandurra et al. Health of Non-binary and Genderqueer People: A Systematic Review. Front. Psychol., 25 June 2019. DOI: 10.3389/fpsyg.2019.01453
Kate Bernstein, Liao Aiwan, "Gender is a Caterpillar," November 2013, Nova Press
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