Zhuang Xinyan's song "Walking and Walking Away" has these lyrics:
Some people scatter as they walk, and some things fade away when they look at them
Some people forget when they think about it, and some people wake up when they do it
Only to find out that I was too naïve before, but the reality was so cruel
Along the way, we have known so many people, and at a certain platform in life, we quietly broke up, or even broke off friends, and from then on, we have been strangers to each other, or we have not known each other on the other side.
In fact, it is not that we have changed, but that we have matured, and the truly mature people are constantly breaking away from each other on the journey of life, leaving garbage socializing, and returning their own clean world.
In 2022, if you gradually stop associating with the following four kinds of people, it means that you are on the way, and feng shui will get better and better.
01 People who speak rudely no longer associate
A person's mouth is his feng shui.
As the saying goes: words are the voice of the heart, words are the state of mind. Language is like a mirror that can reflect a person's heart. A person speaks softly, reasonably, and is naturally liked by the people around him, and his luck comes uninvited. And a person who speaks rudely and is often rude, and the people around him of course only want to stay away, such a person is disgusting and will gradually lose popularity.
Such people around them abound, perhaps the person who speaks himself does not realize that there is anything wrong, or that he thinks that the relationship is close, friends gather together to eat, there is no need to pretend to be "elegant", so rude words open their mouths, even whether there are friends who meet for the first time.
Words are like water, said out, can not be received, and a person's character is also hidden in these small details, rude words, people will make people feel uncomfortable, mouth without cover is not an advantage, do not boast that this is "blunt and fast talk", really outspoken people, will not take rude words as a skill.
In 2022, stop associating with people who speak rudely, and your feng shui will get better and better.
02 People who do not understand gratitude no longer associate
As the saying goes, "Rise to the heart, fight the rice." ”
A man who does not understand gratitude, the better you are to him, the more you feel taken for granted in him. One day, you find that your efforts are not worth it, you take back your blind kindness, and in the eyes of the other party, you are the enemy.
The greatest evil of human nature is that it does not understand gratitude.
The grace of parents is greater than the sky, for parents who are getting old, do not know gratitude, do not filial piety, let parents have nothing to support, such people, as soon as possible away.
Friends to help each other, originally out of good intentions, but do not remember people's good, do not remember people's kindness, the friend's kindness is forgotten, when you fall into the trough, maybe also come to the well, such a person, as soon as possible away.
People who do not know gratitude, are used to taking, but never know how to reciprocate, and interacting with such people will only make you feel cold.
In 2022, no longer associate with people who do not understand gratitude, otherwise it will hurt yourself.
03 People who manipulate right and wrong, no longer interact
Meditation often thinks about oneself, and gossips about others.
Not manipulating right and wrong is a person's basic cultivation, and it is also the foundation of a person's handling of the world.
I don't know if there are any such people around you? Their own home is not easy to clean up, the dirty clothes at home are thrown around, the floor is dirty and there is no time to scrub, the children's homework is not well tutored, but there is a lot of leisure time to move right and wrong, catch the wind and catch the shadow.
Such a person can't sit still, her home is not her battlefield, her battlefield is in the same kind of crowd that likes to manipulate right and wrong. Especially when you meet a good person, it is like a fish in the water, the east and the west are short, chewing the root of the tongue over and over again, whoever has a little thing can make up a play.
I have such a person around me, very idle, the family is very chaotic, she said she is very busy, in fact, everyone knows that she is busy every day, busy inquiring about other people's family affairs, busy caring about the private life of colleagues, it is reasonable to say, these things have something to do with her? Of course not, but I can't control my mouth, and it's uncomfortable not to touch her mouth.
This kind of person spends his good time on boring things, he is becoming more and more addicted, there is no little progress, others are working hard to improve themselves, and this kind of person is increasingly abandoning himself, just waiting to eat and wait for death, which is really sad.
In 2022, no longer socializing with people who are manipulating right and wrong, you will save a lot of time and do more meaningful things.
04 People with wrong hearts no longer associate
In the "University", it is said: "If a man sees himself as he sees his lungs and liver, he will not be beneficial." ”
A person's character can be seen in his daily behavior. A person with a right heart does things in a bright and upright manner, while a person with an improper heart is weak, sinister and cunning, and treacherous, even if he disguises it, he can spy on his face.
When we interact with people with good minds, we will learn the advantages of each other and promote each other, which is a positive aspect. And people with wrong hearts, on the surface of one set, behind the back is another set, mouth honey belly sword, mouth smeared honey, and you call brothers, but behind the back is not sure when will you insert a knife.
People with unhealthy hearts often abandon the bottom line of being a person for the sake of interests, and can do anything, as long as they can win.
People with a right heart do things all by their own ability, will not engage in small actions, will not take advantage, and will not harm others for their own selfish interests.
In 2022, making friends needs to be cautious and no longer associate with people with wrong hearts, which is the greatest protection for their lives.
Waiting for idle changes but the old people's hearts, but the old people's hearts are changeable.
Along the way, leaving the above four kinds of people, although the road is narrow, it is actually wide.
In 2022, choose the good and the good, choose the gentleman, and the feng shui will get better and better.