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The network movie "Ice and Fire Phoenix" starring Yu Xiaotong and Zhu Shengyi is probably about a sadistic love in the context of family feuds, mixed with love and hate.
Of the 3 topics involved in the film, Ye Qiuchen believes that he can share some of his own feelings and answers, and welcome everyone to discuss them together.
As a work from the perspective of the heroine, it is recommended that girls ask themselves the following 3 questions when they are in love or entering a relationship.
1. How to balance love and responsibility?
In the movie, it is the tribe where the male and female protagonists are located that have grievances and contradictions, so the relationship between the two becomes complicated and difficult to deal with.
But what about putting it in real life?
If you meet a man you like, but the parents of both sides do not agree to your love, and the man has not been willing to give a clear position, and has not made the right position, do you still have to suffer with each other?
Love is your relationship with this man.
Responsibility is your relationship with family members.
How to balance?
For thousands of years, everyone has their own answer.
Some people give up true love, some people mistakenly believe in scumbags, and the answer is not fixed.
Ye Qiuchen believes that at this critical juncture, first see the man you want to be with (the most important), and then think seriously under the reasonable and non-emotional suggestions made by relatives and friends.
2. How to balance work and love (or marriage)?
In the movie, their "work" is different from our reality, but the truth is the same.
I have met, listened to my boyfriend's advice, and resigned.
I have also encountered that in order to work hard for my career, I completely disregarded my boyfriend's feelings.
We can't think about things from one extreme, there must always be a balance.
Ye Qiuchen's advice here is that everyone has their own choices and has to pay for them.
Sugar cane does not have two sweet ends, and things must be conclusive.
People have limited energy, can be both outstanding in work, but also can perfectly balance the companionship in love, this kind of person is not absent, but very few.
So if you think you should choose love, then you have to sacrifice in your career, but within the scope of your ability, it is best not to give up work.
This is also to leave a way back for yourself, to avoid changes and too passive.
If you choose a career, then weaken the need for love, solid down and do a good job. Although the traditional concept is that love, marriage and children are the norm, it does not apply to everyone.
If you choose, try not to regret it, after all, the world is a dilemma.
However, if you find that you really chose the wrong one, you have the courage to jump out and make changes.
3. What should I do if I meet a scumbag?
In "Ice and Fire Phoenix", the evaluation of a relationship between men and women can probably be summarized as a sentence that was once very popular on the Internet - "The farthest road has been walked, which is the routine of scumbags".
Some scumbags hide extremely well, and even breakups make people feel gentle, as if they are all for your consideration.
In fact, it is just a disguise for personal gain.
How do scumbags deal with them?
Simple girls are really invincible to this, the other party is rhetorical, you are a transparent person, the information is completely unequal, almost played between the palms of the hand.
Smart girls, identifying scumbags is like a fire-eyed golden eye, not exaggerating to say, get along for a few minutes, look at a few things, the practice of knowing it.
But it is also unrealistic to make all the girls instantly sober.
But Ye Qiuchen has a suggestion, although he may not be able to avoid all the scumbag tricks, but at least to a certain extent, he can help you recognize his true personality.
Empathize.
Put you in his place and reorganize his thinking and intentions with your limited information.
When you find that a node does not work, or cannot logically be consistent before and after, and the information is in a situation where the loop is not closed, you must consider whether some of the information said by the other party is a lie.
If empathy does not work, you can find some eye-catching girlfriends around you but without crooked thoughts, have a meal together, and then find a girlfriend without emotion to seriously analyze it. If you and your girlfriend can communicate rationally in the handling of love relationships, then you are very likely to escape from scumbags.
But I myself am the first to recommend the first method, because no one is more reliable than their own judgment.
In addition to emotions, do not rush to conclusions after careful analysis, after all, some coincidences and accidents also exist.
Sink your heart, continue to observe for a period of time, slowly you can see the true face of the other party, and it is not too late to make a decision when the time comes, don't be impetuous.
Although love is a sensual impulse, moderate rationality can help you escape pain.
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