You use lies to verify lies, and what you get must be a lie! ##亲子教育 Homeschooling ##Human Cub Behavior Award##Listening to Different Voices##Parents' Words and Deeds##父母是孩子的一面镜子 #
Just swiped to a video. A child is reading a book. At this time, the father told the child to go out and do something, let the child be obedient at home, and instructed her to write her homework, and tentatively asked, "You know what? Wait until the little girl answers affirmatively, "Got it." After saying this, my father deliberately made the sound of closing the door very loud. (to show he's out). But in fact he did not go out, but remained in the house.
When the child hears the door closing (she used to have her father out), she immediately lets go of herself. Immediately sang happily, and picked up the TV remote control to watch TV.
Suddenly the father deliberately "hummed". The child was surprised and said, "Why didn't you leave?!" The tone of voice was greatly reduced from the excitement of starting to sing. It also turned from the excitement of the beginning into a kind of loss. I think the intonation of such a sentence can imagine how big the gap is in the child's heart?! The father then asked very seriously, "What are you doing?" The child replied timidly, "I think of happy things."
After watching this video. I would like to make three points.
First, as a father and an elder, test a small child with lies. What kind of results or answers do you want to get? What is the purpose and motivation of the test? We are not always advocating and guiding children to be honest and good children. As a father, are you honest about this? How do you set an example for your children? And how do you embody your words and deeds?!
Second, when saying the phrase "what do you do?" to a child, the expression is very serious and the tone is also very blunt. I wondered if the child's heart could withstand this sudden change in that particular atmosphere. Will it cause a shadow or even harm to her heart?
third. When a child says the words, "I think of happy things." "Do you think the little child is talking about something happy?" Isn't that also a lie? This is the same as the father who deceived the child before and said it. Isn't that the cause and end of a lie?! This can't help but remind me of Guo Donglin's classic line in the sketch: You use lies to verify lies, and what you get must be a lie!
Playfulness is a child's nature. This is why children are said to be innocent. They know to find their own happiness. Shouldn't children just grow up in joy?! How can we restrain and limit the happiness that belongs to them in the way of adults?
I wonder what you think about this?! Welcome to leave a message and discuss.