If a person does not look at his own identity or the occasion when he speaks, how he thinks is indeed in line with the truth, but what is the impression left on people? There is a problem with the brain. Therefore, different occasions, to say different things. There is a fable in "Zhuangzi": One day, King Wu led his people to climb the sniper mountain. A group of monkeys saw the people coming and fled into the bushes of thorns. There was only one monkey, scratching his head in front of King Wu, showing off his good manners. King Wu shot it with an arrow, but it instead played with the arrow, even more recklessly. So King Wu ordered his men to release arrows together and shoot the monkey to death. This monkey, regardless of the occasion, will die because of casual showmanship. This parable tells us: whether it is doing things or speaking, we must distinguish the occasion, do not die, which pot does not open which pot, otherwise you do not know how to offend people. Words are like the voice of the heart, and words are like the language of others is a mirror of the soul. How a person says can directly reflect how his cultivation is and how his temperament is. Some people are very sloppy in life, but the work is very capable, some people who are very kind at home are very serious in the unit, some people who are grumpy to their families show a strong affinity for colleagues, and some lazy people at home are very hard at work. Therefore, when some people are seen to behave differently on different occasions, some people are paranoid that they are "liars", but this is not always the case. This situation is very relevant to the way a person handles things and the way they speak. Any speech is carried out in a specific situation, and is influenced and conditioned by the occasion. If the speech is not suitable for the atmosphere of the occasion, it will often be counterproductive to the original intention, and a court will hear a theft case, and the defendant will not be able to explain the time of the crime. In order to verify, the presiding judge decided to summon the defendant's wife to testify in court. In an overburdened manner, the presiding judge blurted out a sentence: "Bring his wife up!" There was an uproar in the courtroom, and the serious atmosphere was diluted. At that time, the presiding judge should use court language to announce that "witness so-and-so is summoned to court." By replacing court language with everyday language, this is also the presiding judge's failure to notice the formality of his occasion, thus causing inappropriate speech. Therefore, when speaking, we must pay attention to the occasion, do not look at the occasion, do whatever we want, open our mouths, think of what to say, which is a clumsy manifestation of "not speaking". In daily life, we may encounter such a situation: two acquaintances, no matter what occasion they meet, are indispensable to a warm greeting, and the most used sentence is always this "have you eaten". Once, two acquaintances met outside the bathroom door, one came out from inside, the other was preparing to go in, suddenly saw that it was an acquaintance, and the two greeted warmly: "Have you eaten?" "Just ate it, what about you?" "Not yet, I'm getting ready to eat." The conversation ended quickly, and the "eater" walked out with a relaxed face, and the "preparing to eat" continued to run inward with a nervous face. People always live at a certain time, in a certain place, under certain conditions, on different occasions, facing different people, different things, starting from different purposes, they should say different words and speak in different ways, so as to receive the most ideal speech effect. 1. Solemn occasions If all the personnel of your unit get together for a meeting and the leader speaks, you casually interject: when speaking, you rush to say what you should not say, or you are eager to grab the words before it is your turn to speak, these will cause the dissatisfaction of others, remember "the gun hits the first bird". 2. In public occasions, if in the library, others are quietly reading books, you prefer to whisper with the same table, or speak loudly, which obviously affects the learning of others. 3. Formal and informal occasions If you are a leader of the unit, your subordinates have small problems in their work, this kind of thing should be solved in private, it will be better, if you are indiscriminate, in front of the people to criticize the subordinates fiercely, the subordinates did not dare to argue with you at that time, but he will definitely remember in his heart for a long time, which will cause great misunderstandings. 4. In private and public places, everyone has a small circle of their own, calling it their own person. If you talk about the things in your small circle and the privacy of your friends, your friend will certainly not be able to make friends. 5. Festive occasions and sad occasions When others are celebrating a wedding, you say some unlucky things to them, which is very taboo for others; on the contrary, if you say some happy words on sad occasions, it will cause displeasure to others. All in all, speaking is a very practical art, we must consciously explore and understand in daily life, and strive to be a person who speaks decently