How to treat people sincerely and make friends, these three points are clear

In such an era of pursuing interests, the thick way seems to have become an invisible existence, and everyone tries their best to play tricks and take advantage of a little money and small profits. As everyone knows, the greatest shrewdness of people is the thickness.

Because of kindness, we treat people sincerely; because we are sincere, we are willing to think about others; because we are always considerate of others, we are full of true feelings in our hearts and will not fail to live up to any piece of sincerity. Only such people are worthy of our sincerity to fellowship and establish friendship.

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Man's first feng shui is character

Do things, be a person first. In the final analysis, people live all their lives, in fact, there are two things, one is to be human, and the other is to live in the world.

There is a saying: "The sea is not as wide as the heart, and the ground is not as thick as the virtue." ”

With both ability and political integrity, headed by virtue, no one is perfect, and no one can guarantee that they have no shortcomings, but no matter what, the shortcomings in character cannot be forgiven.

The Four Precepts of The Four Teachings of The Fan records such a generous incident - Yang Rong of the Ming Dynasty, whose grandfather and great-grandfather made a living by ferrying.

Once there was a big flood, his grandfather and great-grandfather "only saved people", all the goods were not taken, they were ridiculed by the locals for their stupidity, and they lost a chance to make a big fortune.

Not only did they not take advantage of the fire and robbery, nor did they play conspiracies, but they were sympathetic to the fact that others were in danger of life, and they desperately went to save them.

The dead were even fished out to avoid the bones.

This act of theirs also fulfilled the families of the victims: to live to see people, to die to see corpses, otherwise they will regret it for life.

This is the way of being generous, other people's hearts may be changeable, and I am constant.

The ancients: "Gentlemen love wealth, have a way to get it", in fact, it is not only the pursuit of wealth, everything you want to have must abide by certain rules, otherwise you will not be able to keep it well.

A person worthy of lifelong trust is not to see how magnificent his appearance is, but to pay attention to whether his inner character is excellent.

Because people with good character are not good enough, even if they are temporarily profitable, they will not be profitable from time to time, and people with good character, frank and kind, can win the recognition and respect of others, and can gain a firm foothold in society.

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Smart people, all kind

A generous person loses a moment, but earns a lifetime.

In life, everyone expects to be as smart and successful as possible, to be able to look up to others, to be able to get a little more than others, to be more wonderful than others.

But often most of them stay at the level of small intelligence, only see the immediate and ignore the long term, only pay attention to small things and forget the big plan, not the real sense of high-level intelligence.

In fact, the ultimate in cleverness is thick, and the thick is the ultimate and long-term wisdom.

Once, emperor Guangwu gave a flock of paying tribute sheep to officials in the court and demanded one for each.

This caused a lot of headaches for the officials in charge of dividing the sheep. Because among the sheep, there are fat and thin points, and it is not good to give anyone a difference.

Some people say that if you kill them all, it is good to be fat and thin; some people say that it is good to match the size. The debate was long and inconclusive.

When Zhen Yu heard this, he silently stepped forward and took away the thinnest sheep.

When the officials present saw it, no one was embarrassed to lead the largest sheep, and soon the sheep was divided, and everyone did not complain about it.

This matter reached the ears of Emperor Guangwu, and Zhen Yu won the reputation of "Dr. Skinny Sheep".

Later, at the recommendation of the Qunchen, Zhen Yu was promoted to the position of Prince Minor Fu because of his loyalty and humility in the face of trouble. There is nothing wrong with people having desires. But being born as a human being, the most valuable ability is to control their own desires, a person who can control his own desires, naturally can better control his life, and a person who cannot control his desires will often be reckless in order to achieve his goals.

Greed is everyone's innate desire, but in the face of small bargains that no one cares about, many people's greed will prevail.

In the hearts of these people, taking advantage of them means that they are a shrewd person.

As everyone knows, the accumulation of small amounts into more, the small profits in your eyes, will one day ruin your life.

Therefore, really intelligent people will never be blinded by the small profits in front of them, because they know that they will pay a more terrible price in the future because of the advantages they take advantage of in front of them.

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People are generous, and the sky is not deceived

To be a kind and honest person, you will certainly be able to receive the favor of Heaven.

As it is said in "White Deer Plain":

"The world is two words: blessing and misfortune. The two words are half the same, and the half is different, that is, the two words are related to each other.

Whenever a good thing is encountered, there will be misfortunes behind the time when the good things are encountered; and those who encounter bad things will also be chaotic, endure the suffering, and endure the good things and then come. ”

For a human being, good and evil have their own judgments; if people live once, good and evil have their own tastes; if people are good, they have their own good treatment; if people are vicious, the law is intolerable.

Qin Mugong, one of the "Spring and Autumn Five Powers", was out of town when he bumped into someone who had killed his horse and was eating horse meat together.

When these people learned that they were eating Qin Mugong's horse, they were all very frightened.

However, Qin Mugong not only did not pursue them, but invited them to drink. The man who killed the horse was so ashamed that he left in a hurry after drinking.

After three years, Duke Mu of Qin was attacked and besieged by the Jin state.

When his life was hanging in the balance, a small group of people and horses broke out of the siege and risked death to save Qin Mugong. It turned out that they were the same people who killed horses and ate meat.

Qin Mugong never expected that the good deeds of a few years ago would actually save his life.

Everything in the world is cause and effect.

What kind of cause leads to what kind of effect, this is the rule that we cannot change.

But all Heaven can decide is a result, and the process and cause before the outcome are all up to itself.

Therefore, if you always feel that your life is not good, you must be more aware of yourself, first look for problems from yourself, and reflect on some of your own words and deeds.

When you really do this, you will find that people are doing it, the sky is watching, you just have to do yourself well, and heaven will never fail any kind person.

If you are too shrewd, you are a fool.

There is a saying that goes well: "Life in the world is like a long river into the sea, and what determines victory or defeat is never the gain and loss of one pass and one pass, and the loss of one time and one place, but the hongpei gathered by hundreds of rivers." ”

In such an era of personal character, a person's virtue largely determines the success or failure of this person.

People can love money in a lifetime, but they cannot do whatever it takes to make money. You can make a profit, but you can't be preoccupied and calculated. You can be greedy, but you can't betray people with your conscience. It is possible to be incompetent, but it is not possible to harm nature and destroy character.

Generosity and loss are the right way in the world.

May we not see all the personal gains and losses, and be a smart person who looks up at the scenery, and the heart is naturally wider.