Many people are attracted by her pure singing voice, but few people know how difficult her journey from no one to the world is.
It is said that the most difficult thing in the world is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but in dolma, we see another possibility of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship:
Like a mother and daughter with her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law treats her as her own daughter, willing to be a free nanny to take care of her confinement, and takes the initiative to help bring up 3 children.
In 1987, Sheyang Dolma was born in an ordinary Tibetan family in Derge County, Ganzi Tibetan Autonomous Prefecture, Sichuan Province, with 3 brothers and 2 younger brothers, and a total of 6 children in the family, which made the already poor family even more difficult.
There are too many children, and the parents of Dolma can only barely make ends meet by working hard, and going to school has become a luxury.
In the third year of junior high school, in order to reduce the burden on the family, Dolma took the initiative to drop out of school and followed her father to the city to work as a sanitation worker, when she was only 15 years old.
Due to his young age and temporary work, Heyang Dolma did not take long to be replaced and lost his job.
Without a job, there is no income, but the daily expenditure is still like a flowing water,
In desperation, Dolma had to go to the hydropower plant where his two brothers were and do the heavy work of moving cement.
In order to make a little more money, Dolma will carry two bags of cement at a time, weighing 200 pounds,
Heavy cement pressed against her thin shoulders, often making her walk shakily, as if she were about to fall at any moment.
The two brothers were heartbroken to see Dolma's appearance, and often secretly wiped their tears.
After a day of work, Dolma's body was sore, and his two hands were even more powerless, and even taking off his clothes became a very difficult thing.
Whenever he felt that he could not hold on, Dolma would run to no one's place, cry loudly, and after the emotions were released, he would return to the heavy work.
However, even if Dolma worked so hard, he only had a salary of twenty or thirty yuan a day.
There are many Han workers in the hydropower plant, and Dolma, who does not speak Chinese, often follows them to learn, so he learns a lot of Chinese.
The workers could not bear to watch the young Dolma do such a hard job, and they advised her to find a more relaxed job.
Under the introduction of his fellow villagers, Dolma came to a hotel to work as a dishwasher.
Compared with moving cement, the work of washing dishes is much easier, but Dolma still has not relaxed, and he has never been lazy in his diligent work.
The seriousness and steadfastness of Dolma was looked at by the foreman, who promoted her to a waiter, and her salary also increased a lot.
At that time, the hotel often held cultural activities, the hotel's performers were insufficient, and the singing dolma was often pushed to the stage by the foreman to perform.
Once, the hotel held a party, and Dolma once again took to the stage to sing, and her loud and clear singing voice attracted the attention of a leader of the cultural department under the stage.
The leader especially appreciated the descending Dolma and recommended her to the county art troupe, and the fate of the descending dolma ushered in a turning point.
In 2001, Dolma was admitted to the Sichuan Conservatory of Music with excellent results, and his family began to worry about the high tuition fees while being happy.
Being able to enter the university to study art is something that Dolma did not dare to think of before, and now the opportunity is in front of her, she does not want to miss it.
Her family is also very supportive of her reading and going to see the wider world.
The two brothers of Dolma took out their wives who had accumulated for many years and paid tuition for Dolma.
As soon as the two younger brothers went up the mountain to dig cordyceps with bamboo baskets after school, and the money from the sale was also given to the sister.
With the hard work of her family, Dolma finally scraped together enough tuition fees and embarked on university life with tears in her eyes.
After entering the university, Dolma provinceed frugality, sang in the song hall in his spare time, earned living expenses and tuition fees, and slowly achieved economic independence, no longer relying on the family to give money.
In 2005, Dolma officially graduated from the Sichuan Conservatory of Music, and soon after participated in the performance of the dance drama "Dream Khampa", which was her first work, but it caused a huge response, and the audience was amazed.
Since then, Dolma has made great strides along the way, successively winning the first prize for vocal performance at the Fifth Ethnic Minority Music Festival in Sichuan Province and the gold medal for solo singing at the Third National Ethnic Minority Association.
In 2008, Dolma came to Beijing to seek development and continued his studies at the People's Liberation Army Academy of Arts. She has released a number of music albums, "This Mountain and This Water", "Golden Splendor", "Golden Temptation", etc.
The pure and thick voice of Dolma has won the love of a large number of fans and won the title of "the most beautiful female middle voice".
Dolma did not dare to forget the dedication of his brothers and brothers to himself, and after the economic improvement, he took out most of his savings to buy a car for each of them.
With the start of his career, the love of Dolma has also quietly come.
In 2012, during his further studies at the People's Liberation Army Academy of Arts, Dolma met Ding Zhenquza under the introduction of a friend and quickly fell in love.
Ding Zhenquza, like Dolma, is also from Ganzi, Sichuan, with a tall and upright appearance, 3 years older than her.
Ding Zhenquza works at CCTV and is a well-known documentary photographer who has participated in the filming of large-scale documentaries such as "Dunhuang" and "The Forbidden City", and has outstanding ability.
During the National Day in 2012, Ding Zhenquza returned to his hometown with Xiangyang Dolma and introduced his girlfriend to his parents.
Ding Zhen Quza's mother is a big fan of Xiangyang Dolma, and she can sing most of the songs of Xiangyang Dolma.
At the moment of seeing the descending Dolma, she was very surprised, and she did not expect that she could become her daughter-in-law.
After learning about the family situation of Dolma, this mother-in-law began to hesitate again, why did she look up to her son when she was so good? Will it be that you want your son to help pay the tuition and break up after graduation?
Finally, the mother-in-law still couldn't help but ask: "How did you look at my son?" You are good-looking and sing well, what kind of lad can't find it? ”
Dolma replied, "We are together because we like each other, and I am afraid that I am not worthy of her, my family is poor, and I will have to support my mother's family financially when I get married." ”
Hearing the answer of the descending Dolma, the mother-in-law dispelled her doubts and accepted the daughter-in-law.
On August 11, 2014, Dolma and Ding Zhenquza held a wedding in their hometown, and their mother-in-law and Ding Zhenquza married Dolma in accordance with the most solemn etiquette in their hometown.
After marriage, In order to facilitate his work, Heyang Dolma settled in Chengdu with her husband.
In the autumn of the following year, Dolma gave birth to a son, and the mother-in-law was overjoyed and immediately rushed from Sichuan to Chengdu to take care of the confinement of Dolma.
Don't want to see her mother-in-law so tired for herself, she offered to ask a nanny to help lay the groundwork, but her mother-in-law firmly disagreed:
"What do you do with that unjust money, I can do it myself, and then an outsider comes to the house to hang around, I feel awkward."
In this way, the mother-in-law took all the work alone, changing the pattern to make a confinement meal for Dolma during the day, coaxing the baby to sleep at night, and keeping her life in order.
Under the careful care of her mother-in-law, Dolma was recovering well, and the milk was also abundant, and her son could not even finish drinking.
After the end of the month, Dolma quickly returned to work, flew to Shanghai to participate in the performance, and during the period, he had to squeeze out and eat because the milk was too abundant.
At that time, one of the younger brothers of Dolma was doing a small business in Chengdu, and every time he came home from a performance, he would invite his brother to come to the house to eat together.
Dolma often stuffed various gifts for his brother and asked him to help bring money to his father.
Because she was afraid that her mother-in-law would see that she was too partial to her mother's family and afraid that she would not be comfortable, she would carry her mother-in-law to send gifts to her brother and stuff money.
Once, near his father's birthday, Dolma called his brother aside and gave him 2,000 yuan to bring to his father.
Who knew that when his brother was receiving the money, the mother-in-law pushed the door in, and Dolma was shocked and looked very embarrassed.
What Didn't dolma expected was that her mother-in-law did not reprimand her, but comforted her:
"It is not easy for your father to raise your six children to grow up, he has suffered a lot over the years, and now you want to honor him as you deserve, I am also a mother, I can understand your filial piety." 」
Hearing her mother-in-law's words, Dolma was moved to tears, and after that, the family of the receiving mother was no longer hiding,
She used her savings to buy a car for the 3 older brothers and 2 younger brothers of the family, and the daughter's down yang Dolma supported the whole family and was also the pride of her father.
When Dolma is not at home, her mother-in-law will also take the initiative to help her take care of her brother, calling them to come to dinner from time to time and sharing fruits and snacks with him.
Dolma's mother died when she was 17 years old, and now she feels the warmth of a mother again in her mother-in-law, and she decides to be as filial as a mother.
Descending Dolma often took her mother-in-law out shopping to buy clothes, although at the beginning the mother-in-law resigned, but under the soft and hard bubble of Descending Yang Dolma, she began to enjoy the daughter-in-law's love for herself.
In addition, Dolma often buys various cosmetics for her mother-in-law so that her mother-in-law can dress up beautifully.
The mother-in-law especially loves a kind of pancake in the northeast, and the lowering Yang Dolma quietly remembers it in her heart, and whenever she goes to the northeast to perform, she will bring it to the mother-in-law in a whole box.
In the following four years, Dolma gave birth to two more children, and the mother-in-law took over the work of taking care of dolma confinement as always.
At that time, the mother-in-law was already 60 years old, and her body was not as tough as before, and Dolma could not bear to be so tired as her mother-in-law, and once again proposed to hire a nanny.
The mother-in-law said: "I am happy to take care of you and the children, I am happy to take care of you, you will not let me do anything, I am still uncomfortable!" ”
Sometimes Dolma is busy with work and has no time to take care of the children, so the mother-in-law takes the initiative to help take care of them.
Dolma and her mother-in-law have been under the same roof for a long time, but they have always gotten along very well and have never quarreled with each other.
Someone asked why he could get along so well with his mother-in-law.
Dolma replied with a smile: "Mainly my mother-in-law is very good and treats me like a daughter." ”
When my mother-in-law was asked the same question, she replied, "Because my daughter-in-law is filial and sensible, it is my blessing to have such a daughter-in-law." ”
The relationship between the mother-in-law and the descending Dolma even surpassed her own son Ding Zhenquza,
Ding Zhenquza has an impatient personality, often rushing into his mother because of some small things unpleasant, and causing some small friction with his mother.
Whenever this happened, the mother-in-law would complain to Dolma: "You and I have lived together for so long, and you have never confronted me, but my son always makes me angry." ”
Dolma comforted her mother-in-law: "Ding Zhenquza is close to you, so he will be so careless, you don't have to pay attention to it." ”
After comforting the mother-in-law, Dolma found her husband again, told him that the mother-in-law's hard work at home, let him be more considerate of the mother-in-law, do not always quarrel with her,
Ding Zhenquza was very relieved to see the sensible daughter-in-law, and slowly changed the way she talked to her mother, no longer rushing against her mother.
With her mother-in-law to help take care of the family, Dolma was able to put more energy into work.
With the increase in the number of performances, the singing voice of Dolma has been well known to more and more people, and has become a well-known big star in the country.
Some people are worried that after the popularity of Dolma will not change, no longer filial piety to the mother-in-law,
Facts have proved that Dolma has never changed to his mother-in-law, and is as filial and respectful as ever.
In addition to giving money, Dolma often brings a variety of delicacies to her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law also understood the hardships of The Yang Dolma, and saved all the pocket money she gave and returned it to her grandchildren in various names.
Someone asked the mother-in-law: "It must be very hard to have such a celebrity as your daughter-in-law, right?" ”
The mother-in-law smiled and said, "What is the hard work?" My daughter-in-law is very good to me! ”
Today, Dolma has been living with her mother-in-law for seven years, during which time they have never quarreled once, and the two are as close as mother and daughter.
If it is said that from a girl from a poor family to an admirable big star, Dolma relies on her own efforts and strength, then it is her luck to meet an understanding mother-in-law.
During her confinement, the mother-in-law tirelessly took care of her closely, so that she could recover quickly.
When she is busy with work, the mother-in-law intimately helps to take care of the children and take care of the family, so that she has no worries.
Of course, the maintenance of a relationship requires the joint efforts of both sides, and Dolma has given her mother-in-law enough respect and love to make this relationship unbreakable.