Love rises with the wind, and the wind stops the thoughts.
Today, I suddenly remembered a clip in the TV series "Flowing Golden Years", where Wang Yongzheng asked Daisy why she did not try to be with Ye Jinyan.
Dai Qian she went abroad for many years, but as soon as she heard that Ye Jinyan's company was in trouble, she immediately returned to China to join Ye Jinyan's company and helped and supported him unconditionally as she did then.
Clear-eyed people can see that Daisy's friendship with Ye Jinyan has always been very deep, not just an old friend.
But for so many years, she just looked at him from a distance and silently as a friend, moving in and out, not getting too close, and not deliberately disturbing.
Faced with Wang Yongzheng's question, he asked her why she liked it but didn't fight for it. Daisy replied:
"You've met, appreciated, talked about, liked, so many people in your life, not everyone can be in love and be a couple together."
Some have been friends, some have been colleagues, and some have not met for many years.
The causes are different, the relationships are different, and it is good to enjoy. ”
When I first watched the play, I was deeply touched by this passage.
There will always be a lot of unavoidable things in this life, joy sometimes, regret naturally sometimes, but it is really rare to be able to figure out the nature of the relationship from the heart.
In Daisy, I also saw a great attitude towards feelings.
"I am willing to give you everything, and I will not say anything about it. I would be grateful if you had returned the favor. If you are indifferent, I will not be discouraged. ”
Like this thing should not be like this, careful and generous, honor and humiliation, profit and loss at your own risk.
After all, the appearance of some people does not mean that they have it from the beginning, and some doors are doomed to be knocked on.
And some people who don't belong to themselves, just point to the end, cross the line is not polite.
Earlier this month, Chestnut ended her three-year relationship.
She mentioned the breakup first, but the boy did not keep it, so he said "good" in the trend.
Chestnut said that in fact, she was quite surprised, that is, she was separated, and there was no imaginary pain of cramping and peeling, but it was a bit of a relief for a long breath.
Because she has always felt that although the boy has also done his duty as a boyfriend, he does not really like her much.
In other words, if another girl had confessed to him, they might have been politely together for three years, as they are now.
They rarely go out on dates, usually the two people together do not have much communication, boys like to play games, and they are addicted to their own world after work.
It's like, hanging on to the name of love, living a single life.
In fact, before Chestnut mentioned the breakup, she had also discussed with the boy with anticipation about future issues, and she said that in fact, they could talk a little more, they could understand more, or should they continue like this?
But the other party only replied: "Whatever you want, I can do." ”
The last straw was pressed down, and chestnut finally chose to give up.
She said:
"When he promised to be with me, I thought he had to be me too, but I had to admit that he really didn't like me that much."
This is true of many loves.
You want to look at him forever in love, but the reality is that love is inherently vain, and two people who are not even related by blood, who can guarantee that who will be eternally unchanged?
The only thing to believe is that maybe no one will love you forever, but always, someone will love you.
The sea of people rises and falls, the red dust is everywhere, and if someone leaves, someone will definitely come.
We always have to face a lot of loss and unobtainability.
Like the key that broke in the keyhole, the glass of milk that was knocked over, like the summer that rushed by, and those who didn't have time to say goodbye in the summer.
Unexpected accidents and losses make us tired of coping, but there is always unexpected hope and warmth, which makes us pluck up the courage to start again.
The sunset slowly sets in the evening, the neon city that flashes at nightfall, the endless crowds, and the fireworks that can be seen everywhere in the crowd.
These ordinary but warm and real trivialities will unconsciously heal and encourage us. Let us have a lot of grandeur and splendor in addition to the entanglement of love and hate.
Life is more than just feelings, so why should you just stick to the little sky in your heart?
"We came to this world to live well.
There is no turning back to the past, the way forward is still known, and we are only experiencing the present moment. May we run to the endless distance with the splendor of bloom. ”
So for the rest of your life, whether anyone loves you or not, remember to love yourself first, okay?
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Author: Tea Tea, Source: Little Tea Night Reading (vipyq95), please contact the original author for authorization.