Text/Coriander
Recently, a female friend in the group has aroused the disgust of everyone. The reason for this is because of her speech.
This year, most people's careers have stagnated or declined, so the speech in the group is relatively lacking in some confidence.
But this female friend, recently a little spring breeze triumphant, and then a condescending, preachy posture.
For example, she criticizes people's frustration because of incompetence, not because of external reasons; for example, she says that she can go uphill in a situation where no one else is good, not because of luck, but because of her efforts.
There is an idiom called forgetfulness. Or, to describe her, is the most appropriate one.
Friends in the group are not only acquainted for one day or two, which can be regarded as knowing the roots. So, we all know that her pride is also recent. Not so long ago, she was stuck in the bottleneck of her career and could not come out, when she rarely came out to speak, even if she said a few words occasionally, it was not the tone she is now.
About two or three months ago, she got a job by chance, with a relatively fixed monthly salary, plus some additional income, which is good in this small town.
Or, as soon as a person has money, he has confidence. Since then, we have clearly felt that her tone of voice is different from before, and she has become full of confidence and confidence.
It would have been a good thing, and we were all happy for her. But this kind of posture of getting carried away with a little achievement is not very likable.
They're all friends, who doesn't know that little thing in whose stomach? Moreover, what she has received now is only a culmination that others have already reached, and there is really nothing to show off.
Before that, several friends in the group were elites in various industries. However, because of the epidemic, or the salary is reduced, or temporarily leaving the job, or the unemployed are looking for a new job, or their business is on the slippery slope, or the writing bottleneck is encountered, and so on. The reason for all this is related to the whole environment.
Of course, no matter how the environment changes, everyone's life still has to go on as usual. It is precisely because life is still normal, the economy also needs normal supplies, and the reasons of the general environment have reduced everyone's economic income a lot. Moreover, it is not known how long this situation will last.
This is a problem that is often discussed in the group. We're not complaining, we're not venting anything, it's just a normal discussion. But in her opinion, if you can't earn money, you have no ability.
And she, at a time when we can't make money, got a job, and there are some other ways that may have income, so she feels very proud, feels that in such a difficult environment, she can still have such "achievements", and it seems that her ability is greater.
In the face of her high posture, we were unanimously silent. Occasionally one or two people came out to scare her, and the rest were just "watching the battle".
It felt like she was looking up to herself too high. Or, it's one of the weaknesses of human nature.
Some people always like to look up to themselves, thinking that they are very powerful, and others can't compare. For others, they always look down and think that they can't do it.
This is a very bad personality flaw. Don't say it's just a small achievement, that is, those who have great achievements, if there is such a lofty posture, it is not pleasing to people.
Ability is one thing, virtue is another. Being able to earn money shows that you can do it; but liking to show off, like to look up to yourself and look down on others, is a matter of virtue.
No matter how capable a person is, if he has no virtue, he will not be liked by others, and he will not be respected by others.
The more humble a person is, the more likely he is to accomplish great things.
A little bit of small achievement is really nothing. Or, this is what people often call "the frog in the well". It's just that this "frog" appears in front of you, and it will also add to people's blockage.
I don't know if after people are intimidated, will she introspect herself, will she restrain herself? But for now, she's still the same, publishing her long speeches every day, showing her abilities every day.
Such a person is not wise, at most just a little clever. Moreover, this little cleverness is only reflected in her ability, and has nothing to do with her virtue.
In fact, a person's success, in addition to ability, there is also a little luck.
Temporary success is nothing, and being able to maintain long-term success is what people can do. In other words, man can create things that are not in this world, even if it is short-lived, it is considered a success.
But her deeds are obviously nothing, because there are not many people who have obtained this job at the same time as her, but she is the only one in our small circle. Therefore, it is not unique, nor is it outstanding.
Of course, compared to our temporary disappointment, her pride seems to be taken for granted. It's just that such friends are obviously not what we need. Because of this, her pride also seemed lonely, losing the light of the stars and the moon.
Or maybe we don't know how to judge the situation and satisfy her vanity.
So, it's our fault not to tout her? Or is it too high to look up to herself, is it her fault?