summary:
01, girls are precocious than boys (earlier understanding) is a common thing, when boys are still hairy, girls of the same age know how to think before and after. So much so that they seem to be more well-behaved, sensible, and stronger than boys their age.
02, we often use "emotional" to describe a woman, and "rational" to describe men. In fact, it is also true that women are relatively emotional. However, "sensibility" is explained by an easy-to-understand word, that is, "inner drama", that is, "sensitivity". Overall, this is not a particularly good thing.
03, there are two very common phenomena in life: girls quarrel always like to turn over old accounts; even gentle mothers, in front of naughty children, temper will become very "exaggerated". The two seem to be unrelated, but the principle is the same, both are just the "sequelae" of their early wisdom.
Text | Honest Chen YOLO
Edit | God teases Daddy
Two "sequelae" of the girl's precocity
I don't know how many male friends have had such an experience: when girls get angry with you and argue with you, they like to "turn over old accounts".
Many times, obviously you think things are very simple, you go to explain, to solve, but find that most of your actions are invalid, the other party does not discuss things with you at all, maybe the more you explain, the more angry the other party!
Wives are definitely angry, but in the end you will find that she may not be angry because of the things in front of her, they just choose to explode when they can't stand it, and choose to calculate with your old accounts and new accounts!
As a man, if you do not grasp this law, you will often feel that they are sensitive and suspicious or even unreasonable, which will undoubtedly have a very bad impact on family life.
This is the first obvious "sequelae" of girls' precocity.
So, what is the second "sequelae"?
Whether on the Internet or in reality, we can always see or hear many male friends complaining: it is too difficult for women to serve now, and they are only willing to be "offered" by uncles at home, and they are not "respectful of the old and love the young" at all.
It is about the two things that are now common in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and young mothers who are impatient with their children.
Many people sighed: before getting married, she was obviously so generous and understanding, but after marriage, she became another person.
The little bit of sesame rotten grain between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to never be forgotten, and as long as the child is disobedient, she is prone to lose her temper (the right number can be seated, I don't think it is a matter of large-scale existence).
Anyway, many newlywed families in the beginning of the years, there are some unpleasant times, such as many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are "feuding" in the month, many children in front of the mother is particularly "accommodating".
The reason why girls are precocious than boys
Girls are precocious than boys, what is the reason?
Medically speaking, it is only said that girls are "precocious" than boys because of the secretion of sex hormones (hormones) in the body (roughly speaking, girls secrete estrogen 1 or 2 years earlier than boys secrete male hormones), but there is no explanation for "precocity".
We may be able to take "precocious wisdom" to the level of psychological development to explain, we can roughly understand "precociousness" as psychological "precocious puberty".
Because of some things, such as the preference for sons and daughters in the previous environment, the "preference for sons" caused by girls being ignored, in order to survive better or get more of what they want, they have to make themselves behave more sensibly.
When they are young, they will behave more well-behaved and sensible than boys, and when they grow up, they will behave more generously and strongly, and of course, they will think more easily than "big grinning" boys.
They suppressed too many real thoughts, some grievances were silently endured alone, and most of the unhappy things were pressed into their hearts.
In addition, they get less (or maybe they feel less), they are particularly afraid of losing, and for them, many times they would rather not get anything than lose anything.
All of this has contributed to their sensitive personalities, always wanting to be responsible for their actions after thinking about things, so that they have been suppressing themselves and hoping to find the "true destiny" who can love them unconditionally.
However, few people are so lucky that the things that are suppressed in their hearts will also explode under the right conditions, such as breaking away from the original family that makes them dare to be angry, such as when facing the child who is still dependent on him.
At this time, they have no reason to continue to pretend to be generous and strong, and there is no reason to please others.
epilogue
Being well-behaved and understanding when you are a child and being empathetic when you grow up are qualities that most women in a certain era have and need to have, but they have also become the standard for this generation of women to cultivate their offspring (to put it a little further, it is the current "boy-girl" phenomenon, and many boys are paying for it).
It seems like an endless cycle, as if we've been like this for generations.
However, it has to be said that the times have long changed, and some relatively old parenting ideas still have to change.
For example, in this era when everyone needs to have their own ideas and dare to express their own ideas, stop using the old obedience and understanding to demand and measure children.
There are a few words I hope you will listen to and also tell your children:
There are few people in this world who are worth bending over all the time, so don't always accommodate others to wronged yourself, excessive good people will be ignored, too low-key will be considered low-energy;
You are not obliged to please anyone, and many times, the more you think about it, the more you are afraid, and the more you are afraid, the more people will bully you.
The so-called "personality charm" people are people who dare to be angry and dare to say no, he is not necessarily a good character, but it must be more "horizontal", remember, you are not so great, and you don't have to be so great!
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