Hi, Happy New Year!
How did you spend the first day of 2022? Have you started making New Year's resolutions, New Year's resolutions?
At this time of day, I want to talk to you about —
How to "create" a thrilling life, and you must know the four little demons that hinder your realization of your dreams.
01
How is life created?
Let's take a paragraph,
How can a sentence anger a career planner?
During the consultation, both parties will spend a lot of time talking about values, how to find, how to clarify, how to polish. At this time, if the visitor says – don't pull it off, values/morals/ideals, how much is it worth?
Can you talk about dreams and eat? Can I buy a house?
You'll get a blast of the consultant.
But is he right?
Actually, it's great!
Values are the blueprints of dreams in your head, the pictures you create in your heart.
To make your dreams come true, you need to create again in real life and find a "thrilling goal".
The exciting goal is the bridge from "the self you expect to be" to the "real self".
Imagine a searchlight.
The direction of the lamp is the direction of the values, the intensity of the light is the firmness of the values, and the nearest object that the light can find is your "heartbeat goal".
For example, a person whose values shine on "wisdom", because his daily life is too tired, his light is a little defocused, and he can only illuminate the close places around him.
What he can illuminate may be to turn over the public accounts of his favorite people on the way to work, read a few small videos of recommended books, and the content of these people is like a reef in the sea, shining under the moon, so that he can get great utility from it, and he knows that this is what he wants.
He began to spend more time doing this, and his light began to strengthen, which allowed him to see more and farther, and he could see that this ocean of knowledge had a lot of good books, a lot of good people, and the resources were infinite.
He wondered why he had been able to turn a blind eye to these resources in the past, but it was because his values were not strong enough.
At this time, he had a new goal, reading 12 books a year and outputting 100 knowledge cards.
He began to sail into the deep sea —reading books by himself, joining the co-reading club to write cards, output, and discuss with people. There are a lot of people here who are in the same direction as his light, and they can see farther together...
Under this stronger and more focused beam, he saw the goal of the "work", more and more materials and feedback from everyone, making him gradually feel that he could also create his own things.
He rejoiced in his heart, because he explored, pursued, and gradually came to the "reef" that inspired him, and now these people are no longer dreams, but targets within reach.
You see, values are searchlights, and willpower is intensity.
But if you don't get your way to the target, you'll never set sail. If you just stand on a lighthouse and take a lamp to shine, or if you just listen to the people who come back from the sea and say excitedly, you can't go anywhere.
But when you light the searchlight, focus to find the target. Sail out to sea, and finally see the beluga whale in the deep sea, see the sparkling sea, see the whale that sprays the water column,
You begin to create your own life.
02
The four little demons that stand in the way of your dreams
The path of value pursuit is a path of self-realization from the inside out, and it is a process of self-creation.
Such a cool thing, why do few people can do it?
Because on the road to self-realization, there are 4 little monsters.
Yes, it's the silly, bad little monster of "The King told me to patrol the mountains." They are afraid that people will live their own lives, and they will not see people as self-actualized.
They call each other, not believing, not believing, not investing, not creating.
Take the example of "Kung Fu Panda".
At the beginning of the movie, Ah Bao has a light in his heart - he wakes up, the room is filled with gestapo models and dolls, and in the dream he dreams that he has become a gestapo and defeated all the demons and ghosts. But with his eyes open, he was just a fat man who couldn't even get out of bed.
Does Thaksin believe he will become a kung fu man? He carefully hid his true self in his heart - he was just a fan of onlookers, and he never wanted to take the stage.
You see, this is the first little demon called "Disbelief", and his mana is "inner voice".
You desire to be someone in your heart, but in reality, you don't believe it at all.
This little demon keeps saying in your ear, "Look at you, are you worthy?" You can't! ”
In Ah Bao's story, even if the turtle master designates him as the Dragon Hero, even if the little raccoon master starts to teach him, he still does not believe it (of course, the little demon also argues with the little raccoon master for a long time, "How can he be this panda fat man!"). ”）。
He sneaked down the mountain at night, and Master Raccoon stopped him, and he yelled at Master: You see, I am a fat panda! Do you believe that I will become a dragon hero?
I don't believe that the little demon's task is to move your searchlight beam up from the sea and shine into the empty sky—where there is nothing, much less a goal—only the illusion of clouds.
Many people are content with this illusion, and they spend their whole lives in daydreams – not believing that they are satisfied.
Ah Bao was lucky, believe it or not, fate had put him on the mountain.
The second little demon, in fact, has appeared at this moment, but he is very secretive. His name is "For Me" and his mana is "Transfiguration".
He will change into the person you love the most and tell you, for me, don't do it.
In Ah Bao's story, a knot runs through his heart - his father expects him to inherit his noodle shop and inherit the "super secret recipe", rather than becoming a panda that fights and kills.
In the beginning, he wanted to tell everyone about his martial arts dreams! Looking into Dad's expectant eyes, he said, "I had a dream about............................................. Noodles". He wanted to see the martial arts conference, but he didn't dare to advocate, he was afraid that his father would be disappointed, and finally said- I will go sell bowl noodles.
How did Ah Bao defeat this little demon?
He was locked up outside the Kung Fu Festival and didn't even have a chance to get inside. At this time, looking back at his father, the father was very sad, "Son, didn't you say that you were going to have a dream of making noodles?" Ah Bao calmed down and shouted to his father- "I love Gongfu!" ”
Crashing, fireworks exploding, he embarks on a magical journey.
Yes, defeating the little demon expected by others is a spell that is loudly advocated.
The first two goblins lost their hands, and the enemy sent a third goblin.
This little demon is called "not investing", and his mana is "more temptation".
Ah Bao had already lived to the top of the mountain, but he was not very involved. Indeed, there was too much temptation and freshness at the top of the mountain, and he looked around curiously at all kinds of utensils, thinking about making friends with the heroes, thinking of stealing things to eat, but did not work the practice.
You see, a lot of people find a goal they like, but they don't put in it, and although they invest in it, it's far from enough.
Soon, they get bored and tell themselves, "I don't really like it that much."
Little Raccoon Master discovered Ah Bao's trait: love to eat. Around eating, he honed a food training method, which successfully led to Ah Bao's investment, he combined temptation and goal, and began to invest.
Of course, if you've read Psychology of Motivation, we can say. Master finds the deep motive for mobilizing Ah Bao, the way of the subconscious elephant.
Ah Bao became a kung fu master.
03
Excellence is created
Once you're at your best, you'll grow fast! Until you meet the last little demon.
It's called "Not Creating", and his mana is for you to "learn for life".
Always imitate, never surpass.
At the end of the story, Ah Bao has become a master, but to defeat the big villain Taro, the master is far from enough, he has to become a top master. What should I learn at this moment? And master one total, learn the greater master left the divine dragon scroll, must be OK!
The results were so disappointing. The scroll has nothing, only a mirror that reflects Ah Bao's face - isn't this a trick to cut leeks?
If you can't break it, you can't win the fight, and Ah Bao has been beaten back to the noodle stall.
Until he heard his father tell him that "the secret of the magic formula is that there is no formula, you just have to believe that he is magical." Why would you go looking for an external divine dragon scroll? You are yourself!
Ah Bao suddenly realized that he returned to the battlefield, and he defeated the last little demon. Created his own "Belly Grunt Bounce Punch" (well, I actually created it).
Excellent, you just need to learn and imitate. But excellence requires you to believe in yourself and pass the level of yourself.
Little demon – not believing, not for me, not investing, not creating. They are a magical combination of thousands of banshees, high-quality idols for which young goblins are crazy, and eternal legends who live in the field of mediocrity.
Have you met them?
2022 is coming, you, the amazing man of life, how are you going to break it?
Author: Classical, top personal career development consultant, Luo Jisi "get" APP annual subscription column "Super Individual" manager, author of the 3 million best-selling book "Tear Down the Wall in the Mind", the latest masterpiece "Jump: Become a Master of Technology" won the 2017 Dangdang, JD.com, Amazon annual list recommended.