Cancer is a gentle and kind creature, on the surface he even looks a little soft, often because of the inadvertent actions of others began to think wildly, in the relationship is also a common thing.
But in fact, Cancer is a soft and internal strong type, his heart is stronger than most people, when encountering setbacks, Cancer always has a way to gradually get himself out of the trough, and then become more and more bullish. Even when he has a mental breakdown or a temper, he can convince himself with reason and then tolerate everything.
Only in the face of feelings, Cancer is always entangled and passive, and his strong heart is often defeated in front of love. Why? There are two reasons for this, the first is because of the influence of past emotional experiences, and the second is caused by Cancer's appeal to feelings, and the chemical reaction produced by the combination of these two points has led to Cancer always wanting to love but not daring to love.
First of all, the emotional experience will indeed have a great impact on Cancer, but it does not only refer to the ex, but all the sweetness and pain in the past relationship will affect the heart of Cancer and the subsequent emotional trajectory.
Cancer has never been a person who can learn from his past feelings and then become more and more positive, he is always on the verge of longing for compounding and complete withdrawal, tasting the sweetness and unbearable of the past, and then constantly pressing himself to the ground and rubbing. This will not only exhaust him physically and mentally, but also consume Cancer's enthusiasm for the future.
When Cancer loses a very deep relationship, he loses hope and motivation at the same time, he will feel that there is no point in what he does, what is the use of dressing up? What does it mean to send a circle of friends? What is the need to go to bed early and get up early? Then under the influence of this mentality, Cancer has lost its expectations for new feelings, that is, we say that we dare not love!
The second point of Cancer's appeal to feelings is exactly the opposite, because Cancer is always longing for love, to a large extent, Cancer wants to maintain happiness and truth, goodness and beauty, can not do without the bridge of love, water elephant Cancer should not be too obvious.
Cancer, who has delicate and innocent feelings, needs to fill the inner blanks with love, he does not care what the other party can bring to himself, only cares about the purity and feelings of love, so he is extra trusting and dependent on love.
Then, once the emotional experience and the appeal of love collide, there will be a chemical reaction just mentioned: Cancer wants to love but does not dare to love, which is a contradiction caused by the contest between reality and ideals.
Once this mentality appears, it will make Cancer fall into a tangle, when the new feeling comes is "I have feelings for you, but if you are not firm, I will not say it" "I can't feel love, at least let yourself retreat"
When the injured Cancer faces emotional problems, it is like a changed person, not the strong heart when dealing with setbacks, but becoming passive and hiding itself, afraid of repeating the same mistakes again, and even afraid of being hurt by happiness!
Therefore, many people in the early stage of the development of Cancer will feel that he is a master of ambiguity, in fact, this is just one of the manifestations of his "want to love but dare not love". Then it is better to choose to believe in Cancer, provide him with a sense of security, and firmly choose him, so that he can gradually get out of his own strange circle.
The Cancer in the relationship is not as strong as you think, and it is more important to grab him hard and tell him clearly than anything else.
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