The hit drama "Sleeping Garden" is on fire.
Recently, a small detail has also been on the hot search, and the agency of a collapsed star in the play is called "Lewa Era".
In connection with the recent real cases of frequent collapses in the entertainment industry, netizens immediately read and hinted: Is this not a combination of Lehua Entertainment, Wow, Times Fengjun, and the current "Three Giants of Internal Entertainment"? This TV series is also too open-minded!
And carefully watching the plot, he found that not only the details, but also each unit he tore open the bloody reality and gave a warning to all women.
Someone left a message: all women can find resonance in this play.
The play exposes control freaks in love, elite women who are PUA by their boyfriends, and vegetarians who fall in love with celebrities... Each case has its own excitement. Whether we are in love or married, we can find our own shadow.
First of all, let's talk about Yan Luo and Wang Su in love.
At first, the cartoonist Yan Luo (Sun Iridium) disappears, and the atmosphere of suspense is full. Xiao Xiao (Qiao Xin) is worried that his girlfriend has an accident and calls the police, and the police lock down the suspect Wang Su with the help of Lin Shen (Gong Jun).
The plot is compact, and the mystery is revealed after finding Wang Su: Yan Luo was not kidnapped, she hid to avoid her extreme control boyfriend Wang Su.
The boyfriend restricted her normal interpersonal communication, asking her to delete the rest of the men in the mobile phone, even if it was just a smile at the mobile phone, and the other party immediately became angry to check the mobile phone;
In order to always grasp Yan Luo's every move, a voice recorder was placed in her home, and a positioning was installed in her mobile phone; after being discovered, Yan Luo collapsed and wanted to break up, and the other party ran to her house at night to vigorously pat the door, revealing a violent side...
What makes people really think about it is that yan luo is afraid of this relationship, and at the same time tells himself that "the other party just cares too much about me."
All girls need to understand that relationship and control are two different things, caring is understanding your feelings, and control is that the abuser only cares about their own performance.
Regardless of identity, love is not an excuse for overcontrollment!
According to reality, the tragedy caused by the boyfriend's excessive desire to control is no longer a unique case, and many girls on major social platforms are still confused:
Like Yan Luo, they are all reflecting on "whether they are wrong, the other party loves themselves too much."
On the one hand, it is affected by various online texts and poisonous chicken soup:
△ The opinion of a self-media account
On the other hand, it comes from the influence of the original family. "Sleeping Garden" did not whitewash Taiping and blindly exalted parents, but photographed the appearance of some parents in reality.
The daughter is missing, but the parents are not worried at all, only concerned about whether the daughter's money can arrive on time;
Go to the supermarket together, buy more than two hundred water cups for your son, and the lamps that I want to buy better are rejected by my parents...
Yan Luo tried again and again, but the parents' response was only indifference and taking, and people saw that people were in tears.
Girls who have not been treated well and lack love since childhood cannot recognize true love.
Recalling the picture of Yan Luo and her boyfriend meeting, he took the initiative to repair the tablet for her. A stranger's casual help made her mistakenly think that this was love.
I think of a sentence: a girl who lacks love, others are slightly kinder to her, she will give unconditionally.
But the more this happens, the easier it is to meet scumbags and establish wrong intimate relationships.
We often say that women are independent, but in fact, true independence is not only economic, free from the influence of the original family, but also personality independence is particularly important.
People's life is actually a process of seams and patches, constantly moving forward, and the holes left in childhood need to be repaired with the rest of their lives and pay for the crooked road they have taken.
Yan Luo is the epitome of these girls.
They're still on the road.
If Yan Luo's problem is the sequelae brought about by the original family, then Chai Qian (Wu Qi) is facing a deep pit on the road to the establishment of intimate relationships.
Chai Qian was originally a manager of a public relations company, capable and vigorous, but returned to the family due to the request of her boyfriend Huo Lang.
I thought that resignation was the beginning of happiness, but I didn't expect it to be a nightmare of stepping into the abyss.
As the plot progresses, the writers tear up some of the "full-time wife' life filters."
In the middle of the night, Huo Lang would wake up the sleeping Chai Qian in order to drink a cup of hot milk; Chai Qian would pour him a glass of water, and he would either feel cold or not hot enough, and suppress the other party from various small things. Hint to the other party that you can't even do a little thing, how do you go back to work? You have to be angry about this, can you stand the leadership of your colleagues when you enter the workplace?
Every time he used small things to provoke Chai Qian's anger, and every time he took the initiative to take Chai Qian's emotions and acted as a backer as the image of a qualified lover.
Even the best women, living in this environment for a long time, will also have self-doubt.
This is tantamount to a spiritual domestic violence!
Chai Qian fell into internal friction, slowly unable to control her emotions and having difficulty falling asleep; the former workplace elite slowly became only promised, afraid to have ideas, and afraid of making mistakes.
This is a typical "Gaslighting" (gaslight effect), similar to what we often call PUA, which refers to the process of gradually losing self-esteem, self-doubt, and cognitive destruction in a state of "chronic psychological poisoning" through intimacy and skill.
Women are more focused on the spiritual world and more sensitive than men. But many men use this to "captive" women in the name of love. Use love, use the economy, and some also use children.
The "mentor" who instructed Huo Lang to implement mental manipulation in the play said:
"If you want her to live without you for the rest of your life, it is recommended to have a child and tie her up."
In real life, how many women endure for the sake of their children?
Most men who suppress and control women are often weak in real life, they have no ability, and they always feel that everyone owes him, and they are narrow-minded. They don't see you well, they prick at every turn, and make you as mediocre as he is.
Meeting such a man is the sadness of a woman's life.
Xiao Xiao said: "Mind control can not shorten the gap between the lover and the lover, want to get love, guard love, can only rely on a true heart, and there is no so-called shortcut." ”
Hopefully, all women will realize that any intimacy that suppresses each other's confidence and personality is a purposeful emotional manipulation. If the relationship you are in now makes you feel uncomfortable and be provoked, you must withdraw in time.
Rather than holding on to a relationship, it's more important for you to understand:
Love is to support and tolerate each other, not to suppress, diaphragm response.
In addition to Yan Luo and Chai Qian, the play also tells about the star-chasing girl Zhang Shanshan.
There's a good passage in it:
You fall in love with Zhou Ran because he continues to shine the road of musical dreams, and he is the sustenance of your musical dreams. Later he ran faster and faster, better and better, but you left yourself where you were, and lost yourself. You have to turn this unforgettable relationship into the nourishment of future life, that dream woke up, but the dream is still in your own hands. ”
Thinking of those girls who lost themselves in order to chase the stars, I can't help but sigh that "Sleeping Garden" can be fired, it is really not accidental.
The story is close to the real case, and the screenwriter of each case will conduct an in-depth and simple analysis, and each character is worth pondering. There is no deliberate sensationalism, but the real presentation of the problems encountered by women at different stages in society, those moments of fear, fear, and overwhelm.
It is not difficult to find that no matter which party has psychological problems, the final victims are often women.
But the more this is the case, the more we must face up to these problems and become the "saviors" of our own lives.
The three girls in the play finally realized the fundamental problem, gradually returned to rationality, and chose to realize the value of their lives and be responsible for the next life.
Yan Luo and her boyfriend broke up, although there are still sequelae after the breakup, but firmly said goodbye to the past;
Chai Qian bid farewell to her fiancé and returned to the workplace, she became more determined and braver;
There is also a star-chasing girl Shanshan, decided to go abroad for further study, rather than chasing stars and giving up everything for her lover, it is more important to love herself and fight for her dreams...
The reality is harsh, but you don't put your hopes in others anymore, and the way you work for yourself really shines.
Life is never a mathematical problem, but a slow grinding process, especially women's lives, often need to learn to avoid deep pits, some people in the abyss, some people in the gully, but it does not prevent you from bypassing them and finding your own wonderful.
Looking forward to the next case, also recommend this drama to everyone, there are laughter and tears in the play, each unit allows women to look directly into their own hearts, read the subconscious, and learn to accept themselves and get real growth!
Finally, I would like to say that there is no step in life that is a road in vain, but I hope that every girl can avoid the trap of life and live out herself by taking fewer detours after reading it.
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