What is the molting effect?
In the field of biology, some reptiles or arthropods will go through the process of molting in the process of their growth, and every molting is painful for them, but only after going through this process will they grow, which is literally molting.
In psychology, the molting effect refers to the fact that only when a person constantly jumps out of the comfort zone and constantly accepts new things can he make himself excellent and can he have the attraction of the opposite sex.
The key to keeping the opposite sex interested in us is whether we are attractive and fresh, and the source of freshness is the new things we constantly add.
Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, with a man, how to make him continue to obsess over you the secret is to constantly improve themselves, constantly add new colors to their lives, and constantly increase freshness.
Locke's Law: Start small to develop a sense of accomplishment
The so-called Locke's law actually means that when the goal is both future-oriented and challenging, then it is the most effective.
That is, if we want to be people with opposite-sex attraction, we need to set ourselves a goal, and this goal is challenging, then it will have a certain driving force to make us better.
Of course, those challenging goals can't be easily accomplished, so don't think about taking one step at a time, make a few more basketball racks for yourself, and then overcome and overcome it one by one.
Over time, we will find that in the process of continuously completing some small goals, we gradually accumulate a sense of achievement and self-confidence, and slowly, we will also stand on the top of success.
In short, we can set an overall high goal for ourselves, but be sure to set a more important step towards implementation goals for ourselves and ultimately succeed.
The significance of Locke's law is that the accumulation of small victories has completed a big victory, and the matter of becoming excellent is not an overnight achievement, without accumulating steps, there is no way to go thousands of miles, and there is no way to become a river and a sea without accumulating small streams, only by being down-to-earth and steady, so that we can approach success step by step.
Remember, all transformations come from persistence
01) In psychology, there is a flywheel effect, which means that in order to make the stationary flywheel rotate, at the beginning we must spend a lot of effort, repeatedly pushing in a circle.
After reaching a certain tipping point, the gravity and impulse of the flywheel become part of the thrust.
At this time, we don't need to make more effort, the flywheel will still rotate rapidly, and it will keep turning.
The so-called difficulty at the beginning of everything is said to be this truth.
No one in this world can resist the charm of ease, so suddenly from mediocrity to excellence, this process no one can adapt.
However, the hardest thing about anything is the beginning, and once we stick to it, we will find that there is nothing scary about it, but the fear in our hearts is just at work.
02), the flywheel effect tells us that when people enter a new or unfamiliar field, they will go through this process.
If you don't have to make the flywheel spin up without much effort, the condition is that you have enough persistence, which also means that you have to use enough time to ensure.
The premise of making men continue to be infatuated is to first make the other party obsessed, and the condition of infatuation is that they have a certain value, and this value has charm, which will make the other party have different emotions.
So, after we've made our goals under Locke's law, the next thing we need to do is stick to them.
There is nothing difficult in the world, only afraid of people with hearts, as long as they are willing to pay time and effort, as long as they are willing to persist, then becoming excellent and becoming attractive to the opposite sex will not be a distant thing.
Zeignick Effect: What you don't get is the best
01) After creating attractive conditions, the next thing we need to do is to use techniques to make this obsession last, and the best psychological technique is the Zeignick effect.
The Zeignick effect, the level of interest in what has already been done, is much lower than the level of interest in what has not yet been done.
Just like a computer, it will regularly clean up those files that have existed for a long time to reserve space for which new files, and the human brain is the same, it will regularly clean up those things that have been completed, so as to spend more energy on those things that have not been completed.
02), for men, what they can't get is the best, those who will never leave themselves, or are too good to themselves, just won't be cherished.
Therefore, from this point of view, we must remain reserved and rational, and we can adopt a cold treatment of feelings.
For example, don't stick to each other all day, for example, don't spend all your time and energy on running love.
For example, do not wronged yourself to complete each other, these practices are not conducive to our dominance in love.
No matter who you are with, only by being reserved and cold will you not play the tragedy of love.