I often have the feeling that time passes quickly, and I can't believe how it came to a certain point in time.
When friends say that some people have 3 babies at the age of 26, and some people have resigned for more than 20 days when they are still single, they have resigned for more than 20 days, but there is no eyebrow about what they want to do. I still see that everyone is moving forward, and I seem to be regressing, and I don't know how to be a good time.
Do you have too many moments in your life where you don't understand and seem powerless? Probably, there are a lot of them.
For this world is originally the snow of each person, and each has its own obscurity and purity.
I'm always hesitant in these moments of screwing, but I don't hate these emotions and want to suppress them or let them go as I did many years ago.
At the end of the day, these emotions make me want to understand a lot of things and then find answers in more forward experiences.
Of course, in my shallow life, there are many questions that have not yet been answered and have deeply troubled me.
Recently, I read a new book by the writer Yi Yi, "You must be full of vitality, but also sober in the world." The book consists of 69 letters, written by Yi Yi to girls who encounter different entanglements, entanglements and confusions in their lives.
In this book, I found a lot of my own shadow, felt some warmth, found some strength to move forward, and found two secrets for girls to become better.
First, be bold and move forward, there are not so many audiences in your life
Before making a choice, there must be a lot of voices around you.
Some are obstructive, some are dissuaded, some are not, and between your concerns and hesitations, on the one hand, you consume a lot of time, on the other hand, it will be quite painful.
And in this process, even in the first period of time, you will become particularly screwed, to consider other people's ideas, to refer to other people's opinions, and then assume that doing so will be problematic and troublesome.
Then forget it, that's it, or don't toss it.
When I was about to resign, I went through a long tug-of-war of ideas, made a lot of presets, and then dragged on for a while. I was particularly afraid that if I thought about it again, I would be trapped in the vortex of "thought".
Later, I also wanted to understand, I made this choice, has been based on overall consideration, I can also bear all the consequences, I am not sure that resignation will definitely get better, but I can be responsible for my own choice.
In our lives, where there are so many audiences, it is enough to be good at ourselves.
As Yi Yi wrote: Instead of labeling yourself as "screwing", allowing yourself to suffer and bear misfortune, do things that solve problems and enjoy happiness.
I believe that in the days after my resignation, some of my "screws" will only increase.
But I will definitely throw away the "screw bar" again and again, I hope you too, bold to do, brave forward, I believe that the future will be better than the present.
Second, at any time, we must do a little foreshadowing for tomorrow.
In the smooth time of life, we can easily become enjoying the present moment and then indulging.
Many problems seem to become non-problems, and these neglects and indifference often contain many dangers.
In "You Must Be Full of Vitality, but Also Sober in the World", there is such a meaningful sentence: Repair the roof on a sunny day.
At first glance, it sounds strange, since the sun is shining and it will not rain, why should we repair the roof with mud to prevent rain and water leakage.
In fact, the reason is very simple, we never know, the next moment of life will face cloudy and rainy days.
When the rain comes, if you are not prepared on a sunny day, it is easy to be caught off guard and easily knocked down.
Self-discipline, saving money, and planning on sunny days can make you more relaxed in rainy days.
Like a friend of mine, who lost his job because of the company's failure, stayed at home for a little half a month.
Fortunately, she insisted on practicing calligraphy for many years, wrote beautiful calligraphy, just a training class was recruiting calligraphy teachers, with excellent skills, she successfully became a calligraphy teacher and entered another track.
Wanting to become better is never an overnight thing, but every day there are rules to follow for subtle better, and it will definitely make you a better version of yourself.
I like it, a sentence in "You must be full of vitality, but also sober in the world":
"Treat running yourself as a lifelong business, living in your passion, not in the eyes of the world."
Everyone's path is different, but even if you go around, I hope you have always loved it and have always been running yourself well.
The future will be, super good, burst good, invincible good.
Wish you wish me well.