Ever seen such a question, if you love someone very much, why would you still say break up with him?
Xiaoling sent a screenshot of the chat with her roommate to show me that day, Xiaoling sent: "I broke up, I mentioned" In the comfort of the roommate's voice "next more obedient", sadness completely occupied Xiaoling's nerves.
Xiao Ling whimpered on the phone and said, "I don't know if I'm doing this right, but I'm so sad, you said I don't want to go to him to get back together." “
Hearing Xiao Ling's words, I choked up for a moment.
The distance of several hundred kilometers between Xiaoling and her boyfriend made Xiaoling's boyfriend become suspicious and irritable, and in frequent quarrels, Xiaoling finally made up her mind and left the man she loved most.
Xiao Ling said: "I feel that I will never love others like I love him again, I am really sad, what should I do?" “
I was speechless for a moment, and I was silent on the other end of the phone for a long time.
If I loved someone very much, would I still break up with him? When we were young, we always thought that love was just a matter between two people, as long as two people loved each other, they could cross all the mountains and seas. Reality has given us a heavy punch, it has broken up too many couples who are rushing to love. Reality makes us bow our heads and reassure ourselves that a timely stop loss is wisdom. When love can't see the future, saying goodbye with tears has become the best solution. Continuing to persist will only continue to turn into tears of separation, enough to make the eyes of two people cry and swell.
I have a cousin whose boyfriend works in Wuhan and works as a nurse in Pingtan herself. They have reached the age of talking about marriage, but the cousin's mother has denied the feelings of the two people for nearly ten years because of the two words. In the face of reality, feelings are indeed cheap, it is too fragile.
Since feelings cannot resist reality, the most effective way is to stop losses in time. We always have to get used to the existence of the opposite, it is no longer the age of fantasy, we should learn to grow up, to accept the unreality of fantasy. When I love him deeply, but the future that two people are running to is not on a horizontal line, quarreling, and saying goodbye will eventually become the end between us, I prefer to reduce the pain of two people with a timely stop loss. The pain of love is a burden for us, and the future of carrying the weight forward is difficult, and I am afraid that I and the woman I once loved so much will not be able to walk comfortably.
Some time ago, I played an emotional book called "Spring Day Short", and a player said such a sentence that I remember vividly: people often say that the mountains and seas they love can be leveled across the mountains and seas. But the ending of the story is often not satisfactory, today I come with regret for the past, and I have a chance to look back, but I always have to look up and look forward.
We are powerless to resist the intrusion of reality, and our feelings are too subjective and fragile. I have seen the love affair that ended hastily because a sentence was wrong, and I have also seen the darkness of helplessness when crying during parting. Sincere emotions in my impression are often the existence of reality stepping on the ground and kneading. In the face of a hard life, the timely stop loss has become a kind of courage to face life, I have enough courage to give up the person I love because of practical problems, and I also have the courage to interrupt this rush without a future.
We need to stop the loss in time, stop all the overflowing feelings, start wiping our tears and walking towards ourselves. Don't spend a lot of youth on people who don't have the right results, when the final ending is broken, all the past will become a knife to continue to cut your heart, so that you gradually lose the courage of love. When I really loved her, because I was doomed to see no results, I also needed to give up my love for her, even if it hurt like a knife.
I can't accept that two people have the courage to gamble with a lifetime of time and enthusiasm for love, and this gamble is lost, and the difficult days will come later. There is no better next person, and all outcomes are unknown. When you can't see the future, no matter how deeply you love, please let him go, this is to complete the happiness of two people. Is it also called love to let the people you love deeply and lose the courage to love someone in the future? Letting go in time, allowing two hearts that are doomed to be unable to be together to separate and each run to their own happiness, this kind of love is a perfect love. I have fulfilled myself, and I have fulfilled the person I once loved the most.
This is a helpless growth, we are always silently swallowing the pain and difficulty that life gives us, we begin to accept parting, begin to accept not being valued. From the time I thought that my destiny was extraordinary when I was a child, I later recognized that I was just an ordinary member of all sentient beings, and even ordinary could not be more ordinary. We always have to learn to accept, and we always have to learn to let go of the impossible.
Maybe one day, we can really hold a person's hand, hoping that at that time, we can see the future, instead of thinking about whether it is right or wrong to give up.
(The materials in the article are all based on real cases)