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01
Never been together and together but broke up, which is more regrettable?
This is a hot topic that I brushed on Weibo in the early hours of yesterday morning.
At that time, I had just received a WeChat greeting from a boy I had liked for a long time, and looking at the familiar avatar, the memories of the past began to surge in my mind, and unconsciously, my eyes were red.
We liked each other, but we were never together.
He witnessed my entire youth, and I have been watching his growth.
But later, we were still scattered in the surging crowd, and we didn't even have time to say a word of goodbye.
I was lying on the bed tossing and turning, a WeChat message read and read, and then thought of that Weibo hot search, never been together, really sorry.
Because it never started, this feeling is always hidden in the heart.
And because I never started, I always stubbornly believed that if we had gone further, the ending would have been different.
Maybe we are now a couple in and out, or maybe we have entered the palace of marriage.
Or maybe we still regret to be separated in the end, but we have had it, tried it, and know that each other is not suitable, and we probably won't be so nostalgic and nostalgic.
So, at two o'clock in the morning, I dialed the phone of my former mutual friend and told her about my regrets and thoughts.
I also look forward to hearing from her mouth, an ending that is consistent with my vision.
But what I never expected was that as soon as she said a word, she woke up and re-indulged in the past.
All I remember is that she said confusedly:
If he really liked you so much, how could he bear to miss you?
What are all those obstacles, in the face of gushing love?
You're not together, either you don't love him enough or he doesn't love you enough.
02
The sea has boats to cross, the mountains have paths to work, the beloved across the mountains and seas, the mountains and seas are not flat.
Yeah, what's the reason we missed out on not being together?
Then I thought about it for a long time and found that the obstacles I thought were actually irrelevant, but I didn't want to admit that we weren't together because we didn't like each other enough.
And the reason why I miss it, the reason why I am nostalgic, is probably because what I can't get is always in turmoil.
I may not really love him as I thought, but I just can't get it, so I don't want to be at peace, this is just the greed of human nature.
And this little bit of regret may not be called a regret at all.
Maybe I was lucky not to eat grapes, so why care if it was sour or sweet?
And the real regret should be those who once had, but lost people.
Obviously, it was a two-way emotion, and it was clear that there was a future that we looked forward to, but in the torrent of time, we gradually drifted away and faded out of each other's future.
They had fallen in love and had unforgettable memories, but after they were separated, they had to let go of those memories.
Just like Chen Xun and Fang Fei in the movie "Hurry That Year", they have had such good years, witnessed each other's youth, and seen each other's tears and vulnerability.
Hugged, held hands, kissed, loved.
All the important experiences in love, they went through together and then separated.
The most regrettable thing is that when they are separated, they still love each other.
As Zhihu netizens said:
That person carries your joys and sorrows, comes and goes in your life, and you even imagine your future, including your expectations and dreams.
Even you're ready for a lifetime.
Such separation is equivalent to amputation, taking away a part of your body.
03
Love is never something easy to come by.
We also always have a back-and-forth between gain and loss.
Whether you are not together or separated together, life will never be satisfactory.
Life and death, love, hate, sorrow and joy, these are the common feelings of human beings.
The only thing we have to learn to accept is impermanence.
No one will be with you forever, most people come and go.
Regret has always been a compulsory course in life.
Before writing this article, I also collected a lot of netizens' comments, in the eyes of most people, all love and can not be, are called regret.
It's not so much that people argue over which one is more regrettable, but rather that we hate our former cowardice and lack of bravery.
We regret that we didn't insist on it a little longer, regret that we didn't say that I love you, and regret that we didn't hug the person we love a little tighter.
It's like I miss the person I secretly liked in middle school, but because I hated myself because I was timid, I didn't say the like that sentence that had been rehearsed in my heart countless times.
Now, this unspoken love has become the tears of the times, and I will never know what kind of answer I will get.
And those who are together and separated again, whatever the reason, look back now and maybe there will always be a better solution.
It may be a quiet afternoon, because the movies you want to watch are different and quarrelsome, and then the more noisy, no one is willing to give in.
When you were angry, you proposed to break up, and he agreed to you in a fit of anger.
Later, no one was willing to give in, and no one was willing to bow to the other first.
As a result, the two people who could have gone down were missed out on it.
Or maybe you have encountered setbacks, but you are always weighing, always calculating, so the difficulties in life have become a stumbling block to love.
Time soothes the suffering of life, but time magnifies the rift of love.
So, in order to have fewer regrets in life, we must be braver, and what obstacles cannot be overcome?
What kind of future is there that requires giving up the beloved as a price?
It may be hard to be together, but you have to try.
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