Lately, I have always brushed up on some answers, whether to marry the person you love, or to choose someone with better financial conditions. Link love to conditions, equate married life with money.
For example, the married man must have a house and a car, such as the bride price boyfriend can only give 60,000 6, while another blind date can give 160,000 6, how to choose. There are many problems such as these, so we will talk about them today.
Whether it is a big city or a rural area, as long as there are people, there will be a struggle, and the conditions for fighting for who to marry are better. It is very simple that the daughters of two families in our village, the two neighboring families are as big as each other, and these two families are there to compare whose daughter is married well, so that it seems that she has a sense of accomplishment and a lot of face when she goes out.
From how much the engagement is given, to the bride price, to the conditions of the man's family, to the man's work, to the man's attitude towards the woman. Anyway, what can be compared cannot be compared, all must be compared, always have to be compared, always be higher and lower, than the first. These are no longer ordinary cases, but are already common phenomena throughout the country. What are the consequences of this? The cost of marriage is getting bigger and bigger, from the previous love and character to the current house and car to save, from the previous tens of thousands of alcohol money to the current 188,280,000. If you ask which thing has risen the most fiercely in recent years, in addition to the house price is the bride price.
A bride price, a married house and a car, how many families, how many boys can't stand up straight; no boy is willing to let girls suffer along. Who doesn't want to marry a beautiful daughter-in-law and let her live like a young grandmother. Of course, one is incompetent, the other is capitalless, and this kind of man is the most common and most common ordinary man now. Don't these men deserve love? Don't deserve to own a home?
Have times changed, or have we changed? Why is it so hard to get married now? How many couples are forced to separate because they did not negotiate a good dowry? Have it? Of course there are, and there are examples of this around me. I believe there will not be too few such things. What is the reason, in the final analysis, it is still a word of money.
As parents of children, the woman's parents certainly want their daughters to marry well. One is of course that he has face, in fact, this is only a small part of the reason, the bigger reason is still to hope that his daughter will be happy after marriage. Some people will ask, is it not happy without money? Of course not, there is happiness without money, but having money is definitely better than having no money! No money, every day for chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea to worry about, buy a thing to calculate, not willing to eat or wear, a thirty-year-old girl is forced to live into forty years old, this is the sadness of no money. Because their parents are all people who have come over, and their generation is bitter, they do not want their girls to live their own lives.
Of course, it is not as bitter now as before, but parents always hope that the conditions for their daughters to marry are better, after all, the pampered at home is like a princess, and no one wants their daughter to marry and become a maid. So, we can understand, but not support. Why many families are bitter, a large part of the reason is because they have to pay back the debts, when they get married, they owe the debt, after all, now get married, there is no hundreds of thousands of people who can't come down, ordinary families generally don't owe money which knots down, and now the children are in the age of marriage, how many can come up with their own money, not all rely on the support of the family.
So now the woman is influenced by the family and wants to marry more or less with good conditions. This has caused the current situation, or the boys themselves are angry and try to be strong, and they will do a career by themselves. Of course, this is the best, but it is indeed too difficult, there are too few successful people, and there are so many girls to be married, either retreat to the second place, or continue to wait. Of course, there are also well-spoken parents and girls who believe in love.
What is happiness, happiness is actually very simple, as long as you choose the right person, that is happiness. Under normal circumstances, as long as two people are not too lazy, the salary at work is enough to cover the expenses of the family. As long as the people who accompany you are good to you and can always be good to you, it should be happy. Contentment is always the case, of course, sometimes you will envy other people's lives more exquisite than yours, but it is only envy. After all, everyone has their own life, and these envyes will only make us work harder. Of course, unrealistic envy can only be an illusion. So is there no time when you are unhappy in such a life? Of course, there are poor couples who mourn and have no good conditions to control their desires well.
Many girls choose to marry better and give up their love. This can not say that they are unhappy, at least their living conditions are better, and they may have regrets in their hearts. But for them to choose again, I think it should be the same choice. Everyone wants to live a different life, of course, the choice is different, some people like a delicate life, some people like to accompany the people around. After that time, will you fall in love with someone you once didn't love? I think it should not be, over time is more of a family-like feeling, relying on more. Love is a very mysterious thing, it is an indescribable feeling, if you don't have this feeling when you first get along for a while, you won't have it for a long time.
So no matter how girls choose, it's their choice! All we can do is make ourselves better and better. Don't blame the current girls material, the times are like this, it is the family, education, society that tells them, money is supreme, there is no money love steamed bun, it is just a bun.
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