Teenagers, in their prime, are energetic, like to challenge authority, and are prone to do all kinds of things that go out of the ordinary. Parents are difficult to educate, but do not be in a hurry, you must be willing to spend time, take the correct and reasonable way to educate, otherwise under the impulse, it is easy to hurt the child.
Junior high school students were punched and kicked by their fathers, because they played with mobile phones and did not return home at night
On a certain day off, at lunchtime, I suddenly heard the voice of the next door neighbor reprimanding the child: "Day by day, if you don't play with your mobile phone, you will die!" "The neighbor's children, who are currently in the first year of junior high school, are still playing with mobile phones under academic pressure, so they have been educated by their parents many times, and the neighbors around them are also accustomed to it."
However, this time it seems to be different, the neighbor reprimanded the child, but also scolded, scared the child to shout "Help!" "As a neighbor, I'm really afraid of something going wrong and can't help but go and see the situation." Only then did I know that this time the child not only stole his parents' mobile phones to play, but also did not return home at night...
Teach children not to punch and kick
Parents have a great responsibility to educate their children. Some parents see their children taking a detour, they can't help but use force, trying to correct it at one time, so that the child can remember sex for a long time. However, sometimes under the stick, it may not be necessary to educate sensible and obedient children, and it may be counterproductive.
(1) The child receives a lot of negative information, and rational thinking will weaken
If parents have the experience of scolding or reprimanding their children, do they also feel that the children hear the criticism of their parents, their heads become unclear, and they are more confused in doing things. This is because the child is hurt by the parents with body or speech, it is easy to produce negative emotions, the ability to be rational in the brain is weakened, but it loses the ability to judge and cannot think well.
(2) Children under the education of sticks, well-behaved on the outside, cold and ruthless on the inside
Parents often beat and scold their children, which will form a certain deterrent force for their children and let them know where the minefield is. However, this kind of parental education method actually blocks the possibility of good communication between parents and children. Therefore, when a child is educated with sticks, he often feels confused, confused and wandering, and becomes a person who is good at disguise, well-behaved on the outside, but cold and ruthless on the inside.
How to educate children who are disobedient in adolescence?
As children grow up, in their teenage adolescence, self-awareness becomes stronger, and most of them will appear selfish, willful, and disobedient. Therefore, in educating children at this stage, we must pay more attention to ways and methods. It is recommended that parents do not try to use the control method to make the baby obedient, it is best to use love and experience to support the child, guide the child, care for the child, and let the child slowly embark on the right path.
For example, in the form of a treaty, treat the three chapters of the law with the child, punish after the violation, deter the child, guide the child; accompany the child to solve the problem together, parents should not interfere with the child's choice, but in the face of the child's wrong choice, do not stand idly by. In addition to the parent-child relationship between parents and children, the teacher-student relationship and friend relationship give the child some understanding and respect, which is more conducive to the child's growth.