Nowadays, in the relationship between men and women, it is a common phenomenon that women are strong and men are weak, even after marriage, is it that women have become stronger, or men have become weaker?
In 2009, the TV series "Snail House" directed by Teng Huatao was released, and after the TV series was broadcast, it triggered a lot of discussion, because some of the plots in the play are the true portrayal of many people's lives.
Guo Haiping, played by Haiqing, is married to Su Chun, and it is reasonable to say that the two have free love and struggle together in a big city, belonging to a husband and wife with like-minded people and common goals, even if life is a little harder, it will be very happy.
However, there was a very discordant scene in the back, and the angry Guo Haiping roared angrily at Su Chun, who was reading a book:
"Why are you getting married?" "Wives and wives can't afford to raise, children and children can't afford to raise, all day long know at home, take a broken book to turn over, turn it over, and have a face to argue with me?" 」 "I tell you, forty people, the soil is buried in the waist, my brain was in the water, how can I marry someone like you?"
And Su Chun seems to have become accustomed to all this, in the face of Guo Haiping's accusations and angry scolding, Su Chun only left a sentence "The house is panicked" and left.
It is hard to imagine that the gentle Guo Haiping would become like this, or even say something that denied that the two had been beautiful, so what was the reason.
Let one woman become aggressive, and the narration of two married women tells you the answer.
Ms. Wu and her husband were introduced to each other, and the two got married not long after they met, and there was no deep emotional foundation, and there were very few people who were free to love in that era.
Her husband was born in a scholarly family, and every generation of her ancestors had a teacher, so Ms. Wu's husband also has a bit of a literati temperament and looks very Sven.
However, at that time, it was not suitable for Sven at all, and he could not eat enough without being domineering, but Sven's habitual husband could not be rude.
Every time I work, I don't have a woman as fast as Ms. Wu, and Ms. Wu, who is tired and angry, often can't help but count down a few words from her husband.
Although Ms. Wu looks strong, Ms. Wu is actually the kind of woman with a knife mouth and tofu heart, although her husband works slowly, Ms. Wu has to say a few words every time, but Ms. Wu also helps her husband to do the work.
Gradually, the husband was also accustomed to this state, and when Ms. Wu scolded her husband, the husband would refute a few words, and then he did not refute it.
If ms. Wu is not so overheated, her husband will choose to have a cold war with Ms. Wu and completely ignore Ms. Wu.
And every time at this time, the strong Ms. Wu will go to her husband to apologize, and then the two will get back together, and in a few days they will quarrel again, and so on.
Gradually, the husband became more and more dependent on Ms. Wu, and he had to work with Ms. Wu for some work, and if Ms. Wu let her husband do it alone, then the husband was basically perfunctory.
Often it is to let Ms. Wu go back to work, and Ms. Wu will scold a few words when she is angry, but the scolding has long since ceased to work for her husband, and what it should be like is still what it looks like.
Planting rice in the summer, the husband of a big man actually did not dare to go to catch the water in the middle of the night, each time he had to pull Ms. Wu together, and then simply let Ms. Wu go alone.
In the family of Ms. Wu and her husband, Ms. Wu seems to have become the big man who is alone, while the husband has become the "wife" who stays at home and waits for the "husband" to come home.
The husband began to become more and more timid, more and more cowardly, and his dependence on Ms. Wu became more and more serious, and even if Ms. Wu did not come home at five o'clock, she would go everywhere to find her wife, afraid that her wife would disappear.
Today, Ms. Wu and her husband have been married for 49 years, and in the past 49 years, Ms. Wu has lived an extremely painful life, her husband is not as capable as other men, and he is also unusually cowardly, has no life of his own, wants to stay with himself all day, and then keeps chanting in your ear.
Many times Ms. Wu feels that she is not married to a husband, but has raised a "son" who will never grow up, and this "son" loves and hates himself.
A few days ago, Ms. Wu saw an old couple on the Internet who were 89 years old and still strong, and Ms. Wu was very envious, but Ms. Wu herself did not have the courage to divorce.
Ms. Lin is a professional woman, several suites in first-tier cities, two luxury cars, and a large supermarket, her husband is a music writer, in the eyes of friends, Ms. Lin is a winner in life.
However, only Ms. Lin herself understood that she was glamorous on the outside, but like a servant at home, and her marriage was even more chicken feathers.
Ms. Lin and her husband belong to free love, after marriage, the two followed the people who went south to the coastal city to work hard, and after having some capital, the two returned to their hometown to start a business.
After many hard days and two failures, Ms. Lin stood firm in this metropolis with a momentum of not accepting defeat.
However, after having money, although the quality of life has risen, there are problems in the marriage between Ms. Lin and her husband, and many people who have money will become bad, but the husband has become a treasurer.
In the past, when I started a business, my husband was still in the wind and sun with Ms. Lin, but after my husband had money, he wanted to go to music.
In fact, Ms. Lin is not opposed to making music, but in order to engage in music, the family and supermarkets do not care about anything, and completely push things to Ms. Lin.
Many people think that opening a supermarket and waiting to be collected is ok, in fact, opening a supermarket is very tiring, Ms. Lin has to have a good relationship with various suppliers on the one hand, and on the other hand, she also has to deal with the inspection of various departments.
These things are already very tired when put on a man, not to mention that Ms. Lin is still a woman, but Ms. Lin is so tired that she has to give her husband a practice when she returns home.
Because Ms. Lin's husband will not do it, it is a little ridiculous to say, but it is really happening.
Some people may say, how her husband does not order takeaway, because Ms. Lin's husband is unusually sparing of life, there is a little problem to go to the hospital for examination, takeaway in the eyes of her husband is junk food, at home to do is healthy.
And Ms. Lin's husband also requires that there must be a soup for each meal, and there must be a vegetable, vegetables are to supplement vitamins, and the soup is because the husband must have soup to eat the meal.
People will feel tired, not to mention Ms. Lin a woman, sometimes Ms. Lin comes home tired, does not want to let her husband do it, the husband is angry in the kitchen, saying that what woman does is her duty...
Tired and hungry Ms. Lin was immediately unhappy, directly back to her husband, why don't you say that it is the husband's duty to show your face outside, then what is the shrunken-headed turtle at home all day.
Such quarrels often occur in Ms. Lin's home, who also loves music, Ma Yun can have a successful career and hold his own concerts, while Ms. Lin's husband is not like an ignorant child.
The pressure of life and the incomprehension of her husband, coupled with the constant quarrels between husband and wife, Ms. Lin has lost hope in this marriage, and now in Ms. Lin's heart, she can live or can't live and divorce.
It can be seen that both Ms. Wu and Ms. Lin are very disappointed in their marriages, and the reason for this disappointment is the pressure of life, but more often from the lack of responsibility of the husband.
Whether it is Ms. Wu or Ms. Lin, in fact, in the marriage, they are a bit strong, and many times things are done and love to say a few words.
It made Ms. Wu and Ms. Lin's husbands, both dependent on their wives, and suppressed by their wives a little unable to lift their heads, and even felt very frustrated in their wives' cursing.
In the long run, it will make a man more and more selfish, more and more irresponsible, until finally throwing the burden of the family to a woman.
However, even if a woman carries the burden of the family, it is difficult to get the approval of her husband, and finally under the pressure of life and the husband's incomprehension, she slowly becomes aggressive.
Running a good marriage requires two people to pay together, not one person can change, husband and wife should communicate more, and many problems will be solved.
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Why do you say that you can cry and still have milk to eat, sometimes women can not be so strong, can be appropriate but weak, let the husband work with himself.
Men should not always feel that their wives are strong, men themselves are strong, women will slowly become soft, if nothing can be done, but also let the wife do it, then how can the woman be gentle.
In fact, there is no woman who does not want to be gentle, but it also needs men to give them a chance.
Author: Mushroom
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