"Being kind to yourself is the greatest mercy in the world."
Author: Nightly Annabésu
Source: One book per night (see the account)
1
Yue Yunpeng was red.
Over the years, he has won a lot of glamorous titles.
The overall champion of the "Happy Comedian" program, the leader of the Five Rings Sect, and the brother of Deyun.
He has stood on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala twice, and he has also been frequently searched for because of his "interesting" soul.
However, every time he laughed in front of people, I could always think of Yue Yunpeng, who cried silently under the camera many years ago.
It was an interview with the CCTV program "Face to Face".
In the interview, Yue Yunpeng mentioned a "history of humiliation" that he had, even after many years, he was still in tears.
At that time, he was just a 15-year-old teenager who had just come to Beijing and worked in a small restaurant for a living.
Once he wrote the wrong menu and wrote the beer from table 3 on the list of table 5.
Two bottles of beer, six bucks.
The guest did not accept an apology, did not accept the exemption, and cursed at him for nearly three hours.
Yue Yunpeng said: "I apologized, I apologized for three hours, how can not do anything, he just scolded, scolded all the time." ”
Speaking of which, this honest young man cried in front of a national audience.
"Why are they so insulting..."
14 years have passed, and he has become a well-deserved national comedian, with success and flowers.
From being ridiculed, being insulted, to now wearing a radiant light.
Yue Yunpeng's counterattack road full of bitterness and blood and tears revealed a heart-wrenching truth about life:
Only when a person is truly strong can he be seen and respected.
When people are low, they must understand shame and then be brave.
The best revenge for those who despise you, trample on you, and hurt you is not calculating, nor is it staying away.
Instead, secretly work hard and go up.
A strong self is the best counterattack against the person who hurts you, and it is also the best gift to yourself.
2
Mr. Yang Dai once said:
"When you are in a high position, all you see is flashy spring dreams; when you are humble, you have the opportunity to see the truth of the world."
Indeed it is.
The less powerful a person is, the more he is bullied, and the weaker you are, the more bad people there are.
I remember watching an interview video of Huang Bo earlier.
He said: "In the past, I could always meet all kinds of people, all kinds of careful machines, but now it is different, surrounded by good people, and every one of them is a smiling face." ”
In just a few words, I said all the sadness of the past.
From bars, to universities, to show business, Huang Bo has met too many bad people.
When singing in the bar, he was bombed off the stage, the wine was drunk, and the guest paid the bill, asking him to drink all the time and lose his smile to pay the bill.
After being admitted to the film school, he was ridiculed by his classmates because of his appearance: "Even Huang Bo can be admitted to the film school, how low are the enrollment requirements?" ”
The road to acting is also bumpy and tortuous.
Once, he managed to get a role as a robber in the play "Taste of Love".
At the scene of the film, the assistant director shouted: "Robber, has the robber arrived?" ”
Huang Bo quickly greeted him and said with a smile on his face, "When it arrives, I am." ”
Unexpectedly, the assistant director saw him furious on the spot:
Isn't that? How can you be photogenic in terms of your appearance, and when you are an actor, you are also matched? ”
Recalling these past experiences, Huang Bo said in the interview: "There is definitely harm, so you need great self-examination and self-discipline." ”
Being slighted and trampled upon, I know that I need to speak out on my own strength.
Later, he won the Golden Horse Award and the Shanghai International Film Festival Film Emperor, and those who scolded him for his ugliness changed their mouths, praising him for his superb acting skills and high recognition, and praised him as a comedy master.
The seemingly absurd reversal reveals the naked truth of human nature:
Many times, it is not that the world is too bad, but that you are too weak, and anyone can pinch you and step on you.
When you straighten your own backbone by strength, others will truly respect you.
You become strong, and the whole world is happy with you.
3
I once saw a passage like this on the Internet:
"Don't say hurt and pain are wealth, that's nonsense. Pain is pain, and the kind of strength and bravery that clenches your teeth and pulls your hair to stand up is wealth. ”
Deeply.
Zhang Shaohan also said in the "Spit Conference":
"I never thank those who hurt me, hurt is hurt, without those hurts, I would have become strong."
In 2008, Zhang Shaohan went to Canada for treatment due to a heart attack, which caused a huge change in fate and lost everything.
Her biological mother took all her savings after she left.
Not only that, but he also joined forces with her uncle in front of the media to accuse her of abandoning her family and framing her for drug use with her plain face.
Her best sister, instead of helping her speak up, took over the endorsement that originally belonged to her and quickly broke with her.
Overnight, she fell to the altar and her life took a sharp turn.
Under pressure, she chose to disappear.
This disappearance is ten years.
Ten years is enough to make the front wave disappear and no longer turn over, and it is enough for the back wave to complete the update iteration of the entertainment industry.
No one knows how she got here.
Ten years later, a song called "Atio" put her back on the stage of "I Am a Singer".
The live music ended, the lights ended, and countless people burst into tears.
She is still the strength song queen of "small body with great energy", but listening to her singing, there is a little more compassion and relief in the vicissitudes.
She said that she was willing to be ordinary, but not willing to be defeated by the ordinary.
After experiencing pain, she has also learned to let go over the years.
I used to think that the world owed her a sorry, but now I can laugh and say the sentence, "I don't need others to pave the way for me, because I am born strong and born with wings." ”
This is her strong voice that she has endured for many years, and it is also an inspirational quote for us ordinary people.
Instead of forcing yourself to forgive the wounds you once had, it is better to be reborn with this wound and be ashamed of yourself.
4
Ma Dong once said in "Strange Story": "With the passage of time, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us." ”
Cai Kangyong couldn't wait to add:
"That's not forgiveness, it's just forget it."
Behind a sentence of "forget it", I don't know how much helplessness and heartache are contained.
It's not that I don't mind, it's just that I don't dwell on it anymore.
It is not that it is not painful, but it is to turn that pain into strength, break through the cocoon into a butterfly, and be reborn in nirvana.
The heavens and the earth are big, so that the past quickly turns the page, refuses to forgive, and never sees the rivers and lakes again.
Whatever the choice, those who grow up from their wounds have already seen through:
Being kind to yourself is the greatest kindness in the world.
Encourage your friends.