Yang Dai said in the "Speech of one hundred years old": "In this materialistic world, it is really hard enough to be a person. ”
Admittedly, no one's life is easy, and the years have not spared anyone.
But the more difficult the situation, the more brilliant the heart, pleasing yourself, and warming the world.
Taking care of the mood is more important than anything; not forgetting to be considerate of others is more rare than anything.
The true wise man knows how to please himself, but also does not forget to please others, and lives a beautiful and vast life.
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Pleasing oneself is the highest realm
Lin Qingxuan said: "Let happiness become a habit. ”
Many times, happiness is not only a habit, but also a choice, when you choose to please yourself, then no matter how difficult the situation is, happiness has always been with you.
The really powerful people are able to choose to please themselves no matter how difficult the days are.
Su Dongpo is like this, in the realm of pleasing himself, he has already reached the peak.
In his life, he was either in the land of degrading officials or on the way there, from a rookie in the imperial court to a remote official, he was still open-minded.
The temple is too high to go in, the rivers and lakes are far away, he is willing to eat, he has no power in his hands and no money in his pocket, he writes poems and lyrics to play in the mountains.
In the age of self-denial, he lived naturally; on the thorny road, he lived freely.
Degraded by Huangzhou, he said: "The Yangtze River goes around Guo Zhiyumei, and the good bamboo and mountains feel the fragrance of bamboo shoots";
Degraded to Huizhou, he said: "Three hundred lychees a day, do not quit being a Lingnanian";
Degraded to Hainan, he said: "I am a native of Dan'er, parasitizing Western ShuZhou."
Life can not go down the river, Su Shi will smile and swim against the current, always do not forget to please themselves, live into an interesting appearance.
His Daguan, which has still shone brightly for thousands of years, also illuminates us in the future who are also breaking through in the dark night.
I have heard a saying: "To make others happy is compassion, and to make yourself happy is great wisdom." ”
Life is a long journey, not all the road, there are lows, there are setbacks.
But when you are proud, you have the happiness of walking in the clouds, when you are frustrated, you have the happiness of idle clouds and wild cranes, and life is full of scenery.
The most important thing to live is to please yourself, worry is not as good as relief, sad is not as happy, not wandering in sadness, life can see the clouds.
As The Wumen Hui Kai Zen Master said: "Spring has a hundred flowers and autumn has a moon, summer has a cool breeze and winter has snow." ”
The world is so beautiful, spring, summer, autumn and winter have their own postures, even if you have three thousand troubles, there are thousands of antidotes.
So, make friends that will make you happy, love people who will make you smile, go wherever you want to go, and fulfill the dreams of your heart.
Pleasing yourself and making yourself happy every day is the greatest meaning of your efforts.
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It is comfortable and the most top cultivation
"Cai Gen Tan" has a saying: "The true taste is light, and it is as usual as usual." ”
People at a high level will not be pretentious and domineering, but will push themselves and others everywhere, and when they get along, they will feel as comfortable as a spring breeze.
Make people comfortable, not to cater to please, but rooted in the heart of kindness, carved in the bones of the upbringing, there are gaps in the chest, there is gentleness in the heart, warm treatment of everyone in life.
Once read a story, very touched.
There was a boy who always went to school without the keys to the house, and every time he came home from school, he shouted at the door to his father to open the door.
Suddenly, one day, his father specifically told him: "In the future, you must remember to bring the keys to the house every day, and open the door yourself when you come back." ”
The boy was puzzled and asked, "Why?" ”
His father replied, "When you call Out Loud Daddy, the kid next door will feel bad when he hears it." ”
It turned out that the father of the child next door had died in the line of duty the day before, and he had no father again.
Truly cultivated people know how to make people comfortable, although it is only a small act, but it contains a great warmth.
In the book "The Weakness of Human Nature", it is said: "If you want to get happiness from life, you can't just think about yourself, but also think about others." ”
For the sake of people, let people be comfortable, the road of life will be wider and wider, more and more happiness, and the blessings will accumulate deeper and deeper.
Each of us walks in the world, the scenery sometimes, sometimes the embarrassment.
But all the goodwill of others, the thoughtfulness of pushing oneself and others, and the sincerity from the bottom of the heart will flow to oneself.
Remember, make people comfortable, and the beauty of this world will also be intertwined with you.
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For the rest of your life, please yourself first, and then please others
There is an old saying: "Those who slander others seek the pleasure of others; and those who are good and obedient, who are pleasing to others, seek their own righteousness." ”
This means that you can't blindly bend over backwards to meet others, lose yourself, and don't just want to be happy yourself without considering the feelings of others.
Therefore, the best way to live in life is to please yourself first, and then please others.
The famous writer Ma Jiahui once shared such an incident.
After marriage, his wife wanted to become a full-time wife, but at first he was very opposed, believing that it was a burial of his wife's talent.
But the wife was resolute, saying that she enjoyed the life of a full-time wife, and she had no choice but to agree.
Unexpectedly, even as a full-time wife, his wife has a very rich life, will share good books and movies with him, and will also solve problems for him at work.
He lamented: "I support my wife financially, and she nourishes me with her spirit. ”
Ma Jiahui's wife chose to complete herself first, and then use her happiness to bring love and joy to people.
True high emotional intelligence is not to put comfort in the first place, but to make yourself happy at the same time, but also to infect others with inner satisfaction and joy.
Mencius has a saying: "The poor are good at their own, and the poor are good at their own, and the da is also good for the world." ”
Each of us can only nourish others if we first learn to please ourselves and live ourselves as a beam of light.
When you are not in time, please yourself first, be born to the sun, and make yourself happy, which is the highest realm.
When you have spare strength, pleasing others, pushing yourself and others, and making others comfortable is the top cultivation.
Write at the end
In the "New Language, Xi Shi", it is written: "The short life of man is like a stone fire, and it is like a stone fire. ”
The years are hurried, and between the eyes and closed eyes as they come and go, compared to the illusory fame and fortune, there is a realm of pleasing yourself when getting along with yourself, and there is a comfortable cultivation when getting along with others, which is really rare.
Even if life is stormy, as long as you are always happy and not lacking in goodness, you will be treated tenderly by the years.
For the rest of your life, may you be a light that illuminates others, and your life is also illuminated by light.