Wen | Yuan Yunlu
Life is like a mirror, looking at others, but also can see through yourself.
Sometimes it looks like a flat mirror, and sometimes it looks like a bump mirror.
When your life is in a flat mirror, others can use it to take pictures, so you have to keep it flat and clean, and you can help people take pictures of the real, not out of shape.
Among the concave and convex mirrors, the most typical are parabolic mirrors and spherical mirrors.
The function of the parabolic mirror is to absorb the light outside, humbly accept the knowledge or energy of others, and focus on what has become your own. It gives the impression of humility, commitment, and responsiveness.
The spherical mirror gives the impression of being proud and complacent, rejecting the love and light of others.
At different stages or on different occasions, people will play different roles.
Sometimes he's like a plane mirror, sometimes he's like a parabola, sometimes he's a spherical mirror again.
When you're with a student or a child, you have to be a role model and an example.
It is like a flat mirror that allows students to see themselves and allows children to reflect on right and wrong from your words and deeds.
In this role, you must be careful in your words and deeds, and be a mirror and example for others.
If in the diplomatic scene, in front of the enemy, you have to be a spherical mirror, emit a strong light: do not yield, do not flatter others, do not bow down three or four, use a spherical way, and fight back against the opponent with reason and moderation, such as diplomatic rhetoric.
For example, Sino-US relations, that is, the adoption of reciprocal negotiations or trade sanctions, will never yield to the other side and betray national interests, which can be seen at the press conference.
When you are in a weak position or obscure, you must be as dark as a parabola, crouching for self-preservation.
Parabolic mirrors are characterized by eclecticism and unconditional acceptance. But the light or energy given to us by others must be condensed into a highlight through reflection, reminiscence, summary and refinement.
This highlight can be seen both in the brilliance of adult nature and in the understanding of adult life.
This highlight is also very powerful, not only as a self-defense "laser weapon", but also as a nemesis to destroy yourself. Because it receives all the positive or negative energy of others, and the positive energy helps you grow, and the negative energy will hurt yourself, such as forming anger and depression, depending on how you master it.
Therefore, when we absorb the light and energy of others, we must be good at rational absorption and excretion. This is in line with the three principles of "absorbing, thinking, and sharing" learning.
Man is a role switch in three mirrors, one in and one out, in a spiral path.
Relatively speaking, flat mirror people are not humble, not annoying, and not likable.
The spherical mirror adopts a strong way of frontal rejection and offense, rejecting people for thousands of miles and leaving no trace.
A parabolic mirror that is completely accepted or accepted to form a highlight.
Ordinary people, mostly like a flat mirror, it does not form a highlight like a parabolic mirror, nor does it produce a strong light like a spherical mirror.
If it is smooth and flat and clean, it can make people reflect on their true appearance. But when the water is clear, there are no fish. When your peers or opponents find that you are too perfect, too powerful, and they do not want to follow your example, you will make enemies and invite wolves and jackals.
When opponents find that you can see their ugly souls, they will be afraid. In other words, when you become a mirror and make them dwarfed, showing inferiority, revealing their original form, they will be jealous of you and destroy you.
Even a person of high morals who does not find his merits in you will be uncomfortable. Although he will not harm you, he will stay away from you.
What kind of people do you like to deal with the most? Everyone is a good teacher, so people with parabolic glasses are easy to become the trash cans that everyone spits, and the natural audience likes them.
In the face of the parabolic mirror, you can point fingers, feel free to comment, no matter what you do with him, he will accept you in general. But people with parabolic mirrors, who receive more negative energy, are prone to hurt themselves.
On the contrary, people in the spherical mirror behave in a very high-profile manner. Because the glare is dazzling, with you, you can't get half the benefits, but you criticize education and numbers, so everyone doesn't like you, only hide from you or hide from you, and finally make you a lonely person.
In fact, people also want to teach you a lesson, but also want to show you the advantages, and you always fight back with strong light, daunting, dare not come close to you.
To sum up, being a person sometimes has to be a parabolic mirror, humbly accept others, even if it becomes someone else's punching bag, focusing on energy, and becoming a highlight.
Sometimes you have to be a spherical mirror, and if necessary, you show your sword and emit a strong light to deter or attract the opponent.
About the Author
Yuan Yunlu, public security police, provincial public security system psychological service instructor, obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression psychology expert, China Network Educational Psychology Channel, Phoenix News columnist, Zhihu, today's headlines psychological field creators, vice president of Shangrao Psychological Counselors Association.
In 1988, because of severe stuttering and forced to receive Zhang Jinghui psychotherapy, he was relieved and began to study psychology.
In 2008, after "Train Enlightenment" came out of depression, qiushui theory was founded.
In 2016, he studied under Shi Zhanbiao, a teacher at the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
Since 2006, under the pseudonym of "Hate Like Autumn Water", he has published thousands of social psychological research and practice articles in the media such as China Psychology and Health Magazine, China Net, Phoenix News, Zhihu and other media, and has received more than 100,000 requests and consultations from people with psychological distress.
Research interests: obsessive-compulsive, stuttering, depression, anxiety, insomnia and other diseases and adolescent psychological trauma, family marriage and other psychological problems.
Representative Publications:
Principles and Rehabilitation of Stuttering (Jiangxi Education Publishing House.2015).
Emotional Psychology (Jiangxi Education Press, 2019).