01.
Sophie's life is very much like Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", before the divorce, you want the wind to get the wind, and you want the rain to get the rain. Life is extremely comfortable, there is a nanny at home to cook, watch the second child, and her daily job is to beautify and make a manicure to pick up her daughter by the car.
Xu is too smooth life, such a plain life makes her husband lose interest in her, although they already have a second child, the husband is still unwilling to stay, resolutely divorced her, ran to the third place.
Sophie was devastated by this incident and locked herself in her room for three days without coming out, and the water did not enter for three days, if it were not for her mother coming from her hometown, she might have really fainted in the bedroom without anyone.
The man offered very good conditions, half a million for a son, the daughter to her, he will also give her ten thousand monthly living expenses, the house is also left to her. Sophie did not agree to give him custody of the child, and the two men fought a lawsuit, but in the end there was no result.
Three days of hunger strike suddenly made Sophie understand that men are "big pig trotters", she dismissed the nanny, began to take care of her daughter's life, began to wash the diaper for her young son, feed milk powder, these jobs in the past, because of enjoying life, she never touched, she found that before she was really not a good mother, because of the love of beauty, she was not even willing to cut a nail.
Sophie refused half a million yuan and living expenses, and her mother sold the house from her hometown, and the four of them lived together and rented a school district house. The children would go to her ex-husband's house on weekends, and on weekends, Sophie would find three jobs, and she would not accept his relief after a complete break with the suit and leather shoes.
Many people will think that Sophie is stupid, and her ex-husband is willing to give 500,000 but not. But the ex-husband's price of 500,000 is to let her cut the connection to her son, how can she, she would rather not have a penny, but also rely on herself to support the children.
Sophie understands that if you take someone's money, you have to live in the control of others, it is better to force yourself.
02.
Sophie used to study design, no one expected her to pick up the paintbrush again, but also try to save money, relying on herself to earn money although tired, but her potential was also instantly stimulated, she suffered a lot, even she herself felt that the previous Sophie had died.
And when she tried to do it, she also realized how much potential a woman has.
In the past few years, Sophie only slept four or five hours a day, as long as she couldn't sleep, she would look at the design book, at first, she was too old to even understand the design drawings because shelved it for too long, and then slowly figured out the skills, and successfully transformed from a "rich wife with ten fingers that does not touch the spring water of the sun" into a shrewd and capable white-collar worker.
Sophie finally understood that after being single, she could see that whether it was a man or a woman, whether the marriage was complete or not, their responsibilities were great, and these abilities she really did not have before.
Having children is easy, raising children is difficult. If she does not have a child, she will not know how expensive the milk powder money is, and for the sake of the child, no matter how poor her life is, she will choose the best milk powder for the child. Once upon a time, because there were men, she never looked at the price of milk powder, nor did she know that it was not easy to feed a child.
The child is the mother's most unbearable concern, so no matter what, you must have the ability to raise children. You may not need to give him the best and most prosperous life, but the most basic you have to give him, love can not be lacking, the quality of life can be, but above a certain bottom line, this is the responsibility.
The rented house is always someone else's, not her own, and Sophie knows this well, so she already has the intention of buying a house.
Why do you have to buy a house? Because there is so much uncertainty in renting a house and there is no sense of security to live there, buying a house may seem really unrealistic for a single mom, but without trying, how do you know?
When the days go too smoothly, it's easy to forget how we got to that position step by step. Therefore, only in the face of adversity, you will understand the desperate situation.
It is also after the most difficult time that you can see the essence of a person. The person who can always accompany him silently must be the person who loves him the most, so no matter what time, he must be strong, because he is strong, in order to give the people who care about a home.
Through hard work, Sophie's life was a little better, and as soon as she saved up money, she took the money to go to Milan for further study. Her burden was heavy, so she had to work harder.
Life in Milan is still very hard, but she is very happy, during the day she studied part-time work at night, staying up late has become a habit, and she believes that this sad day is the beginning and the end.
With her hands and mind, Sophie worked hard to become a famous wedding dress designer at noon. For her, for every woman, their abilities are unlimited, these forces have always been hidden around them, and only when adversity comes, they will suddenly realize.
03.
How capable a woman really is, you can't imagine. But one thing is that when you choose to concede, you really lose.
If you choose to rely on others to raise a comfortable life, then you are likely to lose the ability to support yourself, which is a terrible thing. In this world, if a woman loses even the most basic ability to survive, then she is really worthless.
At any time, regardless of whether the man in the marriage is good or not, you must think of danger in peace and improve yourself.
Only if you are willing to eat the bitterness of life can you taste the sweetness of life.
A woman's abilities and potential can be great, depending on whether you have the ability and confidence yourself.
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