Most of them are people with children between the ages of 30 and 50. After ending a marriage or long-term relationship, they return to their single life, a change in life that makes charm and traps coexist.
Regain freshness
Julia, 48, said: "I don't know how to face a person's life and it took me a long time to adapt to it. ”
Julia, who has just separated after 17 years of living together, and her ex-husband implement the management method of taking turns with children, each living with three children a week. She returned to a life of solitude and faced many difficulties...
She re-downloaded the dating app and went on a date with strangers at bars after work. "It's fun, but it's also very time-consuming."
After years of living together, Michael sees his return to celibacy as a whole new freedom. Meeting new people and staying out after work and not coming home is like having a second youth.
After the separation, Boris first discovered the difficulties of family life. The computer technician admits, "I'm a little ashamed to admit that I don't have any experience in shopping, cooking or cleaning." ”
Since the separation, I have stayed in a small apartment full of takeaway packages. I only cook when my son comes back.
When I met my new girlfriend, I had to clean up the apartment. The new girlfriend is ten years younger than me, has no children, and doesn't want kids. She does not accept the "widowed" mode of love.
I am now more independent and responsible than ever before. This would never have happened without separation.
It hasn't been all smooth sailing
There are also many separated people who feel sad in their single state after ending a multi-year relationship and are full of anxiety in their lives.
This more or less sets aside time to get your love life back on track, and it also means adding your offspring to the challenge.
According to the data, almost a quarter of families with children, or 2 million families, are single-parent households, while only 12% of children whose parents are separated live under the rotating system.
Audrey (divorced) said: "What was most lacking in the beginning was time management. You only have two weekends a month to organize your social life. ”
"Before the divorce, I watched TV dramas with my ex-husband and kids on the weekend and ate takeaway dinners. Weekend plans are very easy to develop and implement. ”
After a few "nice but not too serious" encounters, Audrey was with a new boyfriend.
"We've introduced our children to each other, but we don't live together," she said. We just find time to go out together. 44 years old, with a little savings, it's great to be a young couple! ”
Not everyone is so lucky.
Jonathan said, "After 20 years of marriage, it's very strange to find yourself alone every night. ”
His ex-wife soon found a new partner. The 50-year-old lives in a rural area and his children only come to visit him occasionally.
"I want to start a new life, but where do I go to meet people?" I try to look through a mobile app, but that's not my specialty. And I'm past the age of going to nightclubs, where I'm more likely to meet people from my children's generation than my future wife. ”
Aurélia, 38, who is divorced, has set up a group that regularly meets, and she attends the party every time as a single woman.
"There are divorced friends, there are friends in the office, there are young people etc. They are not limited by couples and children. ”
"We meet for drinks and dinner, like a bunch of teenagers getting together and telling each other our stories. After years of married life, it was like a game time. ”
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