What is coddling? Coddling is an unjust material feeling of giving, satisfying, and protecting, that is, excessive love.
Lifestyle Coddling Homeschooling Growing Up Kids
The world knows that we should not spoil our children, which will breed their bad habits and affect their healthy growth. However, sometimes you will unconsciously do something that you do not feel is coddling, but instead has the essence of coddling.
There is no boundary in coddling this thing, some parents are just powerless to coddle because of busy work or financial problems, but instead feel that they have done these things to hone their children; while some parents are because the conditions are sufficiently satisfied, want to pour out all the good for their children, may become the reality of coddling. What can be done? Parents on both sides know that coddling is toxic, but they just can't help it.
Those coddling manifestations that you have not found include: because of the concern for the health problems and dangers of the outside world, parents tend to restrict their children's activities, do not let them do this, do not let them eat that; take over everything about their children, deprive them of most of the opportunity to do things; like to arrange everything for their children, what to eat, what to wear, what to play... Make the child grow up with little initiative; unprincipled satisfaction of the child's requirements, even some excessive demands...
Maybe I don't summarize it very comprehensively, but it is the current parents who are too precious of their own children, nervous about their children, or create all the conditions for their children to make up for what parents think they lacked when they were young, so that today's children have problems that parents can't find at that time when their personality is important. So many people who grow up in this way will be particularly vulnerable, unable or unwilling to face the difficulties of life, emotion or work that need to be faced alone.
Those doting that you don't discover soak up these future flowers like boiled frogs, and the resulting malnutrition is largely irreparable. The only thing that can be done now is to treat these children as independent people, they all have independent personalities and desires to be independent.
From: Free Meow