What is an adult, that is, there is rationality at all times in the relationship, and in dealing with the problem of feelings, reason is always greater than feelings.
The way they handle feelings will surprise young boys and girls: you agree with us to get married, you don't agree to we divorce.
The seemingly nonsensical way is the helpless choice of adults in the face of feelings.
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Colleagues are old, married to their wives for more than 20 years, and others can't see anything wrong.
In recent days, I have always lived in a dormitory.
This is also true, including holidays.
When we heard the news of his divorce, we were all surprised. I didn't expect him to say lightly, what is this, away from it.
There is no meaning of retention.
Do they face decades of feelings and break it off, without a little nostalgia.
In fact, for adults, for the choice of feelings, feelings are no longer in an important position, but in the actual interests and future development.
If you can live, you can live well, and if you can't live, leave immediately.
Without any nostalgia.
Once they make a choice, they will quickly cut it off, even if they regret it, they will never look back.
The choice of being nearly cold, for most people, is incomprehensible, but in the face of reality, too many people choose rationality, that is, in the face of practical interests, feelings can sometimes be ignored.
You may not believe it when it is said, but it is true in the face of facts.
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The old Xu of the unit, his wife died of illness, and just one month later, he established a relationship with a nurse in the hospital and registered for marriage.
Was he so ruthless to his ex-wife?
Or is there not a little nostalgia?
Even if it's a year.
But some practical problems in real life are not easy to waste time on emotional problems.
Both parents need to be cared for and children need to be taken care of.
In the face of trivial life, feelings seem to be worthless.
In fact, this is not the case, there will always be feelings, but in the face of reality, feelings are very fragile.
When you can be together, cherish well, can not be together, people who do not go, live well, is a kind of respect for people who walk.
Wise doesn't represent everything.
Starting over doesn't mean forgetting.
All good, is everyone's wish, there is no love in heaven, we all have to live in the moment.
This is not only the helplessness of life, but also a realistic choice.
No matter how high the love is sung, there is no reality.
This is most thorough for everyone who lives in a marriage.
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What makes the emotional world of adults so desperate? Even a little bit cold?
It is ruthless real interests.
It is a helpless choice.
The so-called love is a common insistence, but also a common interest, but also a common law, if these are gone, love will be scattered.
Just as our life, the body is there, the spirit is there, the body is gone, the spirit is gone.
I am not belittling love, love must be practical, real, and material, Lu Xun's love novel "Wounded Death", Zijun's choice, must be chosen between a cabbage.
The sanctity of love must be based on a common material and emotional foundation.
Without a certain foundation, even the most beautiful building will fall one day.
So you can't understand that the love that was once vigorous was destroyed in the time of a cigarette, and from then on it was strange, old and dead.
It's not that they feel bad, it's not that their feelings are lost.
In the face of the harsh reality, everyone first chooses to survive and then thinks of development.
If there is no survival, there is no love.
When the feelings you choose endanger your actual interests, many people will choose interests for the first time, love is in front of interests, so insignificant, because survival is the flesh, love is the spirit, you must first choose to survive, and then choose love, rather than putting the cart before the horse.
There are not so many petty bourgeoisie in this world, but there are too many realities, no matter what kind of feelings you are, when deciding to start or end, you must first weigh your rights and strength, if you talk about love, you can only be greeted by one word: roll!
We are all so real, whether it's love or something else.
If you can be together, you can cherish it, you can't be together, you can light a cigarette, and you can do whatever you want afterwards.
I won't miss you, and you won't miss me.
There are many roads in this world, so watch and go for yourself.