Aya called, her voice low and hoarse, she said: I am divorced, you accompany me to drink two drinks!
Seeing her at the window, lonely and unfocused, with a haggard face, a glass of red wine shaking in his hand, and then looking up and pouring it all into his mouth. I took a few quick steps to grab her cup, and she saw that I couldn't help but shrug my shoulders on the table and sob. I took her into my arms and gently patted her back and said, "Lend you a shoulder to lean on, and cry when you want!" She stubbornly wiped a handful of tears and said: "Have a drink to celebrate my liberation."
I knew that now she needed to talk, needed someone to listen, and poured a little red wine to let her talk. She picked up the cup and looked at the red inside and smiled bitterly: "I remember when I got married, you all came to congratulate me, saying that I was blessed, and I found a gentle and handsome little brother, and I will definitely have a good life." At that time, I also thought so, he had almost no temper, the only requirement for marriage was to be filial to his mother, his father was not in good health, and his mother was not easy. I think filial piety men are more worthy of love, thinking that they have picked up the treasure, who knows that the nightmare begins with marriage. ”
On the wedding day, his sister-in-law said to me with a gloomy face: Congratulations on entering the gates of hell. It frightened me to the bone, and then she sadly lifted up her clothes to let me see the bruises on her body, and said quietly: You will be like me in the future.
The joy of marriage does not seem to be much affected by his sister-in-law, and the family is tired enough to this wedding before and after, and I am grateful for the efforts of the elders, thinking that I must honor my in-laws in the future.
When everyone dispersed, the mother-in-law was still busy, the things in the marriage room were moved back and forth, she slapped the debris on her son's body, and at the same time painfully changed her son into cotton slippers, one let the mother rest, one let the child drink water, the two women pulled their hands and pity each other, as if I was superfluous.
The next day before dawn, the mother-in-law did not even knock on the door, directly into the bedroom, you think, just married two people have not yet gotten up how embarrassing, the sudden intervention of the mother-in-law makes me feel self-conscious. The mother-in-law walked over to her son casually, tucked the quilt for her son, and then said to me that a woman can not only enjoy, but also know how to take care of men. It is a woman's duty to do housework, wash and cook, and serve men well.
In this way, the mother-in-law gave her daughter-in-law the first lesson.
The mother-in-law felt that her daughter-in-law had married home and that she should enjoy it. As a result, all the miscellaneous things in the house were assigned to me, and I did not complain too much when I was used to working, after all, I was still intoxicated with the joy of the new marriage.
Until one day, his sister-in-law cut her wrist and committed suicide, that I had to deal with the family's relationship cautiously and carefully.
He only knew something through his sister-in-law's family when he was nursing him in medicine. The mother-in-law loves her children very much, does not tolerate the closeness of the son and the daughter-in-law, is kind to the son, and speaks ill of the daughter-in-law, and all the income should be under the control of the mother-in-law, the sons are filial piety, as long as they see the mother unhappy, they will beat the daughter-in-law violently, and eventually lead to the daughter-in-law's mental disorder, and no longer have the ability to take care of themselves. The mother-in-law also squeezed her eyes and wiped her tears and cried that her daughter-in-law tortured and harmed her son.
Afraid that he would also be hurt, he discussed with his husband to leave home and go to a foreign country to develop, and his husband also agreed to go out if he wanted to have a better future. Before leaving, the mother and son hugged and cried, and the mother-in-law told me to take care of her son, and I smiled and agreed.
The new environment is not bad, found a satisfactory job with a fixed income, mortgage bought a house, two people live happily and happily, I thought it would always be so happy.
The arrival of the mother-in-law broke the peaceful atmosphere, she said that she had waist pain, leg pain, body weakness, unwilling to go back to her hometown to suffer, the husband went to the hospital to do a full body examination for the mother-in-law, although no problem was found, but also prescribed some supplementary medicines.
So the mother-in-law naturally lived over, the son at home when the mother-in-law helped to do housework, everything is big and small, after the busyness, let the son feel painful, a strong complaint I do not understand filial piety to the old man; the son is not at home when he is not on business, he does not pay attention, eat and drink, but also hum and chirp uncomfortable.
Who let her be the elder, I endured.
But the next thing is a big surprise, the son came back from a business trip, she herself with a bowl of tears squatted on the balcony to eat, as if I gave her a great deal of anger, at night and he plunged into the bed early and did not speak, his son greeted in his mother's room, staying for more than half the night, during that time I did not know what time my husband returned to the room. He ignored me either. The first cold war between husband and wife, during the time when the mother-in-law came, she and the two of them laughed together and ate together, and they actually didn't exist when I didn't exist.
Later, the father-in-law called the mother-in-law to go back, which eased the relationship between husband and wife.
Giving birth to a child is a major event in life, the mother-in-law is also happy to come to Zhang Luo, the mother-in-law said that her two children, one is working in the field and feels a little uncomfortable in the stomach, born on the way home, called Lu Sheng; one was born next to the bellows when cooking and named Fengsheng. Giving birth is as simple as a hen laying an egg, without going to the hospital.
My husband was also very in favor, saying that what my mother could do, I couldn't be so delicate. Who knew that it was so difficult for me to give birth to a child, and I also saw that the red amniotic fluid was broken and tossed for two days without giving birth, my mother's family was unwilling, and she had to pull it to the hospital, and the doctor said that if I came later, there would be a corpse and two lives.
The mother-in-law cried her bitter fate with her mouth open, and the son found a loser who cost money to give birth to a child. When I was pushed out of the hospital's operating room, their mother and son were still hugging and crying.
Due to the lack of oxygen in the child, I am a planer, I need to be in the hospital for a few days, my husband and mother-in-law go out to eat every day, when I come back, I think of it and give some food, I can't think of it and I am hungry, sometimes watching her mother and daughter comfort each other in the delivery room and care for each other, the heart is not a taste, you can not complain, a complaint is the big hat of filial piety buckled to the head.
I endured, gritted my teeth and didn't say.
Caesarean section hurt the vitality, insufficient milk, the mother-in-law said that she ate the nest head on the pickles as well as the child to raise the talent, after giving birth to the child for three days to work in the field did not fall ill, the husband felt reasonable, so I did not care, let me struggle to use hot water to wash the child's diaper, every word of the mother-in-law Husband is regarded as the truth, the daughter-in-law can not be spoiled, spoiled temper for a lifetime.
I endure, I can do it myself without others.
As soon as the mother-in-law of the full moon came out, she went back, and although it was hard to take the child by herself, it was also calmer without the interference of the mother-in-law. My husband is a person who can listen to good things and listen to bad words. The mother-in-law said that I could not be delicate, and he felt right, and the friend said that the daughter-in-law should hurt him and listened. A few years passed in peace. Although I often hear about some family things, such as the eldest brother and sister-in-law's family has been dilapidated, the sister-in-law is crazy and crazy all day, the eldest brother is tired of running to earn money to support the family, and the nephew is timid and afraid of autism.
Then I was glad that I chose to leave the house, to leave the mother-in-law who was full of calculations and loved her son.
Maybe if the mother-in-law does not come, we can still live such a peaceful life. But the world's affairs can always make you stunned, one day the mother-in-law came to the wind and fire, said that she missed her granddaughter, while teasing the child, while pulling the son over, whispered that the children of the eldest brother let us manage, if you don't care, you will pay money. The husband did not say anything, the mother-in-law said to my child that I was not, crying and wiping tears to accuse me of heinous crimes, the child did not understand things, frightened wow wow crying, saying that the mother is not a bad woman.
At this time, I couldn't bear it. So decided to divorce, I know that only divorce can escape her clutches, I don't want to become a crazy person like a sister-in-law, I want to give my children a healthy living environment.
So I got divorced smoothly, provided I had nothing but children. The mother-in-law said that his son is so handsome, he can still find a yellow flower girl, and he will also have a white and fat child. My husband, no, was supposed to be my ex-husband, who followed his mother and never spoke. I feel like I'm making the right choice right now.
After a long silence, I hugged her and said: You are not nothing, you have the most precious daughter in the world, we have a group of friends, you have your own strength, everything starts again.
I have seen Aya's mother-in-law, she is a shrewd and sharp person, knows how to do things, can speak the tao, and the smart can't be smarter. But why can't the family of two sons be complete? The key is maternal love, narrow maternal love is to take, is possessive, can not share, does not know how to withdraw at the right time, there is no boundary.
Her deep maternal love could not tolerate others sharing her son with her, she thought that her son was her own, protecting her own wing, the appearance of her daughter-in-law shook her position, she must have some action to make her son always feel that his mother is the only one. A mother-in-law war is destined to love can not beat the affection, ma bao male is always the mother's close cotton jacket.
Some families are destined to end in tragedy. An obedient mother-in-law, a strong mother-in-law, and an intolerable little daughter-in-law.
True maternal love is to let go at the right time, real wisdom is rare to be confused, a family should not be preoccupied, and the daughter-in-law is not an invasion. The harmony of a family is respected for the elderly, filial piety for the small, daughter-in-law for the children, and the overall situation for the family, all of which take a step back from the sea and the sky, and all-round maternal love is precisely the greatest harm.