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Recently, a middle-aged and elderly blind date program called "The Edge Is Not Late" suddenly burst out of the circle on the Internet and became the source of happiness for many young people, and the popularity was not lost to "Do Not Disturb", which has been broadcast for 10 years.
Many people wonder why a show, which has neither small flowers and fresh meat, nor sweet cp to lose teeth, has captured the hearts of so many young people. In fact, the answer is very simple, because this show makes people quite "cool".
Why cool?
Because the elderly are blind dated, there is no routine to go straight to the subject, they are frank and straightforward, they will clearly say their needs, dare to boldly talk about money, sex, and love, they do not wronged themselves, dare to love and dare to hate and dare to refuse, they have done a lot of things that young people want but dare not dare to do.
Example 1: There is an aunt who is not satisfied that uncle has not read a book, so she bluntly states: "You are not my dish, I am so frank." Although this expression sounds difficult to accept, but careful consideration, it is originally a mutual consideration and choice, everyone has the right to refuse, and if it is inappropriate, it should be directly rejected without leaving illusions for the other party.
Example 2: There is also an aunt who, as soon as she comes on the scene, issues a soul torture question to the male guest: "Is the pension of 2,000 yuan a month enough to support the other half?" Uncle is not accustomed to it, and bluntly says: "The state does not stipulate that women must rely on men to raise ah!" "Although it is a completely different view of marriage and love, both parties do not hide it, but make people feel extremely comfortable."
Example 3: There is also a domineering president uncle, who caught a crush on an aunt when watching the program, and directly contacted the program team to appear. He himself was in good condition, and his aunt could not fault him, but when she learned that he was not in good health, her aunt said that everything was free to talk about, because she did not accept sexless marriage.
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Through this show, we see the "dare" of the elderly. The interesting stories between them also add a lot of laughter to us, but after laughing, thinking back repeatedly, we will suddenly understand that behind the "dare" of the elderly, in fact, there is more fear of loneliness and death.
Stills from "Daddy 102"
The second half of life is inseparable from the word "loneliness".
In the twilight years, many elderly people are in a lonely situation where their children are not accompanied by old age, they face empty rooms every day, and they can't say a few words a day; they feel the changes in their bodies and organs, they are forced to face their own aging, and they have to constantly fight with the progress of society; they are afraid of illness, afraid of death, afraid of their sudden accidents, no one around to take care of them, and even no one can arrive in time.
Therefore, many elderly people began to actively look for the other half, their figures were active in the blind date corners of various parks in the city, began to appear on the Internet, we saw, and their behavior also became the talk of laughter after our tea and dinner.
But in fact, to put it bluntly, the old man is looking for a wife, but only to have a companion in the second half of his life.
They have no scruples, never turn, and play the "sobriety in the world" to the fullest, which seems to be a release of themselves in their later years, but in fact, they are only to find a person who needs and needs themselves more efficiently and directly through these rules and regulations, and can always accompany them.
Perhaps, they were also afraid of the camera and afraid of being ridiculed, but the long-term loneliness drove them to overcome their fear. They long to be loved and company, and can only put down their faces, let go of fear, and take the initiative to find their other half, just so that their old age is not so desolate.
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Many people may not realize that at present, among the elderly over 60 years old in China, the proportion of widows and widows without a spouse is as high as 25.32%. Most of our attention to this part of the people stays at the level of basic life, and their emotional appeals are often ignored by us.
But the old people just get old, they are still flesh and blood, people with emotions. They have worked hard for half a lifetime, and their old age should have been the best time to enjoy life and feel happiness, but the aging of the body, the busyness of their children, the monotony of life, the public opinion of society and other factors have led to their lack of happiness in the second half of their lives, and they can only spend it in loneliness and desolation.
The part of the elderly we see, they actively embark on the road of blind date, in fact, after breaking all kinds of malice and prejudice, in order to eliminate loneliness and strive for their own happiness and take a big step, but more elderly people, do not have the courage to take this big step.
Therefore, as children, we should understand the loneliness and desire of the elders, attach importance to and identify with the emotional needs of the elderly, eliminate the prejudice against the elderly in finding a mate; do our best to effectively solve the difficulties of the elderly, and help them spend a happy old age in their favorite way.
We all have a day of aging, please give the elderly a little more love.