Most people spend the first half of their lives in a busy way, going to school, working, getting married and having children, during this period, there is almost no time to stop, so many people are looking forward to the arrival of retirement, because after retirement, there is no work, and there is a pension every month, you can do what you want to do, live the life you want to live.
And now, among the middle-aged and elderly, dancing is particularly popular, because dancing can not only strengthen the body, but also a way to decompress, so that the boredom in the heart has a cathartic way.
In our impression, when it comes to dancing in middle-aged and elderly people, we will immediately think of square dance aunts, but in fact, in addition to square dance, middle-aged and elderly people are also keen to dance ballroom dance, in their view, ballroom dance is more elegant and more stylish.
It is said that whether it is square dancing or ballroom dancing, it is nothing, as long as it is happy, but some people are dancing on the surface, but in fact they want to find a partner for themselves through dancing.
So what does the other person do when confronted with the other person's pursuit?
Let's listen to the story of 52-year-old Aunt Liang.
I'm 52 years old and it seems to me that the first half of my life was unhappy, even painful.
At the beginning, I fell in love with a man, the two were very in love, ready to get married, but my parents did not agree, because the man was a single parent, his father died early, his mother pulled him up, and most importantly, he not only had a poor family, but also two younger siblings.
My parents didn't look up to him, so they broke me up with him, and then my parents helped me find an object, that is, my husband behind me.
My husband has money in the family, my parents are also people with heads and faces, and my parents feel that after I married my husband, they also had face in front of others.
But I didn't like my husband, not only because I didn't know anything about him, but also because I didn't have any feelings for him.
But in our time, the fate of my parents was the word of the matchmaker, no matter how I cried and made trouble, I finally had to compromise.
After getting married, I confessed my fate, thinking that since I was already married, it would be useless to make trouble no matter what, so I should live a good life.
With this idea in mind, I began to work hard to manage the marriage, but if the marriage is to be happy, it needs two people to run it together, not the efforts of one person.
Because the husband has good family conditions since childhood, he has developed the personality and problems of the stupid children, and he does not go home at all every day, and follows a group of people to go outside every day to fool around.
And he has a bad temper and always throws a tantrum at me for no reason at home.
My heart was both resentful and bitter about this, and I didn't understand what I had suffered in my previous life, and I had to suffer so much in this life.
I wanted to divorce my husband, but at that time, divorced women would be criticized, and the children were still young at that time, so I had to silently choose to endure.
Later, when the children grew up, the society was more tolerant of divorced women, and I decisively chose to divorce my husband, and after the divorce, I never remarried.
In the first two years, I retired from my position as a teacher, and my life was much more leisurely in an instant, but at the same time it became more boring, because there was nothing to do, and there was no one to talk to every day, and I was very lonely.
So I was thinking of finding something for myself, and just then my sister, who had retired together, came to me and asked me to go dancing in the square with her.
I thought it would be nice to go dancing in the square, anyway, at least to pass the time.
So I followed my sisters to the square to dance square dance, there were many square dancers in the square, and looking at their energetic appearance, my mood was happy.
But after dancing a few times, I found that I didn't like square dancing too much, mainly because I didn't like this kind of square dance, and I always felt that square dance had some rustic feeling.
At this time, I happened to be on the other side of the square to see someone dancing a ballroom dance there, and watching them dance beautifully, I was instantly interested.
I think this kind of ballroom dance is stylish and unconventional, and I like ballroom dance more than square dance.
So I would go to the square every night to dance ballroom dance, because I couldn't dance at first, so I had to ask someone to teach me, and ballroom dancing is usually a team of men and women, so I found a man who looked good and asked him to teach me ballroom dance.
The man's name is Yang Lin, I usually call him Lao Yang, he is 56 years old this year, and he has retired.
Old Yang with a pair of glasses, looks polite and polite, speaking in a moderate voice, let people listen to a very comfortable feeling, in addition, Old Yang is also very polite, to be honest, for such a man, I still have a good feeling.
But it's just a woman's appreciation of a man, not that I like him.
Later, every day I would dance with Lao Yang, and he became my regular dance partner, and slowly, the two became acquainted.
From Lao Yang's mouth, I learned that Lao Yang, like me, was divorced and now lives alone. But to me, it doesn't matter if he's single or not, because I have no intention of being with him.
But I didn't have this plan, but Old Yang did, and as the two matured, his attitude towards me slowly changed, and he would greet me warmly and invite me to dinner from time to time.
But I kept a sense of distance from him, but he didn't understand what I meant and kept showing me kindness.
That day, he invited me to dinner again, and I was going to refuse, but he was very persistent, and there was a feeling of "if you don't agree to eat with me, I will never give up".
No way, I had to promise him.
He chose a very elegant restaurant with expensive things, and I was not the kind of person who liked to let others spend money, so he ordered a western food with a cheaper one on the menu.
I thought he was just inviting me to dinner, but halfway through, he actually took out a ring and solemnly proposed to me.
I was a little surprised and overwhelmed, I didn't expect him to actually propose to me.
But in the end, I rejected his marriage proposal.
It's not that other people are bad, but because I once had a failed marriage, and this failed marriage brought me so much pain that I didn't want to start a relationship again, because over the years, I basically haven't seen a very loving couple, whether married to love or not, marriage is ultimately a chicken feather.
Of course, I don't deny that there are happy marriages, but I don't think I'm going to get them.
And the main thing is that I don't want to be a nanny, I think a woman who enters marriage will become a nanny of a family, have to wash and cook, have to be busy with this and that, the first half of my life, my life is like this, the second half of my life, I don't want to live this kind of life again.
I now have a pension and savings, I feel like a person lives well, no worries, can do whatever you want, very free, why start another marriage?
epilogue
It is very understandable that Aunt Liang's approach is that it is difficult for a person who has been hurt by love and marriage to believe in love and marriage anymore.
And for people of Aunt Liang's age, in fact, there is a pension and a deposit, and found something they like to do, even if a person's life can still be tasteful, not necessarily remarried, if you meet a good man is okay, if you meet a bad man, then will not let yourself fall into pain?