As the saying goes: a good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June.
Between husband and wife, there are often cases of "bad words hurting people", the person who speaks may not have the heart, may be too angry, or may have formed a mantra, but the person who listens is always hurt to the skin.
Even after a long time, thinking of those hurtful words, I am afraid that I will secretly feel sad for a few minutes.
If one party often hangs up on the ugly words, the person who listens may be sad at first, and when they can't stand it, they will sneer at each other, and if two people say a word to me, it is easy to push the marriage to disintegration.
In the cases I have been exposed to, there are many people who are accustomed to "bad words" to their partners, and these bad words have almost become part of their communication with their partners, often hanging on their lips, not finding anything wrong, and they even argue for themselves - I am telling the truth.
As everyone knows, their mouths are not only hurting their partners, but also the lives they have built up so hard.
Between husband and wife, some words hurt more than betrayal, have you said that?
No matter who they marry, over time, women always feel that they have married the wrong person, just like men feel that other people's wives are the most virtuous.
In marriage, women's expectations of men often exceed expectations, they are not white and rich, but they fantasize that their husbands are rich and handsome, not tall or handsome, at least rich.
No matter how bad it is, she can make money, she will make money, she can provide herself with a good material life, and shield her from the wind and rain, instead of pulling her together to resist the wind and rain.
The reality is that no wife can be at ease to be a woman who is provided for, and she needs money to live, and the money earned by men will never catch up with the speed at which the family spends money.
The wife of Wangfu Jackie Chan often can't help but harshly rebuke her husband: How did I marry such a as you? Can you argue? You look at the neighbor on the other side, younger than you, but better than you. Don't you feel blush when other people's wives and children are blessed and your wives and children suffer? ”
Wives who speak evil words sometimes feel that it is harmless to say harsh words, and only in this way can they urge their husbands to progress, which is one of the duties of wives.
All sentient beings, ordinary people no matter how hard they are urged, the rewards they get are also counted. With a dead salary, a salary increase once a year, and each salary increase is mosquito meat, nothing surprising.
The wife does not look at the husband's salary, but does not know how much effort the husband has to pay for this salary, in addition to having a good relationship with the leader, serving customers, maintaining a good relationship with colleagues, but also worrying about unemployment.
The external troubles are serious enough, plus the internal worries - from time to time someone yells in your ear, how can you be so embarrassed. The situation of men is really not good, but any dignified person cannot bear to be "urged" by women day after day. The heart is broken, and the jar is broken.
You suppress him, you blame him, but you forget that you can be united because you are the same kind of person. You're looking for a man who can work with you and you deserve to support each other.
Knowing this, it is better to lower expectations.
He loves you, takes care of the family, and has a good personality, which is enough, whether he has the ability to make money, in addition to looking at the ability, he also has to look at the fate.
Some people say: Middle-aged couples kiss each other, nightmares can do a few nights.
After many couples have children, it is difficult to become intimate again, two people are like roommates, and neither of them will take the initiative to confess their hearts and communicate their feelings.
When quarreling, a word of disagreement will hang on the divorce, at the beginning may be angry words, said more times, the listener has no patience, do not want to come down, and then want to save it is difficult.
One female reader paid a "heavy" price for this.
She didn't know why, after having a child, she always quarreled with her husband, and it was not pleasing to see him anywhere, and when she quarreled, she yelled: "If it weren't for the child, I would have left you a long time ago." ”
Her husband instantly quieted down, and the two ended the quarrel, and that night the man apologized, reflected on his many debts to her, and said that he cherished their marriage.
The female reader seems to have found the magic weapon to "pinch" men, she feels that her husband cares a lot about herself and her family, no matter what contradictions she encounters, as long as she says divorce, her husband will have to stop the flag.
"Divorce" gradually became her mantra.
With the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she shouted at her mother-in-law in front of her husband: "Do you think your son is a fragrant food?" If it weren't for the children, I would have left him long ago"; there is a contradiction between husband and wife, whether right or wrong, she always wants to be a winner, but let the man choose to tolerate it.
And that time, when she blurted out her divorce again, the man replied with a good word and slammed the door and left.
The result was divorce, because her conditions were inferior to those of her ex-husband, and the children followed her ex-husband.
Between husband and wife, no matter how much they quarrel, they must not easily say the word "divorce".
The first time the other party hears you say that the divorce may be very sad, the number of times, the heart is broken and do not want to save it.
Unless you have already thought about it, this kind of day you have not thought about a day, not divorced is suffering, otherwise, or do not say it easily, to learn to leave some room for marriage.
Between husband and wife, the most taboo is to say bad things about each other's parents when quarrelling.
Husband and wife are husband and wife, parents are parents, just like the parents of the little two quarrels are best not mixed, and there should also be a clear principle between husband and wife - no matter how fierce the quarrel, the parents are the bottom line and cannot be touched.
In real life, some couples have a hard time doing this.
"You are almost like your parents, your personality is not good, your living habits are not good, and your whole body is full of shortcomings", the person who says this may be in anger, but the cultured person will not lose his mind no matter how angry he is.
No matter how bad the parents are, the children can say that if others talk about it, they are punching them in the face. He feels that if you don't talk about his parents easily, you respect him, and on the contrary, you despise him.
Everyone has parents, think about it, if your partner goes from counting you to counting down your parents when arguing, what is your heart?
Even if the quarrel is over and you are reconciled, the "involvement" of your partner to your parents will probably become a thorn in your heart. This thorn can easily become the fuse of your future contradictions.
When couples quarrel, there is a problem to solve the problem, do not quarrel in order to vent emotions, which is not good for the intimate relationship.
Smart people know how to talk about things when they quarrel, they will not burn their anger elsewhere, and they can respect and treat each other's parents with respect and kindness no matter what the relationship with their partners is.
Between husband and wife, the three sentences that hurt feelings the most, don't say it if you want to live a good life.
Good feelings need to be managed, and there is tolerance, patience and kindness in the way of management. Don't dig a pit for yourself, don't say hurt others and hurt yourself, keep your mouth shut, in order to keep your happiness.
Today's Topic:
The most hurtful few words between husband and wife, have you ever said?
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