In real life, it is often seen that the two sides argue fiercely, sword-fighting, and stalemate, at this time, a humorous joke can often dissolve the anger of the other party and turn the dry into a jade.
At a lecture, when one of the legislators came on stage to give a speech, the other parliamentarian felt that the other party had taken up too much time, and then he approached the other party and whispered, "Sir, you are taking too long, this is impolite, can you hurry up..." Before he could finish speaking, the congressman said to him in a very serious tone: "Rude fellow, you had better get out quickly." Another member of parliament was very angry and continued his speech on his own.
Another parliamentarian felt insulted, he was furious, eager to teach and punish those who insulted him, but he did not think of a good way. So, like a little kid, he went to the chairman to complain, and the congressman was the chairman of the provincial legislature, Coolidge (who later became the president of the United States).
The congressman complained in front of Coolidge about his grievances and begged Coolidge to give him the decision: "Mr. Coolidge, you have just heard how that rude guy insulted me, my self-esteem has been seriously hurt, and you must uphold justice for me."
Coolidge said humorously: "Yes, I have just looked through the relevant legal provisions, and you don't have to go out under the circumstances at that time." You look lovely!"
When the congressman heard this, he laughed hesitantly, and the anger in his heart disappeared. He also felt that he had acted somewhat inappropriately, and a few days later he apologized to another lawmaker, and
Got forgiveness from the other person.
Coolidge's answer, apparently humorous and witty, not only enabled the congressman to eliminate anger and avoid meaningless quarrels.
Anger also made the congressman realize his own mistake and resolved the contradiction between the two parliamentarians.
It can be seen that smart people often do not let themselves fall into the vortex of other people's quarrels. They can use humorous language to break the deadlock and defuse the anger of others. Thus the two sides of the quarrel turned into a jade warrior. Look again at this example.
In one mall, a female customer angrily said to the salesman, "Fortunately, I didn't expect to find quality service here, nor did I intend to find politeness in you, because you are not a qualified salesman at all."
The salesman shot back: "Without your picky customers, don't waste my time if you don't want to buy."
At this time, an old man came over, and after understanding what had happened, he humorously said to the salesman: "Miss, is there a 'quarrel' sold here?" The salesman laughed when he heard it. The female customer said to the boss, "I'm sorry to bother you." Said goodbye and turned away.
People live in this society, always have to deal with others, and it is normal to have some friction and contradictions. But no matter what, don't go head-for-tat. If you are not careful, you will make the atmosphere very tense, and turn small things into big things. If you can add more humor to your words, you can reconcile the atmosphere of the conversation, resolve quarrels, and dissolve each other's anger.